How do you feel when you see a family where the woman is the head instead of the man?

Question

What goes through your mind when you see a family where the woman is the basic head of the family and the man takes on the less-traditional role? Where, say, the woman "brings home the bacon" and the father is the "stay at home" parent, and the woman is in charge of the money and such?

(Personally I don't think "roles" would work for me, equality is far, far better as one spouse should not be in charge over another--- male or female. I can't see myself as the traditional housewife. For some people I understand roles in a family work to a perfect extent, many women love being the housewife and men the worker and such...however, in society that is changing-- so what do you think?)

Answer 1

Isn't it possible that some men are better nurturers than some women.    And if those men should meet women that are better "breadwinners" then why not?

Answer 2

no different

Answer 3

If the wife/mother is the head of the house, I would think its because the man of the house prefers to take a step back and not have the responsiblities.

Its hard to generalise, there are different circumstances for each scenario, but this would have been the first thought.

Answer 4

I would wonder if he was lazy and weak, and if she was taking advantage of that because of her power hungry and controlling nature (like some arrogant men do to unconfident women). I would THEN also wonder if that is false and if they both genuinely are good people who truly enjoy their circumstance.

EDIT: I know I will get thumbs down for this answer, however, it is an honest answer. I like to question both sides of the situation; are they genuinely happy or are they in an unhealthly relationship? It is expected to say, "I think only positive thoughts when a man is not even equally in charge. Instead of defaulting to that statement,  I'd rather question the situation to get the truth of the matter.

Answer 5

I think those people should read a little bit of the Bible. It says in there somewhere(I forgot the exact place) that the man should be the worker, and be dominant of the house, and the woman should take care of the house.

Answer 6

I have to say that I have never come across a successful family of this type, in  my life,whenever as woman achieves any sort of advancement in this world, she always suddenly, becomes aware, that it is "her" money, not "theirs", anymore, such as Olivia Newton John,  Cher,  etc, they all dump their husbands straight away, to go solo, many of whom also dump their children as well.....it seems that many men are no longer suitable to their new image, like an old handbag, they are goners, when the woman is successful.

The reverse is not true for men, at least until they get to middle age, anyway...so I question whether the women in the cases above, were ever in love, and fell out of it, or did they just settle for what was available for the time being, knowing that they could dump the men when something better came along.

in simple terms, I quote ( from Dorothy Parker, )

When you says your are his , shivering and sighing , and he says his  love for you, is eternal, undying, lady make a note of this, one of you is lying.....

And womens behaviour when they gain the upper hand, financially tells us which one that is..........

Answer 7

My first thought would be is he lazy and weak, sick or maybe even g*y?

My second thought would come by looking at their actual living situation. Is he just unemployed at the moment? is he retired? Is he a bum? Why are they in this role reversal? That would either cancel or confirm my first thought.

My third thought would be about the children. If my first thought was confirmed then I would know that the children will be a mess as the boy will have no role model to show him how to control his natural aggressive behaviors. The girl will be taught to be over bearing and with angry attitudes that goes against her nurturing nature.

This situation is exactly the same as a single mother raising kids with a part time live in boy friend in any apartment complex across the nation. The terrible results of which have been documented in study after study.

Glad you asked

Answer 8

Unnatural ... immoral ... secular humanist post modern relativist marxist

Answer 9

Gross and unGodly and a died on sin!!!

Women like me and you are suppose to be the butts of lions not the head!!! We are to cook, rub are men, and clean and have babies not take head thats wrong.....oh dear the pie : (

Answer 10

I think the father is a lazy ninny poo. It would be nice if they were both bringing home the bacon. Traditional is always best. Tell homeboy to get a job