How do you deal with people who ask rude questions about your labor and delivery?

Question

I just had my baby girl 7 days ago and I have been getting a lott of questions from people that are in my opinion rude or really personal like "did you have her naturally?" Or "Did you tear?" Do people really care that much????!!! Does anyone have any good advise on what to say to answer the question without being rude and telling them it's none of there business. Thank for the help : )

Answer 1

Those questions don't bother me at all, but since they do bother you, just tell people you had a safe delivery and a healthy baby, but you would rather keep all of the details between you and your husband.

Answer 2

those are normal questions, so i dont see why your mad, people just want to know did you have a c-section or natural, how bad is it to answer that, and did you tear, they just wanna know if your a loose goose now or if you tore and they sewed you up tight

plain and simple

Answer 3

You could just smile and walk away.

Or just tell them it's personal.

Answer 4

Some people love discussing these processes thinking that it is only natural, but if you don't want to share details, you could say something neutral that would send the message you want to send them.  Something like, I'm ok, thank you, but with a very big smile.

Answer 5

just tell sorry its personnal  

Answer 6

i don't think those questions are rude but if  you don't like them than just say it is an experience that i don't want to talk about and laugh!

Answer 7

Just tell them its personal, granted people ask becuase they like to tell their own stories and look at it as being rude if they dont ask about yours.  

Answer 8

Tell them you're glad they are so very concerned with your vaginal health. And MAN have you got a yeast infection story!!!   Haha. Maybe that will deter them.

Answer 9

they probably dont mean to be rude but you can just tell them thats you're personal information and you dont feel like answering that

Answer 10

Just say "everything went well, a normal birth, thank you for asking"!

Congratulations on your daughter's birth!

Answer 11

just do as I did and tell them you had a safe delivery and your baby if fine

Answer 12

i dont think that they are being rude lol gosh they are just wondering how it went for you ppl asked me all the time my son is 4 months now but i was happy they seem to care!!!

Answer 13

How are those questions rude??

Tell them it's none of their business if you really don't want to talk about it.

Answer 14

Rude people, unfortunately, are everywhere. My wife was very thin, 5'7" and weighed 110 lbs. Women would walk up to her and ask her is she was anorexic. She would respond with "No, I'm just NOT fat." That would usually cut their water off.

As for your situation just answer with, "Everything went as normal as possible, any other questions? see my doctor." and just smile.

How and what happened in the delivery room is your business and it's up to you if you wish to share it and with whom.

Congratulations on the birth of your baby and Good Luck to you.

Answer 15

Just politely say "I'd rather not go into detail."  I think that most people don't mean to pry, but in general women like to talk about it.  If they have had children they like to share stories and if they haven't they just want to know what to expect.

Answer 16

I really feel you on this because I'm 11wks. and I am already getting picked on but I know it's not being negative, but will all pregnant people we take things offensively. I just tell them when they ask me crazy questions like are you sick(and for the record I haven't had no morning sickness) I just give them a look like don't ask me no dumb questions if it's not positive I don't want to hear it, so far no one has been attacking me with that. So I say to you just ignore! I have a way to go so I am holding my composer. LOL! Have a bless day and congrats on your new baby girl...

Answer 17

i think your are being a little sensitive. people (especially other mothers) like to hear birth stories. if you don't like it, say your not comfortable answering, in my opinion you would sound ridiculous, but to each their own

Answer 18

Those kind of questions are probably more annoying than rude.  I know what you're talking about, from giving birth to my previous baby.  I suppose women just want to relate.  Just tell them "Let's just say, my baby girl made into this world healthy, that's all that matters."

Answer 19

haha!

Yes, people DO care when it comes to BABES!!!!

BE THANKFUL!!!!

YOU ARE SO BLESSED to have someone in your life that cares

DO you realize that every single day, some women give birth , go through all that pain, and its PAIN!!!   and no one gives a d**n.  no one says,  are you ok honey/?

How are you feeling/ would you like a glass of water?

HELLO!!!!!!??????

count your blessings, Darling!!!

I buried a beautiful baby girl and my husband didnt even bother to come to her FUNERAL.    

BE GLAD that even a stranger CARES!!!

Answer 20

whats to be so uptight about lol...so other women ask you natural questions about your delievery..thats so totally normal

are you frigid? ashamed of your body? grew up amish?  Im just curious..coz most people dont see these questions as rude.

personally..I tore like h**l..took them 90 minutes to stitch me up..lmao..I deserve a badge of courage :P

Answer 21

So you dont sound rude, say somethng to the effect of

"It was a perfectly normal birth."