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How do you feel about anal s*x?

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recently my boyfriend has mentioned getting it in the booty!!!!Im scared and i wanna know if it hurts really bad or not!!!!He has been wanting to try new positions and every other one i have done to make him happy!!!!but this im scared of!!!!!!help me!!!!!guy and girl comments please!!!!!

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If you don't want to do it, don't. You shouldn't have to do something you don't want to just to make a man happy. Especially if he's your boyfriend, how will you feel if you go through with it and the relationship ends later?

I am married and have turned, and will continue to turn, my husband down when he has suggested it.
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you said your boyfriend has mentioned "getting it in the booty"...lol tell him if he wants it there u will find something to oblige him..

but if hes talking about doing it to you, i have heard it hurts like h*ll...

i would never try it personally cause i believe its for exit only..but if you do it get lots of lube and relax..

i did hear it was a pain in the @ss though
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Okay...Your gut feeling on this is RIGHT!!!! Don't do it. And I will tell you why, sorry its blunt...The muscles in your a**s are meant to be as tight as they are for a reason. (I won't go into detail as for what, I'm sure you can figure that out)...All these people that say, lube and the more you do it gets better...Guess what? They have destroyed the purpose of the muscles down there. That hole is an exit hole ONLY!!! Its a twisted nasty request he is making...And he should respect you on this...and definitely not force you into it, or guilt you into it. Stand your ground, if he doesn't like that, then he isn't worth the time of day for you, because even MOST men are disgusted by this practice. I wish you well. Take care.
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dont do something you are not comfortable with honey. If he does not respect you saying no, than get out of that relationship fast.

My personal opinion. I think it is rather disgusting. I think that s*x should be done NORMALLY between two people that love each other.

Also, getting it in the booty is just asking for an STD. Not to mention it will hurt A LOT considering the a**s does not make it's own luberciant like the v****a and p***s does.
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Is gross and it hurts like h**l OK no bull c**p and on top of that no enjoyment for the woman what so ever, so why do it? just don't do it is so ******* gross
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well,if your scared to try it,then your bf should respect your feelings,if he loves you at all..but if you truely want to try it............for me it's the bomb,but everybodies different,

what dose your bf do for you> it sounds like he's all in it for him self.

(something to think about)
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(constipation.. will relieve it in an instant)

yes it hurts, if done incorrectly, you need lots of lubrication, and he HAS to be slow and gentle,, havent done it much myself... first time hurt like heck (he did it dry and actually claims he didnt know he was in the wrong place, yeah right)...... anyhow..... if he starts out slow with alot of ky and starts with one finger and goes up from there... if done right, its a very odd but nice feeling..and no im not a pervert. out of the 5 or 6 times ive done it, only the first 2 times did it hurt (because of who was doing it and he didnt care if he hurt me or not)

make sure you have a towel under you too... just like in the beginning it will take time to get you open, it will take time for you to close.. you will NEED the towel. sorry if its grafic but you did ask...

PS... you should only do s*x when and if your comfortable with it!!!!! NEVER EVER do anything your not comfortable with......
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ew girl that is messed up. if you dont want to do it STAND YOUR GROUND. first of all, butts aren't meant to have things shoved up them. second of all, its gross. i mean, you p**p from that. third of all i bet it hurts like h**l.
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Its great u guys wanna spice things up but it should be done with the idea in mind that both partners should be comfortable with what is happenning. If u dont like it then dont do it and tell him. It sure comes with pain and maybe the next time he brings it up, just tell him that if he takes it in his *** that you would be happy to. And if he agrees just tell him how pathetic he is. I bet he gunna drop it. But just remember its u who gotta do it in the end if u decide to and u have the right to say yes or no. Just dont do anything taht u know that u know that u r regret.

Goodluck!
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Let me tell you one thing and get this and keep it close.... Even animal's dont do it in the booty... Any man who asks his girl or his wife to do that is a dastardly person and not worthy of your love... yes it hurts more than you will ever know. And you will bleed and you will hurt and unless you do an enima before you do it.. there will be c**p all over you and all over his johnson... and too, you can get STD's from doing it... Now just in case he talks you into it, make sure that he washes very cleanly before he goes in the real hole... You are making a mistake in letting him but hey you girls think love is doing everything for your man.... Good luck... Grant M in Pennsylvania
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Don't do it!!! first of, no exit door are for entering...you know what i mean...i hate the fact that some guys rather have anal s*x than having the normal kind...it's gonna hurt real bad anyway if you gonna try it!
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It Stinks. Anal sexed started with perverts and those who engage in Beastiality. If your lips, tongue and panoche aren't enough for this creep. Tell him to find another Obama Butt. You can also get Ecoli Bacteria from his stinky butt. Ecoli can be deadly!
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It's not for everyone. It can be uncomfortable and messy. You have to decide what you are comfortable with. If your boyfriend puts pressure on you then he doesn't really care for you. He's just using you. It is something that you have to want to do and not be pressured into doing.
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I love it.  However, I was turned on by it before I even tried it, and still couldn't take it that well for a couple years.  Now I enjoy it rather frequently, but it took a lot of time to get used to.  And I always am stimulating my clitoris at the same time- anal is best when combined with a vibrator or rub on the C**t.  If you don't want it mentally, forget about it- it's going to hurt.

