How do you find joy in the middle of being a single mom

Question

With all the obligations I find it overwhelming at times. I also get lonely in the midst of it all. Anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

It's definitely overwhelming... But I find joy every time I look in my son's face!  I know that sounds cheesy but it's so true.  :)

I also get lonely sometimes, but that's when I try to call friends and family and go visit, they always are up for a visit with Johnny anyways, so it works out, lol

Answer 2

the joy is in every smile,hug and laughyou see and hear coming from your child. as for your loneliness try joing parents with out partners. they plan outtings both with your children and evenings without the children. my father joined this org. when i was a young girl and we all enjoyed the outings.

Answer 3

I'm a single mom of 2 and I definitely know it can be overwhelming.  It's important to find time (even just a few hours) for yourself.  Get a teenage babysitter, close friend, neighbour, family member to watch your kids and go out.  If you're low on cash, just go for a drive, walk/hike, go to Chapters and read a book.  If you can spare the money, take a course in something that interests you.  

I personally take joy in knowing what a beautiful relationship I'm building with my kids.  I often feel bitter about their dad's lack of involvement, but it's his loss; and I just think of how close they are to me.  I also take joy in feeling like I have control over my life.  When I was married, everything had to be a joint decision, but now I decide where I want to live, how to decorate, what I buy for my kids, how I discipline my kids.  I do get stressed easily, but I also feel very empowered as a single mom.

Answer 4

I don't know how old your child is, but they will be your world. You will meet some one who will love you and your child but right now you just have to keep it together and know that your child will always love you and respect you. They will have a greater respect for you knowing that you raised them on your own, and the troubles you went through and all the love that you showed.

just hang in there

Answer 5

The joy? Your children are going to have the utmost respect and love for you. They will grow up knowing that you have made every single choice in your life for them.

Oh and when that seems too far fetched? Buy a pint of Ben & Jerry's and come to Yahoo Answers to make you feel not quite so alone.

Answer 6

i'm in the same boat although i am in a relationship. You know what i mean. I'm stuck at home with the kids and hubby works. He gets home and doesn't help. Just like i was a single parent.

The kids are your joy. You have  to see life through their eyes and just laugh when they laugh. Just hearing them laugh make me laugh and smile. You take life one minute at a time if necessary.

Answer 7

My ONLY joy as a single parent was my children. Their hugs, kisses, smiles and I love you mommy (s) were the only things that got me through some very difficult years. They didn't care what they ate, what they wore, had no idea the bills were past due.......all they cared about was that they had their mommy and that was enough to make them happy!

Just remember to treasure what you do have and do not sweat about what you don't have. It will somehow all work out in the long run.......it always does.

Answer 8

Oh dont live your life miserable

TAKE THE KIDS OUT

Buy them ice cream

pamper them for the day then get a babysitter and have a girls night out

dont waste time have fun :)  

Answer 9

i am a single mom of 3. i love it tho, other than my kids i have no worries, my kids go to there dads every wensday and every other weekend. the weekend my kids dont go to dads they go all day that sunday,so i have time for me. the days i have my kids are busy running  work and house cleaning. but i do have a guy in my life he is really sweet, and he is starting to talk about rings and stuff i think thats just crazy.

Answer 10

look in your kids eyes beieve me it will work

Answer 11

THe joy part is easy for me, I just sit back and look at my kids growing up and smile remembering when they frustrate me what I was like at that very same age, I live through their experiences smiling with them and trying to be a wall for them when they need support, I get my own smaller pleasures driving my car or walking smelling the fresh air and admiring nature around me and try not to get to caught up in the trials and tribulations of life. I also greet my kids with a smile always. Its not easy but there are simple ways to smile every day.

Answer 12

I find joy in the little things... how my son gives the best hugs in the world, how he has the most adorable laugh anyone has ever heard (seriously- it's cute), how no one else can make me feel so important and like there is a real reason that I'm even here, the look on his little face when he's sleeping and the comfort of knowing we made it through another day in one piece lol. Those things make me realize that even though it's hard I wouldn't trade my life for anyone else's. A good margarita never hurts either. =]

Answer 13

Make the time to STOP and tell yourself to enjoy the kids while they are young.  It's not easy to remember when your living life.  Use a little psycology on yourself

Answer 14

As a 19yr old single mom of a 3yr old little boy. I too find it hard but you gotta do what you gotta do.