How do you feel about strippers at a bachelor party?

Question

Would you let your fiance have them?

Would you let your boyfriend or husband go to one?

Answer 1

Heck no!

Answer 2

I would be OK with my fiance having a bachelor party at a strip club.  I've been to a couple of clubs (and I think that anyone who wants to pass judgment on the "exotic entertainer" profession should see it in action at least for a few minutes so they see what all *doesn't* go on in a club) and they are harmless IMO.

What I would have a problem with is the bachelor party happening in a private residence where a stripper was hired to come in and perform.  I have known one of these "home entertainers" and she admitted to me that if the guys offered enough money she would do more than she advertised - like give oral or have intercourse.

In most states the clubs and bars are very legitimate and follow the local laws in order to stay in business.  The private entertainers are far more likely to break the laws involving touching and so forth, and have no "club rules" to follow.

In the end, my fiance is an adult and I cant make him do anything, but I would certainly express my feelings about it.  If he chose to go to a bachelor party with a private stripper I wouldn't like it but I wouldn't punish him for it either.  No matter how much I don't like it, I trust him.

Answer 3

h**l no. Its not about trusting your man, what about the woman? Some women will go after a man regardless whether or not he has a ring on his finger. It just a bad situation. The only time I would let him go is if Im going too!!!

Answer 4

If you cant trust your man to do the right thing and be faithful when there are strippers around then you shouldnt be getting married int he first place.

Answer 5

What kinda girl would want a guy that spent the night before the wedding (or whenever) with strippers?? Good Grief..

Answer 6

Strippers at a bachelor party are fine with me. I prefer if they actually go to a strip club where the rules about touching the stripper are pretty strict. Having s*x with a hooker right before marriage? That's a no go. I saw a group of guys take their friend to a brothel for his bachelor party. If I were that bride, I'd be devestated that A: He slept with someone else while we're a committed couple and B: that his friends had so little respect for me that they'd take him to have s*x with another woman.

Honestly, if your man is going to cheat, there are plenty of women who AREN'T strippers or prostitutes who will make themselves available to him. If he's a keeper, he's not going to cheat even if a naked woman is jumping out of a cake in his honor.  

Answer 7

Yes I would allow it.  I trust him.

Answer 8

No, No, No, No, and Nooooo.....

In fact (hehe, this is a little Catholic humor) my fiance said he was going to take his brother to a monastery for his brothers bachelor party and make sure he wasn't gonna miss the single life and the opertunities it held for him, especially the priesthood.

for my fiance's bachelor party he just wants to go hang out with his brother and his friend and talk.  guess I got lucky!

Answer 9

ALAINA,

HI[= HONESTLY I WOULD LET MY FIANCE HAVE ONE,I HAD A BOYFRIEND FOR 4 YEARS NOW AND I THINK ITS ALMOST TIME TO WALK DOWN THE ISLE. RIGHT OFF THE BAT I ASKED HIM ABOUT THE BACHLOR PARTY,IM LETTING HIM HAVE ONE BUT I DONT WANT DETAILS ! IM LETTING HIM BECAUSE ITS A GREAT TRUST BUILDER,HE EFF'S UP ONE NIGHT AND ITS OVER.I THINK THE IDEA IS ACUTALLY GREAT !

MY BOYFRIEND HAS BEEN TO A FEW,I ACTUALLY ATTENDED BOTH BUT I HAVE CAME LATER,WHEN THE BOYS GET TIRED AND WANT MORE GIRLS THERE.ITS A CRAZY EXPERIANCE.ITS LIKE HIGHSCHOOL ALL OVER FOR ONE NIGHT !

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Answer 10

It's not a question of "letting" him; he's not a possession or a pet! It's a question of a woman being uncomfortable about it.  I'm fine with it. The whole stripper thing is a new (not like a few years new, but last 40 years new) tradition.  Back a hundred years ago it was actually the night before where the "best man" would take the new groom and close friends out to have a few drinks and calm the soon to be grooms nerves.  A night of encouragement and support for the nervous guy.  But, if strippers is what it takes nowadays, I guess go for it! :)

Answer 11

first of all they better not be showing any nudity or else i will kick his ***. anyways i will give him better on my wedding night..

Answer 12

I wouldn't exactly be thrilled about it, but I trust my husband and I wouldn't guilt him about it if he wanted to go with his friends.  If he lied about it it would be a different story, but otherwise I don't consider it any different than pornography.  As long as he hasn't done anything wrong and he comes home to me at the end of the night, then he can do what he pleases.

Answer 13

I would not "let" or not let my fiance do something. He's a grown man. I would strongly discourage him from going to a party with strippers because frankly, if someone is going to have stirppers at a party they're probably expecting that no one will be willing to come. And if he was the sort of man who would be comfortable with strippers we probably wouldn't even have become friends, let along gotten engaged.  

Answer 14

i had one at mine and it was EXTREMELY awkward.  not like it is in the movies.  and my then fiance went to a strip club, he didn't really like it either

Answer 15

I definitely would.

