How do you deal with "difficult people"? Pls read.?

Question

How do you deal with unreasonable, unhindged, or possibly unmedicated people in situations where you can't get rid of them or get them immediately dismissed and you are basically forced to work with them?

For example, an office environment where your boss is a jerk. Or if you're a boss, one of your subordinates are whiny and difficult. Or if your parent has dementia and is mean, but you can't turn them over to a care giver. Or your a teenager who's dealing with a parent who's overly strick.

Do you stand up and fight? Confront? Attempt to deal diplomatically? Take the high road and forgive? Allow them to have their way until you can get out of the situation?

List your approximate age and occupation, please.

And be honest. I know that many people say they would fight, but in reality, they just sit there and take it. Please evaluate honestly. Thank you.

Answer 1

Options:

o A soft answer turns away wrath. Harsh words stir up anger.

o The beginning of strife is like letting out water; once it starts, it's hard to shut it off. Walk away for awhile from complainers, if you can. Only a fool keeps talking alone.

o Change the subject or distract the difficult person's conversation.

o If your enemy is hungry, feed him/her, i.e, give them more than what they want until they're sick of it. In other words, do good to them.

o Recognize that difficult people have unresolved issues, and may not either want to or know how to settle them, so they make others unhappy. But remember that they'll reap the trouble they've started.

o Reverence (respect) God and stay away from evil when dealing with these people; this will make you healthy and feel strong.

o A good relationship (NOT religion!) with God through Jesus Christ is important. He enables you to watch and pray effectively, so you can avoid the temptation and resist evil, to do or say the wrong thing. He provides a way of escape from temptation to those who live for Him. God will also bless these people who ENDURE with a glorious life.

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I'm 48 years old, and work as Independent Administrator for a scientific company.

Answer 2

I'm an early teenager and I usually stand up and fight.

Answer 3

I sometimes hate my parents for being so strict. But Im a rebel at heart so I fight for what I want.

Answer 4

"Handle them" by making them feel important by how you speak to them. Listen to their rants and give them credit for their knowledge when you can, but assert yourself at the same time. In so doing, you are not "kissing butt", you are managing the person.  Always address them by their name. There is one word the human mind loves to hear and that is a person's own name. Never say "good morning", always say "good morning Joe".  Joe loves to hear his name.  After a while Joe doesn't even realize that he likes to hear you talk and he becomes more cooperative with what you want.

Spend a few dollars on Dale Carnegie's book "How to Win Friends and Influence People".  It teaches you how to "manage" people that way.

http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-In...

I am a paralegal in my 40s and I deal with difficult people often, usually professionals.

Answer 5

life is too short what i do  tell them too feck off!