How do you even know if you love someone? Would appreciate any answers.?

Question

I'm sure you've all heard this question before. But I'm not one of those sappy people who think every person they've liked, they've loved. I'm just the opposite. I never admit to myself that I could actually love someone. Mainly because I've never been in a relationship. I've liked people from a distance. I've always said that I can't possibly love this or that person mainly because of the fact that I'm not with them. I've just always assumed my feelings was just the result of an infatuation.

But a few years ago, I met someone who did change my world. I'm not saying I love her. But then again, I'm not even sure. We weren't together. In fact she belonged to someone else. But we were close. Personal info was swapped back and forth, hugs were shared, longer than usual eye contact, she always seemed to care when I had a

problem, etc...Anyway, she made me feel wanted and appreciated. I don't know if I'm missing her because of the fact that I felt so close to her or something else. All I know is that, I don't think I've missed someon this much before. It gets easier everyday, but she still happens to cross my mind at least once everyday. I always used to (and still do) worry about her. She used to get really bad migraines and stuff. I still continue to say to myself that it's just a crush. It just happens to be a really long one (almost 4 years, lol). I'm somewhat of a love cynic. All those sappy corny love stories and movies just kind of make me sick. I have a hard time believing in a fairytale kind of love. Anyway, when do you think it's safe to say that you actually care for/love someone? I just wanted to know. Any info would be helpful. Thanks!

Answer 1

This what I do.

I ask myself (I know it sounds stupid but its straight-forward). If you really love someone you care, you like their personality, and you constantly think about something about them other then their looks. When you care that means you really feel, I know you do, you felt worried about her. If its more their personality that wins you over than its their looks you obviously can see past skin deep. And when you think about her if its more than just 'Wow! Shes got a beautiful (nose, body, face, etc.)'. Can you see past her faults, or can't you see them at all? Try to acknowledge her faults but not dwelt on them, this means you aren't blinded by love or not in love at all.

And finally ask yourself this:

Can I give myself 5 reasons of why I love her?

If so, what are they?

If you can give five reasons thats a start, but what are these reasons, if more than one of these reasons is about looks and exterior beauty than your love isn't quite past crush. And guess what? Love does exist outside of hollywood.

Answer 2

YOU KNOW I'M JUST THE SAME WAY, I READ THAT LARGE AMOUNTS OF CHOCOLATE HAVE THE SAME EFFECT. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT IF YOU CAN STAND TO BE WITH SOMEONE FOR 4 YRS THEN YOU ALL READY PROBABLY LOVE HER! ITS OK TO LOVE ITS THE BEST MEST UP THING IN THE WORLD!

Answer 3

When you try to explain it, you cant, you always think about them, and your thoughts are directed back to them by little things, you hold their opinion higher than anyone Else's, you want the best for them, You don't get over them at the drop of a pin, You smile when you think of them, depends on your personality or you cry, you hope they are doing well, and sometimes they might cross your mind, Why don't you try to find her again...you missed her that means there was something there. Time passes and we grow old, the only thing you can do is ask yourself what can I do next, the past is gone, so don't try to say "if only I had done this" If you want this person in your future, you gotta do something. I can be a love cynic also, apart from not understanding if it exists or if its all its cracked up to be etc etc. I think love is a decision at one point and then it becomes your being, love is forgiving, love is kind, love doesn't boast. Those are all views but no one I mean no one feels it the same way, so I guess this isn't really black and white, but more a thought pondering question (do I or do I not?) I know it sounds cheesy but you are the only one who can decide this.

Answer 4

to love someone is very difficult love is an emotion someone can make you feel example everything about me makes you feel pleasant yet everything about you makes me feel like ****,  just be you its when you try to love someone it becomes difficult

Answer 5

ya, love exists outside the sappy movie world of passion and foolishness - it is when you have someone you want to be with all the time, and are not whole without them.  you've known them since before you were born, and their presence in your life gives you proof of what is beyond, a spiritual security that holds you together

Answer 6

You've heard of "love at first sight," except it's actually first encounter.  There are many pretty girls, so is there something about this one that is different?  Is she smart or funny or something?  What caught your attention?  I find my stomach aches and I realize I miss them if I don't see them.  At this point, the difficult questions start for me.  Some are simple, for example, people talk about common hobbies, but those change over time.  Instead, do you live your life the same way in regards to how you treat others, how you spend money, go to bed, get up, do you openly communicate about s*x and enjoy it?  It gets harder...Do you trust each other?  Do you make each other better?  Would you want her to take care of  you if you were sick?  Would she take care of you?  Is she emotionally available?  Is she a liar?  Does she love you back?  Do you understand each other?  A woman should also beguile her partner as that is part of what women do.