How do you deal with life's problems?

Question

Here's a resume of my life at the moment..... sigh....

The bad stuff:

*I'm broke

*I owe over 15k in credit cards

*I hate my job (it gets harder every day to go to work)

*I'm 22 male and have never gotten laid

*I'm fat

*I'm stressed out

*I'm very unhappy (obviously)

*I smoke and can't quit

The good stuff:

*I'm healthy (as far as I'm concerned)

*I have a beautiful family that loves me

*I'm broke but I sill sleep in a warm bed every day

*I'm very smart (at least I think I am)

*I love myself even though I'm going trhough all this s**t

*I don't do drugs and rarely drink alcohol

So, I hate my job but i cant quit because i won't find a job that pays as well as this one without a college degree (I only have an associate's degree), and less money would mean more debt. I can't get laid because I'm extremely shy and well, I'm willing to work that out but I can't even afford a cup of coffee. I tried to stop smoking for the 154328947th time....failed again. I'm super stressed out and just can't deal with it, with all the stress all i do is eat, so forget about loosing weight.......... I don't know, I know there many people out there that wish they could have my life, but that still doesn't make all the bad stuff happening to me dissappear......

To conclude.... I'm extremely depressed, I'm going throughj something that I'm sure many people go through in their lives... I would appreciate suggestions from adults who have had similar experiences or who know someone who did.

Thank you.

Answer 1

hey! stop looking at everything negative, you do have a lot going for you.  Look around and see that there are others much worse off. Sometimes watching a sad movies helps me. Count on your family and let them count on you that's what family is all about. keeping searching for the better job make sure it is what you will enjoy doing. Think about going back to school nights ask about financial aid for school. Just a bunch of thoughts. Good luck in all you do!

Answer 2

I understand what you are going through. I myself have been through some of what you have experienced. Like the stress and eating and now i have gained weight because of it. i have panic attacks and sometimes feel like i dont want to get out of bed in the mornings. dont get me wrong i have my good days and bad days. but when i have my bad days i dont want to be around anyone or deal with anyone. i want to be by myself and cry. i think you should talk to someone. maybe a psychologist or a good friend who will listen to you. or maybe your parents and tell them whats going on in your life. try that and see if some of what you are going through will start to disappear. i wish you luck and sorry i couldnt be of more help. but i do understand. i know what you are going through.

Answer 3

Wow you need to go to vegas! lol or just take a day off and have a relaxing day.  Im sorry your unhappy :(

Answer 4

i think you need to deal with one problem at a time. The most important being the credit card problem. Get a debt counsellor to talk to your creditors about writing off some of your debt and mangaging the rest better. Also thinking about why you spend so much.

If you deal with that then you should feel less stressed in other areas of your life.

You can then deal with the smoking, but don't be too hard on yourself. At least you don't do drugs or much alcohol so that is positive.

After that you could try to eat healthier.

Small steps mean you are more likely to be successful and lead to greater confidence. Good luck

Answer 5

You are having a problem that so many others are having as well. You are not alone. I know you've heard that a thousand times, but it is true.

YOU, are the master of your destiny. Decide to do what you do for yourself. to feel better, to look better. When you feel better makes you look at things differently. When you look better changes the way people look at you. Then that will drop some of your stress off of you.

You do however need some inspiration and support. You sound like a very interesting person worthy of friends and a happy life. Also, you are the kind of person you should let others to be worthy of you. You have a quality that others should get to know. First, join a support group to stop smoking and then change your eating habits. Keep trying, I'm at that point of my life, it won't happen over night. I am a good cook and that makes it difficult for me, but I am learning. Every time I drop a few pounds I feel better, breath better, look better.

Get around people who will encourage you, like yourself. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

Hey Mike Do You Know Christ?He Has All the answers you just have to give yourself to And accept him and ask for his Help.Find a Chucrh in your area and go talk with a Minister and they'll Be able to guide you from there.Life Is not easy for anyone so don' feel like your alone.

Answer 7

try to stop smoking again.try to go to a park in the morning.try to like your job.i really dont think that helped but its the best i answered

Answer 8

you really look at life the wrong way.

wake up on the other side of the bed some morning and try and make a plan for yourself.

keep convicing ourself not to smaoke or tke lollypops everytime you need to smoke and imagine their cigerettes.

and just relax.

you only have one life.

see the advantages.  

Answer 9

As you apply the Bible’s advice to show love—including the ‘golden rule’ of doing to others as you would like them to do to you—people will like you more. (Luke 6:31) That has proved true on the job, at school, in the community. Oh, there may be some friction, but certainly less. It is easy to see that, as a result, you will face less stress.

Dr. Selye said:

“The two great emotions that cause the absence or presence of stress are love and hate. The Bible makes this point over and over again. The message is that if we don’t somehow modify our built-in selfishness, we arouse fear and hostility in other people. . . . The more we can persuade people to love us rather than hate us, the safer we are, and the less stress we have to endure.”

loneliness often leads to depression and loss of self-respect. Cultivating a good relationship with one’s Creator can help to restore such a person. He can develop a greater sense of worth, appreciating that God is interested in him, which can lead to a more positive view of life. (Matthew 18:10) Furthermore, the Bible outlines for Christians a way of life that can help to relieve loneliness.

Lonely persons are often told to “keep busy.” This has some value. But the Bible offers more realistic and practical advice. It urges Christians to be active in doing good for others, which also produces happiness.

Lonely persons are often told to “keep busy.” This has some value. But the Bible offers more realistic and practical advice. It urges Christians to be active in doing good for others, which also produces happiness.

Answer 10

Go buy a beer and get over it (:

Answer 11

I think God sometimes uses adverse life experiences to break our pride and overconfidence in ourselves. Have you considered the Alpha Course at a local Church?????

Answer 12

Don't be so hard on yourself!!

Your family loves you, think about them instead of yourself.

Start living your life for the people you care about the most, if you feel like you can't do it for yourself.

When you save up some money, go out one night.  Do you like trivia?  Lots of bars and restaurants have that. Make small talk on cigarette breaks.

What do you do with your free time?  I get a feeling your a gamer.

Check out www.soulgeek.com

Good luck, and don't ever give up.

Answer 13

Find another job (u said u were smart)

Watch what u eat and exercise (don't eat late)

Visit the doctor to help u quit smoking

Get some credit counseling

Relax and know ur not alone out there, many suffer ur same pain.

When u achieve the above I've listed, the getting laid should fall right into place.  Peace

Answer 14

I know this sounds like a simple answer but it is hard to do. I put everything in ods hand and have the faith to say if this is were you want me now I know something better is coming. I have found since doing this I no longer need my bipolar meds and I am a much happier person. I also have seen some light at the end of all the stuff I was going thru.