How do you endure a dinner outing with in laws ?

Question

Weird how this question ended up in politics? So here it goes again..

How do you endure a dinner outing with in laws especially after one of them displayed negative pettiness? They really threw a monkey wrench into the family system and though I hope I am wrong but, I believe this person is trying to sabotage the family unit or my marriage. They weren’t the most inviting person to begin with, with characteristics of insecurity, self-centeredness, hyper-sensitive they take everything personal, an uncompromising behavior, controlling, manipulative and take things out of content. Now to add I found out they are two faced.

Now I have always tried to keep the peace and endure family events with them. Even went further to try to see the good in this person by extending friendship but, after what has happened the shutter has clicked on who they are. At this point I know the best thing to be is poker face with them. Things after this incident have been copasetic. I now try to deal with this person as little as possible; I am a person who tries to keep negative people as far as possible away from me. Keep your friends close but your enemies at a far eyes distance.

Now I have dinner for 4 with this person and I really hate to be cheeky. If I act poker face that will show through since, I am generally very outgoing. Any suggestions would be helpfully. I really still want to keep the peace for the family but, this dinner is a sticky situation.

Answer 1

there is no graceful way out of this situation.  i would have to say poker face and civil behavior, this is nothing they can directly fault you on.  and when they ask you if anything is wrong (and i know this is cliche but..) say "not a thing" and move straight away onto another topic.  i would avoid the wine as tempting as it may seem, too much wine =loose lips and you may regret what comes out.i would also work hard to avoid any further extended contact with the regrettable curs. keep our chin up and it will be over soon, when you think you can no longer endure just think of someone inspiring or who went through much worse, it'll give you strength.

p.s. i would probably avoid the excessive flatulence as suggested by a previous post

Answer 2

every time they act up, just rip one.  no excuse me or anything.  they'll learn.

Answer 3

Let them know who is boss in a nice way

Answer 4

i was going to tell you to to go for poker face, but then i read you last paragraph.  youre in a really sticky situation... what would i do?  drink some wine.  wine is the happy pill, it makes you bubblier than usual.  it might work in this predicament.

good luck on this crappy outing :(

Answer 5

You don't.