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How do you feel about piercing babies ears?

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I personally think it is cruel. I've seen my almost 7 month old daughter get shots and there is NO WAY I would intentionally put holes in her body!!! Some people say it's to distinguish that their daughter is a girl. You know what? You really can't tell with ANY baby, which is why they make boys and girls clothes! I wonder how many angry mothers will debate this? When my daughter asks ME...then she can have her ears pierced!

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  1. Why would anyone want to do this?  

    Piercing a baby's ears is clearly for the mother's "benefit" not the child's.  It's completely superficial and doesn't do anything positive.

    So, why?  

    Leave the kid's perfect little ears alone.


  2. I agree, i think it puts a baby through unnecessary pain just so Mommy can get the satisfaction making her baby look 'pretty.'  And also, if her ears get infected, a child that age isn't going to be able to tell you if they are in pain or not...and once they get to toddler age you have to worry about them ripping them out of their ears.

    I think earrings look tacky on babies as well. I too will wait until my daughter is old enough to ask!  

  3. I don't know man I'm 21 now, my mother had my eyes pierced by a doctor when I was a few months old, I don't remember it, but I'm glad she did it because I always had earring on for all my pictures, and it looks cute.

    She might be too timid to ask you to get her ears pierced when she is 13 or whatever.

    It isn't a big deal, if you don't want to do it to your daughter, why do you have to go on yahoo and bash it.  

  4. You made the decision not to pierce your daughter's ears.  I made the decision to pierce my daughter's ears.  I don't give a heck what you do with your child, and you shouldn't care what I do with mine.  The world would be a MUCH better place if everyone just minded their own business.

  5. I agree that when the child is old enough to make the decision for themselves is when they should be allowed - whether they are boy or girl- and believe the same applies to circumcision. I dont think i could stand watching my baby going through that sort of pain just because we want them to look like a girl or simply to look "pretty" or "cool".  Thats just my personal opinion and everyone haas there own choice of what they do with their own children and we should respect their decisions.  

  6. Some things are just cultural. I am from a Hispanic background and my family was shocked when I decided not to pierce my baby girl's ears. I don't feel as strongly as you seem to ... I just felt that she should make her own decision. And I didn't care if people knew she was a girl when she was a baby, so that would not have figured into my decision either way.

    But you know, a lot of people feel the same way about circumcision and that is routinely done in our culture, although I will grant you that *some* studies have shown possible health benefits, which isn't the case with ear piercing.

    I guess all I am saying is that I don't think ear piercing is horrifically cruel per se ... but personally I didn't see the need for jewelry on a baby.

    And when my daughter asks me (if she does) ... it will still depend a great deal on how old she is, because I think a little girl should be mature enough to care for her earrings herself and keep the piercings clean so that they don't get infected.

  7. I waited until my daughter turned 10 years old.  I told her when she turned 10 she could get studs.  She was so excited.  When we got to the ear piercing place, she got cold feet.  I told her that is okay, and we went home.  The next week she wanted to try again.  This time she got it done and she was very proud of herself.  I let her want to do it, not force it on her.

  8. well in my family its actually tradition that grandma pierces the baby's ears during their first week of life since they wont be able to remember the pain in 5 minutes. plus their skin is so soft and tender, the ear ring goes right through. my daughter didnt cry at all, so it just depends on your point of view.

  9. I don't see why anyone finds it acceptable... you can pierce your ears at any time in your life, so what's the hurry?  It's not excruciating pain, but for a baby it's totally unnecessary to put them through the experience, plus the risk of an allergic reaction or infection.  There are so many problems... why risk it?

  10. I agree, not for the pain aspect only though. I think it's wrong to make that decision for your child. They can get them when and if they want them. Personally I've never had mine pierced and I like it that way, I'm glad my parents didn't decide for me.

  11. You're absolutely right. Parents should wait until the child can choose for themselves. Have you heard of that one family that changed their baby's s*x because he was pretending he was a girl? Just because he was PRETENDING! Those idiots! Now the poor child is so confused because he thinks that he is a girl but he has to use the boy's bathroom. How horrible. Not that piercing the baby's ears is anything like this, but I still think that the parents should ALWAYS wait to learn the child's beliefs and choice on what they want to do to their own bodies. You only get one after all. Shouldn't you be able to choose what you do with it?

  12. It's a personal issue really. It varies from mother to mother. My mom had my ears peirced when I was a baby, and I turned out fine. Then again, My friend got her ears pierced at 16. I can understand why you would be so worried, because it looks (and is) painful for the baby. But she will forget about it. Either way, its fine.

  13. I agree with you not that it is cruel it is just the fact that the mothers were not told their children wanted their ears pierced.I too will let my daughter ask me if she can get her ears pierced before she ever has them done.It is sad though that most people do not see it this way.

  14. it's not that big a deal i don't mean to sound like a B*t*H but it's just that they do that so that the kid doesn't remember the pain instead of like taking a 10 year old she'll remember but also i've heard it doesn't hurt the baby that much. and if u numb the ears it doesn't hurt that bad. and it's not like your piercing the cartilage or anything?

  15. I think it's pretty horrible.

    I went to get my ears pierced about a month ago and I saw some woman in there about to get her baby's ears pierced.

    She started talking to me and I asked her why she didn't wait a few years to get it done.

    She was all "I don't want my baby girl looking like no boy."

    Haha. Why not just buy her a pink dress.

