How do you encourage some one to get a job?

Question

i asked my partner to get a job and he said he doesnt want one, he want to get income support forever he says other people do it so why cant we. the trouble is im also pregnant and dont really want to be with someone who is so lazy. is that wrong or should i accept this?

Answer 1

tell that lazy good for nothing bas#ard to get a job. so he can support your baby

Answer 2

NO you should never have to accept second best, however as u love him you will prob want to compromise. Give him an ultimatum tell him exactly how u feel lay your cards on the table then give him a fixed time period to sort himself out and if despite this chance he refuses id say walk..............but if u do go u will still be alone when having the baby initially?? Maybe stay with him until you have had the baby who knows he may change once he sees his own baby? if then he doesnt change id say WALK WALK WALK. We all want our kids to have better than what we had as we live in a free world in the west.

Answer 3

I could understand If he was finding it hard in these times to get a job and thats why he is claiming, but its sad to see someone being disrespectful like this. It puts to shame what the benifits system is all about.

If you don't like what he has said, state your reasons and if he still won't budge, you'll either have to accept it or move on. Either way is hard.

You could get the job instead of him but that would take you out of the benfit loop.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry you hooked up with a guy like that. Tell him to get a job or get out. If he has no work ethic how will he help support you and the baby? He needs to grow up, you don't want to have the burden of taking care of a man when you have an infant. Kick him to the curb hun.

Answer 5

No more sweet lovin' until he brings home the bacon.

Also, give him a slap upside the head from me - it ain't my job to pay for his kid, and I rather resent doing so simply because he's a bone-idle, chavvy waste of space.

EDIT: also - what an absolutely awful role-model for your child...

Answer 6

you cant accept this. if youre going to be parents, having a lazy partner isnt a good sign. tell him that in times like these, getting a job would benefit the both of you AND the baby. we dont always get what we want, just b/c he doesnt feel like getting a job, doesnt mean that he doesnt have to. where is he going to get the money? if youre pregnant, youuu cant work. if you want to say it in a nice way, maybe try to bring it up casually? like when reading the newspaper or watching tv. or talk about jobs with good pay or friends that have good jobs. however, try to avoid mentioning a male having a great job and how much better things are for him. your partner might take it as competition and arguing would be one of the last things youd want. =) good luck persuading!

Answer 7

Sorry to say this ,but the fact that your even asking youself the question says to me your not happy with what he is offering you.NEVER accept something that won`t make you happy.If ,you telling him your not accepting the future he is offering doesn`t get him off his backside then maybe you should leave the s.o.b. If he`s lazy in pulling his own way in the world ,what hope has he in inspiring your child in life.

Answer 8

Do NOT be satisfied living with a deadbeat. To bad you're preggo, but this jerk will never change. He wants to live off everyone else in the world. Leave him unless you want to be just like him. I'm sorry for you. You do NOT need to accept this lifestyle.

Answer 9

h**l no put him outside on his behind. he will get a job then. you don't get your maximum income when on support.  if i am not mistaken that support only lasts a year or in my state it does. he is just lazy as h**l... you can do bad by yourself. if i can you can....

Answer 10

I think you should talk to him about it, seriously, and see what he say, and if he comes with I don’t want a job, than say I don’t want you in my life nor the baby and you’ll do find without him, maybe down the road you find someone that will accept you with you baby and take will be a man to support one another.

Answer 11

NO its not wrong to want this, and no you shoulndt just accept it!

i know how hard it can be living on benefits and havng kids and its one of the hardest things you can do!

Has he said why he has no intention of getting a job?? my husband recently lost his job and for 4 months we were living off job seekers and housing benefits and it was hard! we coulndt afford to go out and do anything, i was actually embarrassed to tell people he wasnt working!

and the fact that we spent so much time together almost made me wanna choke him!

now tho he is working again and hes seen that this is beneficial, we have more money now than weve had in a long time and its a nice feeling knowing that hes providing for our family!

You shoulndt be expected to go out and work, not that you can being pregnant anyway!

How does he expect to look after a child while on income support? have you spoken to him about it?

I think you need to maybe consider telling him where to stick it unless he gets off his lazy backside and gets himself a job!

you do deserve better than that!

good luck, and try not to stress too much its bad for baby x*x

Answer 12

Dump him. He's lazy and lacks ambition... why would you want to be with anybody like that?

If having a baby doesn't turn him into a man than nothing will.

He's a waster. Sorry...

Answer 13

say get off your fat **** you lazy git or your dumped full stop.