How do you deal with someone who's angry all the time?

Question

My aunt has become very difficult to be around. No one dares disagree with her because she'll just explode at them and say some of the nastiest things. Sometimes she does this even when people agree with her. She's always been naturally contrary, but it's gotten so bad that very few people want to visit her anymore.

Answer 1

you don't you just let her alone and stay away -- she will  straight in up or not but at least you will not be unhappy!!!  she has to be one of those folks when her feet hit the floor the devil says "dammit shes up"

Answer 2

You make your own happiness and see that the needs of the elderly are met - but as for keeping company with anger - there's really no point in it . The angry one becomes more agitated , and it wears you down . Avoid it .

Answer 3

I am sure it is hard to stay away, but I try that with family.  If they are upset, makes me upset.  good luck.

Answer 4

Somebody probably should have took the wind of her sail thirty years ago..you all have created a monster ..now she's helpless and she's ticked off..you all made your geriatric play pen now you have to live in it..heh heh.

Answer 5

Just stay away from them.  

Answer 6

Hold on ... I'll get my wife to answer this based on how she deals with me !

Answer 7

menopause  

Answer 8

Just give her some space. She's old... there's not much time left and she knows it.  

Answer 9

I avoid them. Family or not, you don't have to expose yourself to it. My sister is like that and she alienated the whole family. It's her loss.

Answer 10

well honestly most people who are like that are either depress or very sensitive people you just have to keep that in mind while having conversations with her. and be very patient also you mention that she's in her 80's lost of people around that age tend to be very cranky and upset all the time how to deal with that ,again be very understandable and patient but don't stop talking to her because of that she's still your aunt.when she's mad let it go don't let it bother you and keep quiet eventually she will stop because there is no one to argue with or you can just try to change the subject it does work sometimes an other thing that might work is insted of giving your own opinion on things when she askes you you can simply say i don't know and when she gives her opinion simply asnwer back with a oh okay type of thing so like that your not agreing with her nor disagreing  well hope that helps