How do you deal with this the right way??

Question

last November 2007 my boyfriend of 2 years past away from a car accident. him and I were very close and i still miss him to this day.

every once and a while i have dreams of him and I together, I have had other flings/relationships but they're never "special".

Is this something I'm going to mourn about for a while and then get over it?

Answer 1

everyone is different so the amount of time you mourn will be unique. But no matter how long it takes, it is normal and you will eventually be able to move on but dont be scared to take your time

Answer 2

well i think that you need to realize and believe that your boyfriend who has passed is in a better place and that he still loves you. he would only want what's best for you and in this case i think that means for you to move on. wouldn't he want you to be happy? and find another good man that makes you feel happy like he did?  

Answer 3

it takes time; my husband died in 2003 and it took to 2005 for me to have room in my heart for someone else.

And you will never totally get over it it will just get less painful

The dreams are perfectly normal

Answer 4

You will always have a place for him in your heart, but you will move on.

Time has a way of dealing with these things.  Just give your new partners the individual respect that they deserve and do not try to compare.  You won't find another person who is just exactly like him, so stop trying to.

He left this life when he chose to.  I know that is very hard to accept, but we all leave this life when it is our time, God and each person makes that decision.  He did what he came down here to do, and when that was done, it was time for him to move on.  He is not dead, he is very much alive in the next life and you will see him again.  As a matter of fact, that is what the dreams are about...he is coming back because of your concern for him and his concern for you.  So you must learn to accept the fact he has moved on and you need to let him move forward.  The longer you hold onto him, the longer he will be prevented from moving on in his own spiritual development.  You don't realize it, but you are also holding yourself hostage.  That is why letting him go will free you from the bondage you feel.  I do not mean, forget him, for that will certainly be impossible...but the best thing you can do is to say to him in your own words, "I RELEASE YOU."  

There are many good books on grieving, many good websites...and there are counselors available who can help you if you want that help.

It will help you to release him and to release yourself.  

He is now on a different spiritual plane of existence, his responsibilities in this life are finished.  You must go on and continue your own spiritual development here until it is your time and you have completed what you came here into life, set out to do.

In the mean time, he will always be with you in your heart and mind.  Be greatful to God that you had him when you did, be thankful now that God has him and you will see him again...

Answer 5

I think you should let time do what it does best, Heal and forget. Maybe it is too soon to find another special person because you are still used to your boyfriend. Take time for yourself and see, I am sure you will find another special someone when you least expect it.  

Answer 6

time heals but, you must make the effort to move on.

Answer 7

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.  I am sure that you are well aware of those five stages.  Not until you go threw those will you really start to heal yourself.  Its ok to mourn.  You will always love him and no other man will compare.  Give yourself more time.  

Answer 8

Everyone mourns in their own way, but maybe you can look at your loss from another direction.  I don't mean to be all religious or sound crazy, but maybe it is his way of visiting you to remind you that he is watching out for you...your angel.  You said you both were very close, maybe he was your soul mate.  Not everyone gets to say they found their soul mate, so think of it as you were blessed with his presence while he had time on earth.  As days go on your pain will subside, but it seems since he was special he will not be forgotten.  Think of it as you have been blessed.  

Answer 9

YES

I'm truly sorry for your loss!

I just lost a very  close loved 18months ago,

And I think of her nearly everyday

But, with a lil less pain!!

good luck & MGB

Answer 10

yes.  Time DOES HEAL.