How do you explain to a child that its alright to hit them but that hitting is wrong?

Question

Moreover how do you explain it to yourself ?

I am reffering to spanking not abuse.

Answer 1

you cant. i had to stop spanking because if i said a bad word in front of her she would spank me and say i was bad.

Answer 2

You can't. Time outs-taking away privileges- early bedtimes- grounding...you don't need to spank or hit a child.

Answer 3

I agree..you can't

Answer 4

Monkey see monkey do.. if you dont want your kid to hit, then dont do it yourself. PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH and give the kid a time out

Answer 5

You can't I don't "spank" or "hit" my kids because I do not want them to hit others.

You can't do something and then expect your kids not to do the same.

Show them what you want them to know.

Answer 6

Funny how I was spanked growing up along with everyone else in my generation - and i am referring to spanking not abuse- and it seems that no children were medicated and we didnt have nearly as many problems as todays youth.

In my opinion - you explain that

the bible states that - spare the rod spoil the child- and if we allow him or her to get away with something then we are not teaching them right from wrong.

Spanking is final - time out is negotiable.

I'm sure ill get many replies from this but it is how i feel and if everyone about 25 years of age is honest - this is how you were raised. Are we raising a nation of spoiled brats with NO consequence for wrong actions other than "talks" and "timeouts"   please - gimme a break.

Spanking is discipline. It is necessary to instill boundaries in our children.

Simple psychology - pain associated with consequence - guarantee the child will think twice.

P.S.

You simply say - I spank you because i love you and it is my job to make sure you know the difference between right and wrong.

It is not ok for you to hit others. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Hitting is different from spanking. Spanking is the parents job. Hitting should never be tollorated.

Answer 7

you can eplaine about behavior  let them know you why you spanked them  and tell them the difference  between hitting out of frustration and a spanking

Answer 8

You're a trip.. I explain to my child that if he misbehave there will be consequences.. If he hits someone in the street that is wrong and it could be fatal. I would never do anything to hurt my child but when it comes to him hitting another child or person in the street or school he is putting himself at risk. Children/kids these days are out of control and I would hate for my child to hit the wrong kid. I do teach him if someone hits him to tell the teacher and if she doesn't do anything (which is possible) then he can and should hit them back. He can't hit a girl under any circumstances.

Answer 9

It wrong  to hit a chield, childrens are more aware than parents about any and everything, they are Intelligent being too, as well in fact more rationals, they understand reasoning, care and Love in a perfect way, they only want learning.

Answer 10

It's not right to hit a child, whatever they are doing wrong you should communicate to them through words.

Tell them that it's not alright to hit others and if they say 'well you hit me' then say that you were wrong and need to watch your own actions :)

Answer 11

You can't.

Answer 12

The same way you explain to them that you are allowed to light fires and they are not. That you are allowed to pour boiling water and they are not. That you get to decide their bedtime, but they don't get to decide yours.

Come on, why is this difficult in the slightest? If this is yet another "oh woe, spanking is so dreadful" question, then how do you explain to a child that it's alright to ground them or take away their privileges but for them to do the same to someone else is wrong? You do use SOME method of discipline with your children, I hope? Are they allowed to do the same to you?

Children are not adults and should not be treated as adults. I spank my children for behaviour which, if I treated them as I would an adult who did it, would involve calling the police.

Answer 13

you don't . Actions speak louder than word. The you hit the kids. The kids 'spank' the dog. The dog bites. And so the story goes. The man gets yelled at by his boss. The man yells at the wife. The wife yells at the kids. the kids yell grow up to yell at their employees.... Any sort of 'punishment' will be carried on to the next genaration

Answer 14

You can't.  Hitting is wrong, whoever is doing it.

Answer 15

Exactly my point! I do not belive in spanking. I belive in timeout and removing privilages. But other than that NO spanking!!