How do you deal with different parenting styles?

Question

How do you and your spouse deal with different parenting styles when raising your children?? Do you ever get in arguments about how the other should parent?

Answer 1

compromise

Answer 2

all the time , think most couple do, drives u mad dun it,

Answer 3

If you one you is the step-parent, that person must defer to the biological parent and in general not do any disciplining.  My ex and I had our differences but not really over our kids.  If you are compatible before you get married then you should have similar outlooks on how to raise children.  We loved our kids, gave them plenty of attention, expected the best from them, and saw them as good.  Guess what?  It worked out great!  There was little or no "disciplining" needed.  No spanking, hitting, teasing, humiliating, withholding.  Treat your kids like you want to be treated and they'll live up to your expectations.  BE loving and so will they.  SHARE and so will they.  DON'T HIT and they won't either.  What's to disagree about?  Model the kind of relationship that teaches kids kindness, consideration, and love.  

If you must discipline, read about natural consequences as a form of discipline.  It's the best for teaching children I think.  Here is an example, you give a kid $10 to spend at the faire, he spends it all in ten minutes.  Consequence?  He's out of money.  He can just walk around now and enjoy himself that way.  Of course, you have to make it clear in advance that that's all you are going to give him.

Children come into this world basically GOOD.  I don't care what anyone else says, I know in my heart that that is the truth.  It's the adults that s***w them up.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

Yes, but never in front of the children.  We sit and negotiate, and never undermine each other.  We agreed that when we disagree, it will be away from the kids and if one of us ends up revising punishment, both will explain it to the kids, and the reasons why.  

No matter what you decide, if you decide to stick together and be consistent, you can make it work.   The worst thing you can do to your kids is be inconsistent or let them play one parent against the other.

Make a pact to consult each other on important decisions, and to NEVER let inlaws interfere.  

Answer 5

i don't i only deal with my own!

Answer 6

You have to come to an agreement on how things should be done. You may not be completely happy with every choice he makes and he may not be happy with yours but you are in this together so you have to figure it out.

Answer 7

There are always different styles. And you get to argue about it. But, in the end, if you don't agree on the goals and rules, you're just jerking the kid around. Ask your mother.  

Answer 8

Well we disagree a lot.  He's more strict than I am.  What it comes down to is who is with the children more, at least for us.  Since I am a stay at home mother, my parenting style is the dominant one.  If he wants to be strict when he's taking care of them, that's fine.