How do you feel about a mother that has 5 kids on her own at 18 years old?

Question

Not going to say where but I know of a girl who is 18 and have five kids. They are all the same father and they are not married and he stil lives with his parents and she does with hers.

What is your opinion on that.

Answer 1

Her parents failed. Birth control is free. If the teen won't take it they could have gotten her an IUD or the depo shot or something they could control.

Answer 2

I think it is just sad! They should make her get her tubes tied!! I know a girl like that back where I am from in FL..she had her first one at 14, the sad part of it is, her parents take care and support her and the kids, she doesn't even work. POOR KIDS

Answer 3

to the mom with 3 by 21...i bet you dont still live with your parents and him with his. maybe when you had your first.....

I think this is ridiculus.  I might live in my parents rental property rent free right now (my other half was out of work for 9 months, just got back into the union YAY) but i dont live IN thier house and i DO pay the utilities and for all of my daughters needs and i did so with pospardum and having 2 surgerys in the last 6 months so i dont want to her how someone else can't try.  and  birth control is free for low income!!! im sure she was in school (or attemted to be) so it would have been FREE.  it is people like that that in my opinion suck off the welfare system and make it impossible for people like me to get help for a short time when we actually need it to get by.  

I am not saying they have to get married, because that isn't always the answer, but after the first kid (or set of multiples) you need to really evaluate what is going on. and mom and dad need to look at what they allow to happen in thier house since their child is under 18 in thier house.

Answer 4

Stupidity? Irresponsibility? Welfare? Ridiculous?  Complete and total lack of commom frickin sense? All these come to mind.

The parents of these two dogs in heat are stupid for allowing them to continue to live there. YOU made those babies. YOU take care of them.

Kinda shows you where the kids get their brilliant minds, huh?

Answer 5

I'm guessing that she doesn't believe in birth control.  If I was that child's mother, I would have put her on birth control after the first pregnancy.  Shame on her mother.

Answer 6

Sounds like irresponsiblity to me.  If she is raising them and being a good mother, she is definitely doing the right thing though.  

Answer 7

Her and the guy really didn't know how to use protection.

Answer 8

She obviously doesn't know what birth control is.

Answer 9

I am 21 years old and have 3 children i had my 1st when i was 16 years old, BUT i am married to my children's father and YES all my children have the same father.

I think it is a pretty silly thing to do but what can i say? I have 3 myself.

Answer 10

She needs to find a new hobby!  :)

Answer 11

At least she did something right in staying with the same man...I give her credit there.

But hot d**n, if she had all those babies she didn't have much time to learn about birth control in high school now did she??

Answer 12

Nothing makes me angrier than teenagers that have kids and let their parents raise them--even worse when they CONTINUE having kids..

They all say, "I love my babies! I want another one!"

Well h**l yeah! I have one and I am done, but I would have 10 if I only got the 'best parts' of having children--playing with them and whatnot. Not paying for their needs and actually caring for them (changing diapers, etc).

That's ridiculous. Wow. At least they're all the same father (?)

Answer 13

Well that means she probablly had the first one around 13 right?!? I don't think that her parents should have condoned this behavior. After the first one they should have educated her and got her on birth control. She hasn't had time to be a child herself, so I imagine that it would be hard for her to raise 5 kids. I do have to say its good that they are all from the same dad..i guess...but again what is wrong with his parents... someone has to be the adult in this situation and say enough is enough. What kind of life are these two kids going to have and what kind of life are they going to be able to offer these five babies? I work with sexually abused kids and kids that are in foster placement, and I am not saying it can't be done but it is very difficult for someone who is 18 to successfully raise 5 kids. I am going to assume that she has not finished high school? This alone makes the odds against her even higher! I hope that her and her boyfriend won't become one of these statistics, and wish the best for their kids...but, the odds are not in their favor.  

Answer 14

wow. um well i have to say she was very irrsponsible.

Answer 15

5 kids at 18?? Oh my goodness. I thought having 2 kids by the time I was 20 was bad. Well I have to ask why didn't child protection get involved? At one point she was a minor. How does she plan to support these children? I hope not welfare. I think that she needs to get her tubes tied, and if she won't do it willingly then a court should order it. It is one thing to have 5 kids, but to be 18 and have 5 kids. She is never going to experience life. And I can't imagine what those kids are going through, and how they will gorw up. it is a sin. And her parents? Shame on them, for allowing such actions to go on and doing nothing. After the second kid they should have steped up and acted on their responsibility as parents and done something. I will pray for the well being of those kids.

Answer 16

Well, it's pretty hard to believe, but I suppose it happens.  It doesn't sound like a situation that would be in the best interest of either the 18 year old couple or their children, but if they have a LOT of support they may be able to do OK.  Children can thrive as long as they have their basic material needs met, get lots of consistent loving attention from a parent or caregiver, and have some structure and constructive discipline in their lives.  The parents will have to sacrifice and put off their own personal needs for a long time, but they will still be young enough to have a life after the kids leave the nest. It would be better if  at some point they can live together with their children and get out of their parents' homes so as to create a stable independent household. They should stop having babies for a while at least.  Five is a lot for anyone.

Answer 17

Wow, she'll be in her 30s when all of her kids are raised. I'm glad all the babies are with the same father. Another positive is that they live with parents, hopefully supportive ones. Goodness sake, many judgmental comments. Different cultures do things differently. Maybe these kids were planned and she wanted 5 babies.

Answer 18

Does she live in Peru or India???   If she lives in the States, I think it is a shame.  Very irresponsible.  

Answer 19

i would say she seriously needs to learn to use contraception  

Answer 20

BIRTH CONTROL

Answer 21

Its none of my business but I feel bad for those kids.

Answer 22

sounds like she probably had a bad upbringing and no sense of responsability. 5 kids at 18, she would have had to have started having kids around age 13 at least.