If you are scared of this, just say no.  Your a**s is not going to expand and you will not be able to relax if you are frightened.  There is no reason you have to have anal s*x with him- you already said that you tried a lot of different positions and such.

If you do decide that you are ok with it and trying it, go about it very slowly.  Use a ton of lubricant, and don't even worry about taking 15 minutes with fingers and toys to help you relax.  He should be lucky that you are considering it at all (it can be very painful for a woman if it's not done correctly and very frightening the first time).  He should never try to force it in too far or too quickly.  If it starts to hurt too badly, tell him to stop and slowly pull out.

But do not do this "just to make him happy."  It's a very sensitive area and a huge leap for many women.
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Used to really hurt but just make sure u use plenty lube n it gets much better and enjoyable :D
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My husband and I are trying to get there. First we started by just fingering and of course that hurt at first but now I enjoy it very much. I would suggest trying that first.

It's a long process getting used to it. We still continue to try and it still hurts when he tries to get in but we use lots of lube and it gets better. He's able to get in slowly but still not all the way there yet. Good Luck.
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If you are uncomfortable w/ anal s*x you shouldn't do it. Personally I think it would be kinda gross, but I guess he's into that. But he should respect how you feel if you don't want to.
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Okay its gonna hurt for the first time.

Make sure to use ALOT and i mean ALOT of lubricant.

Tell him to take it slow at first.

If you want you can try to use a s*x toy first and try it out or if your too young to have a s*x toy use the end of a brush.

And to help it in I use this...

Use victoria secret PINK perfume.

Pink is the name.

No burn no sting all comfort.

Sounds crazy but it works.

Hope I helped.
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Babigurl? Tell him if he truly cares 4 and respects u, he wont pressure u 2 do this. If u've done everything else he wanted, he shouldnt push u 2 do this. I never done it but heard it hurts bad
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Personally, (and I know a lot of guys will disagree) I prefer it if booty remained what it was intended for... Just tell him you'll do anything, but anal s*x is off the list!
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Do your research about it first and make sure if you do want to do it that you can stop it at any stage, preparation is the key or it could be really bad.
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Hurts at first , gets better , I now like it better than vaginal.Use lube if you do it or tell him no if you don't want to.I see most people on here are either too young or don't have an open mind or just aren't willing to admitt to things.Most every guy I have ever known goes both ends into a woman.C'mon.
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well ..... i tried it cuz my bf wanted to and at first it was okay then my butt started burning so i jumped out of bed screaming my butt my butt ... after that i hesistated to do it again but the good gf I am I got drunk and tried again... it still hurt but i bought some butt plugs and now its all good... anything for my man i recommend everyone try it at least once
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it helps relieve constipation, or maybe it causes it, i can't remember which...
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It's taboo so it's interesting and all men want to try it. If you are scared, it is going to hurt. Have a few drinks first. That is of course if you are 21.
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use plenty of lube, and he should go SLOWLY and GENTLY until you know you can enjoy the experience.
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In my opinion i hate it! 2 years ago(when I was 21) my hubby was bugging me to try it. So, finally one day I decide go for it, and I told him "slowly, and if I say stop or pull it out you better do as I say" oh my God! Girl, let me tell you that it hurt sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much!!!! I told him to stop, and he didn't! Well he did like 5 seconds after I said that. I cried sooooo much. To this day I still remember how it was, I even took a shower after, and I felt like I had been raped, probably cause he didn't stop when I told him and it hurt bad!! Its been 2 years since that happened, and I haven't let me try it, and I will NEVER let him. It hurts too much, doesn't even feel good! If you want to make him happy, maybe you can try it but tell him to be very, very gentle-you might like it. But me I hated it! But just think about it, good luck girl :)
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Anal s*x only hurts badly if it's done wrong--unless, of course, you like it rough. Then by all means go ahead. ;-)

That is a tight o*****e back there, with a lot of nerves, and it isn't self-lubricating. It has to be prepared before it is penetrated. Take your time, use plenty of lubricant, breathe slowly and deeply to stay relaxed, and make sure he wears a condom.

Also... to avoid bacterial infections: you can go from front to back, but never back to front.
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yeah it does hurt at first but next, it won't hurt once you doing it again. advantage from anal s*x is you cant get pregnant from this so you can having s*x!!
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Always remember that this is your body and if you feel the least bit uncomfortable with any kind of s*x act, no matter what it is, you have the right to politely let your boyfriend know that you will not participate in that act.

It is always your right and always okay to say no to anyone.

You need never feel afraid, young lady.

Any decent man should understand your feelings.
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This thread will get deleted I think, they always seem too...but, if you don't want to don't do it, if you are willing to try it read up first.  To each his own.

...and geez, some of you people make me doubt my "prude" status...it's different, not the devil.  Don't like it, don't do it.
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