How do you deal with the waiting part?

Question

I was wondering how you deal with the waiting for the right birth mom to pick you.. What are the things that you can do to get your profile out there? What can help you to deal? I'm new at this and I'm already going crazy I guess... Thanks

Answer 1

if you're talking about adoption, my friend went through that....she was tossed from foster home to foster home and she even lived a few years in "permanent' homes for adopted children. She has family out there that she didn't know existed and once they found out about her, they immediatly adopted her..although the whole process took six or seven years she lived with them the whole time. Try to see if you have any family that doesn't know your situation :-) good luck :-)

Answer 2

It seems like forever but trust me, it will happen when it's supposed to happen. Just make sure you get the word out. My husband and I met with several adoption attorney's to get our profile out there. It just depends on what the birth mother is looking for. Good luck

Answer 3

Personally I have no idea but I will say that patience is a vurtue. When waiting good things can happen. Hang in there and everything will end up just the way you thought it would.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

Are you referring to adoption? I'm not sure I understand your question.

Answer 5

We were unpatient. Inspite of paying a lot of money, being interviewed many times and attended so many classes, we decided it's not worth it. The system is so &*^%$#*&(!  We were so like offended - especially after hearing that this actress got 4 adopted kids, but then her life is so messed up - and here we are highly respectable and educated people, we have to wait for 2 to 4 years depending how lucky we were.

We were just trying to help and they make it so hard to help others in a way.

Answer 6

Do  not try to put  it out of your mind.  Tell everyone YOU know to tell everyone THEY know that you are searching for a baby to adopt (and if you are looking only for a healthy newborn you should say so. That is your right.) The more you  network, the better your chances.  I did this, while lying in the hospital after a grueling ectopic pregnancy in 1987 and 9  months later I had the most perfect baby boy in my arms. I had told someone who knew someone who knew a great adoption attorney in a far off state....who knew a college girl who was pregnant and wanted to find a couple to adopt the baby at birth.  It can happen but you have to help. I get annoyed with people who whine about it, about the wait, make it happen. Every day spread the word.  I was actually offered 2 other babies shortly thereafter but it was too soon.  Years later we went to china, twice, and adopted 2 beautiful infant girls.  If you want a baby, there are beautiful babies out there and one will land in your arms.  I promise.  Best of luck as YOU find your child.

Answer 7

go through the foster care system and open your home to a child that REALLY needs a home comparted to the baby market the white infant adoption industry america has become today.

The foster care system has many children waiting for homes, just like a pregnancy, you have to wait.

Answer 8

The best thing to do is to go on with your life and when it happens it will be worth it but in the mean time, just go on with your life, if you worry it will just make you sick.