How do you deal with people who are less intelligent than you, don't "get" things, annoy you and are ignorant?

Question

Look, seriously, there are people out there that ARE less intellingent, ignorant, don't "get" things, and to me that just annoys me, when I have to explain simple things to people over and over and over again and they just go duhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Without losing my cool, and without getting arrogant about it, I mean hey, we're all different, and those people are allowed to be that way,..but I mean...how do you handle yourself and be at peace, when you are around people like that and have to have converastions with them and explain yourself to them,

and when you KNOW it flies over their head, and you feel like you're talking to a brick wall?

Well guess what?

MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER is like that!!!!

I can't go throughout one DAY of either rolling my eyes or questioning why I'm with them.

Generally, how do you keep yourself from getting frustrated?

IT's frustrating.

It's like even simple things, I want to talk about the pretentiousness/snootiness of certain co-workers, mall-employees, how to counter it, how to deal with it, social problems,.....

and instead of getting indepth conversations, opinions and insight from my significant other I get.....

"...well...um...I never had any experience like that......."

ANd I think okay,..cool, great, but....that's so simple that's not really helping me answer anything or deal with anything....and I look for more insight, and still all I get is a regurgitated "uhhh...umnnnn......maybe theyre having a bad day!?!?"

LOL. No offense but that's not exactly a textbook answer.

I like things to be elaborate, thorough and deep. That's just my personality,

and I think I'm living with someone who is just "derrrr.dummmm, la did da," and it gets on my nerves.

How do I deal with this?

Answer 1

I can't stand them either.

My grandpa is like that. One day, he asked me if in school at the beginning of the day we say "Our Father". I told him no, because some kids aren't Christian. He said "No matter who their god is they should be saying the "Our Father" prayer. All their gods will burn in h**l, god is the ultimate god! "

He just doesn't get it, I don't even bring up the subject anymore. I don't agree with him, but you just have to be patient, and understand. Because they'll never understand.

Answer 2

I have above average intelligence and my wife is a bit of a bimbo herself, but I didn't marry her for her intelligence; she has many other positive attributes that attracted me to her. Anyway, this person attracted your fancy somehow...try engaging her/him on that level, rather than attempting to plumb depths that obviously aren't there. I'm an INTP with some of the same characteristics you used to describe yourself, and I enjoy mining everything to its smallest common denominator, even when its not necessary, i.e. people are pretentious/snooty but psychoanalyzing them won't fix the problem. How you respond to people and situations is much more critical than why. Making those less intelligent than you feel inferior is the greatest and most unforgivable pretentiousness there is. I learned the hard way.

Answer 3

Stop thinking like yourself, and start thinking like an idiot. Watch some idiot people movies, or movies that have no intelligence factor to it, and is a movie that was created for the sole purpose to entertain the simple minded. Don't ask me any of those movies because I don't want to offend anyone with my answer... just follow your significant other's lead.

Answer 4

Try to be patient and explain things in a way they can understand them.

Answer 5

Wow, I would go mad, I'm thankful my husband is smart and can carry on a decent conversation, along with sitting and solving problems together.

I can't hang with people like that, all fluff and no brain, drives me mental, and I'm not just saying this, as you know from other answers on dealing with people who have no depth what-so-ever.

Unless a person has a mental disability, we can understand that and we're to have compassion for them, but when someone is downright lazy, and they are perfectly capable of using the brain they were given,  I can't be bothered.



When they give, short, simpleton answers, as you pointed out, I can't even imagine it, I'm sorry, this one truly has me stumped. I can't picture you with anyone that thick, especially since it's bothering you enough to come in here and ask for help.

Any answer, no matter how small/trivial a question is, should at least have some effort put into it.  

I would ask yourself some serious questions: How much do you love your significant other? Can you handle this much longer? Why on earth am I with someone who is not my equal?

Wow again.................

Answer 6

You have to accept that they are different, and start to realize you have a responsibility to communicate with someone in means that they understand.  Yes, it's frustrating, but the benefit is worth it, you no longer look down on people once you find that common ground and just start communicating.  On the other hand, it's vital that you keep friends around that you can speak to naturally.  

Answer 7

I am exactly the same way, I can't really stand when people are ignorant. When I have a conversation with them I feel like pulling my hair out! Usually I just grin and bear it though... I mean you can't make them any smarter without telling them how annoying they are.

Answer 8

I know how you feel, especially me being in school and me being a rather intelligent person. bahaha

I have to explain things out to a lot of people sometimes, but I understand that all people aren't as capable as others when it comes to academics.

But yes, it can get rather hectic.

hahaha

Answer 9

        just ignore them and accept that they dont think like you