How do you deal with mom burnout? What has helped/worked for you?

Question

How often to you need to hit that reset button.

I have two children (ages 6 and 8) and another 36 year old child I married. The signs are there that I've reached a breaking point because I'm just ignoring everyone and being selfish. I NEVER do that, but for the past week or so I've been running on empty.

What are some things you do when you've reached this point?

Thanks all.

Answer 1

An afternoon of shopping will make you feel like a new woman :) Just tell your hubby that you'll be back when you get back and take some time for yourself. It makes me feel better every time.  

Answer 2

You just need to take a weekend off and go to a hotel somewhere downtown in the city where you live and have some private time to yourself.  Let your 36 old child take care of the 6 and 8 year old.  I would recommend a Marriott full service hotel.  Good luck and have fun.  Seems like you need something like that.  Go swimming, order room service and let your 36 year pay for it!

Answer 3

LOL...I absolutely know what you are talking about when you said the "36 year old child".  You need to talk to your husband and tell him you need his help with the kids/house, etc.  I have to assume you are doing it all...no wonder you are burnt out.  I think you should get your spouse to stay home one night with the kids and just go out with some girlfriends and have a good time.  You need to get out of the house and not be "mom" for a few hours.

Answer 4

You have to make  " you time " when the children are in bed take a book or a glass of wine {or both} and go for a long soak in the tub this is your time no disturbances,time to relax. when they are in school give yourself 1 afternoon when you do something for yourself go for a swim with a friend or by yourself, maybe a walk,or read a book.

Answer 5

Yes...I have gotten to that point.It's the end of summer and you have just had enough.Oh yes..

Do something for yourself to recharge.Let the big baby take them out for awhile and pamper yourself.I got to do just that today with my oldest,my 13 year old daughter,who also needed a break from 3 hyper boys.lol

I feel tons better than yesterday.

Answer 6

You need to tell your husband that you need some time to yourself too and that if he can watch the kids while you go out to the gym or what ever you like doing, that it will be for just a few hours. There is nothing wrong with pampering yourself even if you just want to take a nice warm bath listening to some music with no distractions. Or, do what I do sometimes, go for a long walk and enjoy the outdoors. Plus, it will help the kids with spending some quality time with their dad. Or, tell your husband to take the kids out for a walk while you take a nap. If you have a bike, take a bike ride alone and then during the week or weekend, go for a bike ride, or a walk with the family.

You and your husband do need some time alone too. If you can get someone to watch your kids for a few hours, you and your husband can go out on a date. You should at least do that twice or maybe once a week. When was the last time you two did that?

You just need something to do that interests you. Find a hobby that you enjoy. I enjoy gardening and photography. What are you interests?

What also helps me is a good neck and shoulder massage by my husband. You never know where that may lead. Get the hint?