How do you feel about breast feeding?

Question

I had my first child when I was 21 years old. I did not want to breast feed, but I did try due to all the pressure. It did not work out.

Now, at 29 and pregnant, I still do not want to breast feed. I just have no desire to at all.

I thought I was just immature or something at 21 by having no desire to breast feed, thinking is is just....yucky. But I feel the same way now.

I know it is natural, good for the baby, bonding, etc.... I don't know why I feel this way.

Does anyone else feel this way?

Answer 1

   I thought I'd feel that way before I had my baby, but I still tried it because I knew it was best for her and a good way to bond and now I love it.  

Answer 2

BREAST FEEDING ISNT FOR EVERYONE BUT IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO OFFER YOUR BABY THE BEST DEFENSE FROM MANY ALLERGIES AND GIVE IT THE BEST START IN LIFE THEN YOUR SHOUKD BREAST FEED . THE MILK HAS VITAMINS THAT CANT BE GOTTEN FROM COWS MILK.  

Answer 3

I didn't want to breast feed either but I like you did not want the pressure and the nurses at the hospital talked me into it.  Well I was what I would consider lucky because no matter what my baby did not want to breastfeed.  He just would not suck.  He would latch though.  My baby was not eating.  I had to give him the bottle so that he would eat.  I will try and brestfeed when I chose to have a second child.  I want two kids.

Answer 4

I think breastfeeding can be something beautiful between a mother and baby.  But I also believe that it just isn't for some women.  I would say it would be best to try again.... who knows.... maybe it will be different for you this time around.  But if it doesn't work out.... there is no shame in that...... it just doesn't work for some mothers.  No matter what your choice may be..... just remember that it is a personal decision.... personal meaning you are the only one that can decide what is best for you...... don't let other people try and bully you into there ways of thinking.  Best of luck to you and congrats!

Answer 5

It's up to you...I loved breast feeding..well love as I am still breast feeding my 12 week old and will continue until she is at least 15 months..I don't understand why some women think it it "yucky"..etc...that's what the b***s are there for!

Answer 6

I was immiture with my first, and was emberressed to breast feed, so I just pumped, and gave it to her in the bottle, a few times when she woke up for midnight feedings I'd just nurse because it was easier.

with my next, I am more educated, and not asahmed, I am excited to nurse when I have this one in january.

Answer 7

I never felt it was "yucky" and I never will.  :)

I ask you to try and look past your feelings and at least give a real effort with this child.  Have a board certified lactation consultant to help you if you need it.  The bare minimum is a year, and think how little time that really is out of your child's whole life!!  You'd be giving him or her the milk designed just for babies!  **Not to mention decreasing your own risk of breast and ovarian cancers, diabetes, osteoporosis...

Being a mom is about making choices and sacrifices that are for our baby's wellbeing, not our own.

Answer 8

I think it's amazing that our society has brought us to a place where we think we have to "want" to breastfeed.  I don't think there's necessarily such an emotion.  What we want is for our babies to be healthy, to be well fed, for us to get sleep, for us to have a break, to not be in pain.  Whether we breastfeed or not depends on which method satisfies those wants best.

For me, I was terrified of breastfeeding, I was shy, I was unsure, I lacked confidence, I was afraid of pain.  But I also knew that breastfeeding was the healthiest for my baby, and for our finances.  So I did it anyway.  And the uncertainty, and pain, and modesty, and fear lasted for about 5 weeks - and then it was gone.  I nursed my son for 14months, eight months longer than I intended.  And I nursed my daugther even longer.

It's perfectly normal to have some trepidation, and to be honest, most of that disappears in a relatively short period of time.  But if you are waiting for the "want' to come to you, you are waiting for something that I doubt exists in the way you are expecting.

Ask yourself what it is you DO want?

Answer 9

My cousin was the same way and it is just a personal choice. If you don't want to breastfeed then why not pump. That way you can know your baby is getting the best milk but you don't have to actually do it. I would try that and if not then just know you are happy with your decision and that is all that matters. Good luck and just try pumping at least while you are in the hospital then you can decide what to do from there.

Answer 10

Breast feeding is definately a personal choice. I breast-fed all my children, but that was MY choice! If you don't feel like breast-feeding your child, you shouldn't do it. There are children out there who are just as healthy, if not more so in some cases, than breast-fed children. Congratulations on your upcoming little one and best wishes for a healthy baby.

Answer 11

i think that baby cow need cow milk. horses need horse milk and human need human milk. but it is a personal choice. you should not be pressured into something you don't want to do.

but yes there is extra bonding time when you breast feed.