Whenever my bf's friends go to stripclubs I always push him to go with them. I;ve even given him money to get dances!! I don't want him to be the jerk who doesn't spend money!

I'm not stupid, I can recognize a beautiful woman & appreciate it, you have to admit the female form is beautiful. They have done studies showing that while men look for beauty in short term relationships, a warm & loving personality comes first when looking for something serious, followed by beauty (Ive taken relationship classes in college.)

It's not a big deal to me if my man sees another girl naked, it's just flesh, just a body, your soul's vessel & nothing more. My bf & I love each other & have a strong relationship. While he can appreciate a beautiful woman, the sight of one doesn't make him question our relationship or love, he'll always come home to me both literally & figuratively, both physically & emotionally.

Honestly ask yourself why this would bother you.** Seriously think about it, even write the reasons.

I think most girls get upset about it because that's the reaction they think they're supposed to have, they're just following what they think our 'cultural norms' are.

Another reason is that girls are insecure in their relationship & who they are. Your man LOVES you! He wants to marry you & be with you, & only you, for the rest of his LIFE!! What are you worried about? Seeing some naked girl isn't going to change this, he's not going to want to sleep with her or be with her. Have faith in your relationship.

There are 2 times where a guy going to a strip club is a problem.

1: The guy goes all the time & wastes a lot of money he should be spending on his family.

2: The guy lies about going to his gf. I would definitely be mad if I was lied to about anything.

I know girls who have worked a bachelor party & I know guys who have gone to one. It's just a show, harmless entertainment. A lot of times girls bring a bouncer (who either stands their or is waiting outside), who ensures there's no touching or funny business.

Honestly, I used to be a dancer (I only worked in a strip club, I never did private shows). I think it's really funny how many girls said things about not trusting the girl & about the girl going after their man, This is a JOB to those girls, nothing more. Dancers don't go after the customers. It's really an acting job, & when you're in your 'role' you just don't look at guys in that way, you;re just looking for money, lol. The girls usually make fun of all the guys in the back & talk sh*t about them. Plus, most dancers have bf's they've met outside of the club (even though they all tell the guys they're single because it affects their money). I have occasionally seen a girl start to date a customer, but only after they've built up a relationship over a long period of time.

Dancers just dance - they're NOT hookers, and most don't let guys even touch at all. Of course there are bad apples (there are s***s working at ever job. . .), who will do 'extras.' I even knew 1 girl who was actually a prostitute. These girls are few & far between, & I know a lot of customers who are disgusted by dirty girls like that (it's just not hygienic). You know your man, & I am sure he is way above paying for p*ssy, especially when he has such a loving, wonderful woman for him at home. . .

I know girls who have worked a bachelor party & I know guys who have gone to one. It's just a show, harmless entertainment. A lot of times girls bring a bouncer (who either stands their or is waiting outside), who ensures there's no touching or funny business.

Usually the girl will just do a strip tease, give some lap dances, & maybe do some little shows. (I knew a girl who could shoot out grapes,  or pick up dollar bills with her snatch...)

It's meant for some good laughs, some fun. . .

**talk to your fiance about it! Ask him what he's seen at previous bachelor parties or at strip clubs (obviously from before you came around. . .). This way you can see what it's all about. If you are nervous at all, even if just a little bit, tell your man. *Tell him that you completely trust him but that you can't help getting a little nervous, just because you love him so much. Tell him that you're nervous about the girl being inappropriate. . . Opening up & talking to him will ease your fears.

Ask him what he expects will happen.

Talk to the best man about it, such as what he's expecting & what you're worried about. If you're nervous, you should definitely talk to the girl BEFORE hand! A lot of companies let you interview the girl ahead of time. Maybe you and the best man can pick out a girl together & both be involved in the interview process. Ask her what her usual bachelor party routine is. . .

You should be worried more about girls at bars/clubs trying to pick up on your man that about strippers trying to. . .

BOTTOM LINE:

*Honestly list reasons you are for/against this

*harmless entertainment

Answer 16

My fiance loves me more than anything in the world! Knowing this, I have absolutely NO problemw ith him looking at naked women. Because i know he wouldn't dream of hurting me. It's innocent fun. Besides, if you're going to marry someone in the first place you have to have trust in them & know that they only have eyes for you.

Answer 17

My FI is at his bachelor party right now. No strippers or strip club...because it was a problem for me. Last year he went to a bachelor party and they went to a strip club and his friends bought him lap dances. It bothered me and I find it disrespectful.

I think it is up to the couple to decide. I do think that there is this prevailing attitude that men and women should engage in lewd behavior at their parties in the name of tradition.

Answer 18

I would have no problem with my fh going to a strip club for his bachelor party. I'd rather them go there than hire a stripper, but I would be ok with that too. I know my fiance well and I know he doesnt really like them all that much and I trust him, if I didn't I wouldn't be marrying him... Its a personal choice I suppose. Some women might not be happy with the idea...its up to them..