How do you deal with family drama?

Question

Ok, so I have a husband and we are thinking about getting divorced. We have a 14 year old son and a 10, 5, and 3month year old girls. We think that we should switch off every day or so or give him the son and me the girls but, I want my only son and he wants a daddy's lil girl. I also am in a bad relationship with my mom. My ex is a bad influence though he drinks and has 5 tatoos, I do not know what to do, I mean they're his kids too. For more info vistit the question How do you deal with family drama 2.

Answer 1

Cut the bad family out. They will only hurt you, I know. Go with your heart, stay with your husband. I have been there and know. they all tried to break us up 10 years ago. It's up to you to keep it going.

Answer 2

DO NOT SWITCH OFF EVERY DAY.

Im a divorce kid, and trust me, your children wont miss you that much,  it gets really annoying to switch houses once a week let alone once a day.

What if you had the kids go back and forth each week

hope i helped!

Answer 3

switching off everyday would be annoying for the kids unless you guys are gonna live right down the street from eachother. i say if you both want the kids switch every week if you dont live that far apart or just work out your problems

Answer 4

what does tattoos have to do with anything? does that automatically make someone bad? anyway, just let him have the girls and you can have your son, then switch every other weekend.

Answer 5

Well first off unless things are that bad I would first recommend that the two of you stay together because you have so many kids together and also, because I don't think that people should just give up on marriages. have the two of you tried counseling? explore every option of making it work before you call it quits for good.

now about the kids, if it just comes down to divorce and there is no other option, i think that you guys should keep it civil, that means no fighting or talking bad about the other parent in front of the kids, so even if you feel he drinks too much, or his tattoos are bad, don't make the judgment in front t of the kids, because even if you two don't work out he is still their father, and they have to make their own judgment about him as a man and a father, just like they have to do the same for you as a mother. If you guys can be civil, and switch off every weekend, but still allow the other to come over through out the week and visit, that way they kids don't have to deal with not seeing the other parent. try to make the transition from a two parent household as easy as possible, again, don't talk bad about each other and don't fight in front of the kids, you don't want to make them feel as though they are caught in the middle and has to choose between their parents. And please dont split the kids up because they dont have any issues with each other, they shouldnt have to be apart just because their parents cant work it out. keep the children together, and if you can try to keep your marriage together good luck