How do you decide what the right thing to do concerning a family dilemma?

Question

I have a HUGE family dilemma (well to me). Please help!!!?

My mom's mom (my maternal grandmother) will be turning 70, in November, and lives in Korea. There is going to be a huge party that she definitely deserves for working so hard and at the same time providing every ones needs.

However, my family, mom, dad, sis, and me live in the US. We all want to go but know that's impossible because my dad works and cannot receive a week break AND the airline fares are expensive for us to all afford. AND, recently we've had a burglar come into our house and as a result, a person MUST be home at all times to watch the house.

My mom's solution, is that she definitely goes along with my sis. Leaving me with my dad in the US. I'm pretty mad and sad about it because I want to go to. And also, I don't have the best relationship with my dad the way I do with my mom. Even my sis agrees that our mom is our favorite.

I can't IMAGINE my mom and sis having sooooooo much fun in Korea while I'm stuck with my dad. Just me and him, just us at home. The silence ringing in my ears! I still have school but my sis doesn't. She's just partying with my mom.

When my mom told my sis and me the solution, I burst into tears (I know, sad right?). I offered my mom to just go, but then she said that she would be lonely.

We don't know what to do now, Help MUCH appreciated. I'm sorry this is long but thank you for caring.

Answer 1

Is there anyone that's a "Family Friend" that could be trusted to 'House Sit' while your Dad's at work so then you could go also with your Mom & sister? If not, the only thing I could think of that would be fair would be to flip a coin instead of your sister automatically being chosen.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

We don't know what to do next? I think your parents already made the decision. If it was me both you your sis and mom would go. Since that can't be,your sis should stay back too. But then I am not your mom. life isn't always fair..

Answer 3

I would let the grandparent have her party but ask that your sis and you stay home.  Your mom can go alone.  After all its her mom.  Then have the grandparent come back with your mom to visit for awhile.  Your family pay her expences since it would be the same if big sis had gone.  Then you and sis can go visit her later when you have the money and have a good time in Korea without mom.

Answer 4

You're still in school, so yeah, you need to stay home and not miss school.  

Take advantage of the time with your dad to mend those broken bridges.  Life is too short to hold a grudge against family.  

Let mom and sis have their trip without you pulling juvenile guilt trips or temper tantrums on them.  You'll get your turn in due time.  For now, be the class act and send your grandma your best birthday wishes with them.