  16. I was going to do it as soon as possible after I had my baby if it was a girl, but seeing as how its a boy Im obviously not going to now. I think that its kinda like circumcision its a decision parents make to alter the appearence of there baby and yes it causes pain but very minimal and they wont remember it.

  17. Well, I'm not a mother, but I think it's fine, as long as the adult is responsible enough to take care of the baby's ears. Some cultures always pierce their baby's ears shortly after birth (a month or so). So either way, I don't mind. It doesn't bother me.

    But I would never do that to distinguish if it's a boy or girl, I'd do it only if it was part of my or my husbands culture, or if I knew I would have the time to take care of the baby's ears.

    But, some people are very irresponsible so THOSE people shouldn't be allowed to pierce their kids' ears.

    - Shelley  

  18. Well personally, I had my ears pierced as a baby, because yes, I looked like a little boy my mom says, and honestly I really don't see the problem with it. I mean, years later it's not like your kid is going to come back and say "hey mom, that really hurt when you pierced my ears." They aren't going to remember, and then down the line when your little girl DOES want to go get her ears pierced, she won't have to deal with the pain (which come on, it's not like it a lot) when she WILL remember it.  

  19. I think babys with earings look ccute but then I always start thinking about it and decide that it's not the best thing.  How do people know their kids even want earings.  Plus, earaches in kids are bad enough without having metal rods in them.  

    I always wanted earings but my mum made me wait till I was 13 and 'responsible' enough to care for them myself.  Sometimes I wished I hadn't.  Earings are fun but they're not all that great.  And I'd've hated having them as a kid.

  20. i don't think it's cruel. i think it's better when they're a baby because when they're older they are going to say "why didn't you do it when i was a baby? i don't want it to hurt" etc... so i think they would enjoy it when they're older, that you made that decision.

    and shots are neccessary. you need to have them done when you're a baby.

  21. well. you know. its like i thought about that too. but if you think about it, do you remember the pain when you were younger? like when you got shots when you were like 7 months old. you dont remember. and so you don't remember pain. and its better sooner than later. that way their like yay mom i dont have to go through that pain.

  22. I would never intentionally inflict harm on my child for vanity reasons. Just me personally.

    I got my ears pierced as a birthday present when I turned 6.

    I asked my mother for it, and it was a great present.

    If I have a daughter one day, she'll get her ears pierced when she's old enough to ask for them.

  23. I think its fine. Most of my friends who didnt have their ears pierced as babies never got it done. Now they are afraid. They baby is never going to remember the pain, which is very minimal I might add. And your daughter may never ask you if you do not take the initiative. It's better than getting it done when they are 4 or 5 because thats when i got mine done and I still remember crying today and I'm 17.

  24. i think its up to the mother. personaly we are going to wait till they are old enough to ask and know what they are asking for.

    if you do decide to get babies ears pierced i recomend going to a body piercer and not use a gun. guns cause more infections than needles and its less likely to mess up. oh and keep them very clean. it all hurts the same. babies just dont rember.

  25. I asked a question  about this as well a few months ago, my daughter is now 5 months old a piercing free and will be until the day she says she wants them.

    I wasn't even allowed to have my ears pierced until I was 11. I've been very pressured into getting them done by her fathers family, but i totally disagree now.

  26. I used to think it was cute until I was in a jewelry store and witnessed a baby getting her ears peirced.  It was terrible and she was being tortured for no good reason.  I felt sick to my stomach and so angry at her mother.  I'm pregnant with a boy and will have him circumcised.  There are medical benefits for that procedure and no benefits that I can find for ear peircing.  

  27. I think it's silly. What's the point? The baby can't enjoy them. In fact my niece had hers done when she was 3 months and by the time she was a year, she was pulling them out and losing them. She's 2 now and they've closed up. So it was pretty pointless in her case. I agree that a child should be able to ASK. I see no point in putting my baby through unecessary pain at such a young age. I was 8 when I had mine done and my dad still wasn't keen on the idea then lol. I'd never do it to my daughter til she's old enough to ask though.  

  28. Anyone that pierces their childs ears should be put in jail for child abuse.......

    Haha just playing I am all for piercing babies ears when they are young...  one they wont remember the pain and it only hurts for a couple of seconds and two its a lot easier to clean a babies ears than an older childs!  But really its up to the parent in the long run!  Get over it ive seen this same question over and over again!!

  29. well its up to you becuase your the mother ; however your daughter would want to get her ears pierced. But ; what you can do is ; is to get a family member or friend to get her ears pierced . And you wount be in the phase of my daughter has a hole in her ear ; and its my fault .  

  30. If they get it done as a baby, Then when they grow up and want their ears piercing and its already done for them so they dont have to go through as much pain as they are when they are older. As a baby i didnt remember anything about been a baby until i was about 5 years old thats when i 'woke up' and knew what was happening so i dont think the baby would really realise, and the good thing is that if they dont want their ears piercing they can take it out and let it heal x*x

  31. You are totally right.  My mom felt the same way thankfully and didn't get my ears pierced as a baby.  She felt that it is my right to decide whether or not I want pierced ears.  So, she waited until I could speak for myself.  I got them pierced in 5th grade.  I hated it and let the holes close.  Also, it's really painful!  There's nothing wrong with individuality, and it really doesn't matter.  There's plenty of other types of jewelry you can wear without putting holes in your body.
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