I'm 24, with a college degree, & my brother is 10 yrs. older than me with high school education, & he DEMANDS an answer for my personal business just to use it against me & tell my mom so she can boradcast my personal business to the WHOLE world. & he's always telling people what they NEED to do, & how to live their lives. He needs to straighten up his OWN life before telling someone what THEY need to do.
If you ride in the car with him, he angrily honks his horn @ people & yells @ them & calls them stupid for no reason. But he stops @ corners when there are no stop lights & no stop signs, & he honks his horn @ people in front of him when the light is red. He has everything backwards. & he speeds. But he always wants to try to tell other people how they should drive. & he never turns on his signals when turning, & he always goes the LONG way to get some place. & he always has his hand held out for gas $$ & cigarettes, but he buys @ least 3 CD's with every pay check he gets. But he went OFF on me b/c I bought a $15 rice cooker, since I have trouble cooking rice on the stove.
Now, when I had MY "brand new" car, the 1st thing he said was ,"Let ME drive!" & then, he always rubs it in my face about driving, trying to tease me, saying "I hope you get back into the spirit of driving." & he thinks he's too cute & too good to take the bus. As I said, he is SO fixated with being IN CONTROL & driving. & he knocked me out of the wheel of my BRAND new car 3 yrs. ago, just so he can be IN CONTROL. Now, his car is about 6 yrs. old, beat up, & smells pissy (my schizophrenic mom pisses on everyone's property all the time). But anyway, even if I PAY him to allow me to drive, he takes my $$ & then makes an excuse, lying & saying that the car is broke. But yet, he drives it EVERYWHERE. I don't need to be jealous of him with driving b/c he's not a good driver, anyway. They're jealous of my education level, so they want to try to look for an excuse to falsely accuse me of being jealous of them. He had a warrant out for his arrest for outstanding speeding tickets & missing court, on purpose, to hang out with his other g*y friends. (He's g*y, too.)
That was just a general idea of his character. But SPECIFICALLY today, I was talking, & he just straight told me to shut up for NO reason for something I wasn't even talking to him about. & I waited until we got in the car to ask him why he told me to shut up. & he got mad, saying that I was thinking too hard & blowing the situation out of proportion. No, HE blew it out of proportion. Because as I said, I wasn't talking to him. I didn't mention anything about him, but he tried to say I embarrassed him & made a fool out of him by telling a church friend of the family @ the place where he was getting his hair cut at, that I have a college degree. I was talking about MYSELF, so how did I make an @$$ out of him? & he was talking to the man. Did he expect me to be quiet for 2 hrs.?
How do I deal with this? I'm BURNT up angry & tired of him treating strangers nice & worshipping celebrities, but I'm his own flesh & blood sister, & he told me TO MY FACE that he hates me so much that he wishes I was never born.
***Sorry so long. & also other people try to control me, too. So that's why I'm putting this in the "Etiquette" section. I need to know how to deal with controlling people, in general.
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