How do you define cheating?

Question

how many people here look for emotional comfort online that they don't get from their spouse?

Answer 1

If you are having online affairs with the opposite s*x, you are cheating. If you go out on any kind of a date with the opposite s*x, you are cheating. If you are doing anything with the opposite s*x behind your spouse's back, doing anything you don't want your spouse to see or hear, you are cheating. If your spouse feels that what you are doing with someone of the opposite s*x, in her/his opinion is an act of cheating, then to do so is cheating. You don't have to have s*x, intimately touch someone or kiss them to be considered cheating.

If you have problems in your marriage, then see a counsellor, not the comfort of someone of the opposite s*x online. You don't need to ask this question, you know what you are doing is cheating. Keep it up and you will lose your wife, just like my husband did.

Answer 2

Cheating is doing anything when your spouse is away that you wouldn't do in front of him or her. Cheating is when you give what belongs to your spouse to another - your love, your emotional support, physical relations,etc. It can be either emotional or physical.

Answer 3

when you kiss the oposite s*x and then.....

Answer 4

I define cheating as anything that I would not want him to do, not just having s*x with someone, but also anything emotional as you stated. If I had to look somewhere els for something I was not getting in my marriage I would first have a serious talk with my spouse, he may not realize what he is doing or not doing. If there was still no resolve we would go to counseling. Still no change I would separate and possibly divorce. Life is to short to be with someone you are unhappy with.  

Answer 5

Cheating = insert lonely married p***s into friendly wet and well groomed and single and willing v****a

Answer 6

I bet a lot of ppl here dont get much attention from their spouse. thats why ended up in yahoo.... including u.... LOL.

Answer 7

I think that if you have friends on line; that's one thing, but to turn to an on line 'friend' to get support from; that you should be talking to your spouse about, well, that's cheating if you ask me. I think you need to talk to your spouse and see what you two can do to meet in the middle and maybe he/she will be able to fill that gap and be happy with out turning to being sneaky over the internet. Good Luck.

Answer 8

good question. i think i do look for comfort by talking and interacting with other people online. i get lonely......... i talk but i do talk sexually. but i mean is getting attached to another person emotionally cheating?? IDK.  

Answer 9

Im sure theres alot but I would'nt...I could'nt

Answer 10

anything you wouldn't do or say with your spouse standing at your side

Answer 11

Just don't put it all the way in.

Answer 12

Strictly speaking, it is definitely cheating.

Problem is, only a minute fraction of couples are perfectly suited for each other.  Meaning they completely fulfill each others needs.  For the overwhelming majority of couples on this planet, this isn't the case.

Voids in these relationships naturally need to be filled.  You can partially fill some of them online, or in other ways.  Or you can be completely loyal, and suffer more.

Some think it's moral to stay loyal no matter what.  But does that mean one has to suffer to be moral?  I don't think so.

Finding a suitable balance is the best you can do.  Get enough happiness to feel better, but not too much to feel guilty.

This is quite the imperfect world, where some form of cheating occurs in every marriage.

Answer 13

Cheating is when a male or female has not yet found sanctuary with their beloved.  When your not complete no matter what then cause...cheating will be at your front door step. It's awful and it hurts and I've been there and lived through it.

I can only say that if my wife had not been the woman that she is I would of lost her years ago.  She waited for me to come around at a costly sacrifice she made to stay with me despite my affairs.

My wife is truly the real article and I'm very proud to call her my wife.

Answer 14

I used to with my ex.. then i realized if i was looking for this emotional connection somewhere else then our relationship was in serious trouble... talk to your spouse about what it is you look for in a person online. communication is the best way

Answer 15

Cheating:  Doing something involving someone of the opposite s*x that you wouldn't otherwise do if your spouse knew about it or was in the room.

BANG.  Nice, easy definition.  That's what my husband and I use as a definition for cheating, and I think it covers everything beautifully.  Yes, emotional cheating is still cheating.  If you're not getting what you want from your spouse, talk to them and inform them.  It's about respect.

Answer 16

Cheating = insert p***s into v****a

Answer 17

It's okay to have friends of the opposite s*x.  Cheating is thinking, fantasizing as well as acting out verbally & physically about s*x with someone other than your partner.

Answer 18

i am not looking for emotional comfort when i come to this community. i like to believe that someone really needs an ear or a sounding board to try out ideas or get some insight on how to proceed in some situation in their life. and believe you me when the time comes when i will need a sounding board or someone to help me figure out a situation, i hope that they can or will try to help me without feeling like they need to compensate their need for emotional comfort and do it because they genuinely care