How do you discipline your child?

Question

My children are 5, 2, and 1, and I am wondering what ways do you discipline your children. The oldest is very well behaved, but the two youngest tend to get out of control lol. I have tried time out, and it's not working. So any advice would be helpful.

Answer 1

If spankings work once in a while, then I don't mind.  But if spankings don't work because not every discipline technique works for every child, then I don't agree.

As a mom and former teacher, I think positive discipline works the best for both parties.  Encouraging positive behavior every time they do it and giving "prizes" for extended period of good behavior, "good jobs" and general encouragement works wonders for almost every kid.  

Answer 2

I use more of a positive discipline approach with my son.  We do not spank, but we do use time outs and loss of privileges when it is warranted.  He has his moments, as all children do, but he is usually very well behaved, both at home and in public.  I cantake him out to any restaurant and know that he will behave himself and use his good manners.  We try to be aware of his limits and when he is the most likely to have a meltdown (almost always when he is tired and/or hungry).

If you want to know more about this approach, check out one of Dr. Sears's books on toddlers and discipline, or you can also go to his website, as there is a lot of information about discipline there.

Answer 3

i did the time out thing but now i just talk to my 3 year old. only when he does something REALLY bad does he get a spanking. and then i send him to sit on his bed until he stops crying. when i don't hear him whining anymore i tell him to come in there where i am and give him a hug and tell him i love him and tell him not to do that again. he learns his lesson and is happy because mommy gives him hugs.  

Answer 4

I have a whole list of alternatives if timeout doesn't work. Check them out on my site. Trust me they are guaranteed to work. I have been using them since I started watching kids at age 14. Good Luck!

Answer 5

i'm 56 my mother would get so crazy with a hickory switch, or coat hanger, news paper, or a belt or a flyswatter and back then children just didn't have their mothers put up on charges of insanity.

But when she was right to correct me I didn't mind but her extreme swings of reasoning , meaning the times she would just hall off and start whaling me without a source of reason, that was crazy!

She later as I grew older prestigious jobs in the community areas of influence in political and judicious circles.

She would bush whack me anytime I showed any ambition beyond her perceived power base order of the community.

She eventually used her court stenographer connections  and secretaryshiphipp to the Mayor and her state vice presidency of the  B and PW

To destroy my life and have me committed to the Nut house.

I started trying to get the school officals to listen to me in junior high school, eventually I had talked to doctors and police and judges.

She was one of theirs and they just loved her in her puplic presence and were so enthralled with whom she had worked for no one would hear me out or assist me, even my own grand parents said oh that is how your mother is some times.

The worst is at the nut house the doctors were Lesbians and Homosexual men I being straight I was a splinter in their Eye for no reasons what soever I would be ordered tied to a bed and pumped for weeks without end full of Physcotrophic drugs it siesures started then given injection to stop the siesures and then they would the minute I recovered form a siezior ster pumping me full of the same drugs to cause anouthe siezieor.

I say  figure your motive.

Answer 6

I do spank but I am always under control. I think that is the key, if you spankout of emotion you might do it too hard. Put the in time out for the moment while you cool off then come back and spank them if it is needed. I dont spank for everything, just when I feel is appropriate.  

Answer 7

i dont beleive in any kind of physical "discipline"

i take away their favorite toy for a while or make them do a chore that is not glamerous. with timeouts you should only leave them there for 1 min per year of age. and i always explain why they are being punished

also, if its not too serious a problem, ask them what they think their punishment should be and see what they come up with, its pretty interesting

Answer 8

spanking is ok dont do it too much i have 5 kids and im pregnant with twins. I say please stop that people are going to think ur a baby and they get mad they dont like to be called babys and if they dont listen i put them in there room and no games or t.v. i tell them to say sorry and give a hug and kiss and they listen try that.

Answer 9

We only       (not very hard) if a child is in danger. Our 4 (then 2) year old ran into the middle of the street, so he got a  little swat. We generally do time outs. They have to sit on their beds. We started to give the 4 y/o a timer because he asks the whole time if he is done. so we hand him the timer and tell him he's done when the timer goes off. We have a 1 y/o too. She doesn't understand anything, so we don't really discipline her. She's pretty good anyways. We just mostly have to be very consistent with her. She likes to climb and has no fear at all.