How do you forgive? ?

Question

I used to take care of several rabbits, but the family dog killed them all several years ago. I've hated him ever since. I can't really explain it. I just hated him every time I saw him. He passed already, but sometimes I think about him and start to feel bad. I know it's not like it was an actual person or anything, but I feel bad because I actually hated him.

How do you learn to forgive?

Answer 1

The best way to forgive, I have found, is to perform the following steps.

Step one: Write a letter to the person/thing/dog that you are angry with.

After you have gotten out all the reasons why you were angry, have an adult help you go on to the next step which is

Step two: Burn the letter.

Later, after you have done this, get into a comfortable position and clear you mind. Then go on to step three which is to visualize whatever hurt you, person, or dog, and imagine telling them why they hurt you.

Really get the anger out. Then, tell them that they are forgiven, and in your mind imagine that they are being set free. I like to think of them floating down a river, or floating off in a hot air balloon.

After this, every time you think of the person, thing or dog:) say the affirmation: I forgive you, I release you and I set you free! And I am free too!

Another way to forgive is to take a hot bath with some epsom salts, and to imagine all the anger that you have going into the bath water, and then when you get out, visualize all that hurt going down the drain.

I personally have found that a combination of all of these things is most effective when trying to forgive an old hurt.

Remember, you forgive to let yourself stop being angry! Forgiveness does not make what someone did right, it just means that you are no long REALLY angry!

Best wishes to you! And good luck!

Answer 2

i can totally understand why you'd feel bad. i still feel bad for the baby chick that i dropped when i was 3. you just have to remember that its not like you mistreated the dog, you just kinda had a little hatred towards him, im sure the dog didnt even know it and he still loved you. you'll be fine : ]

Answer 3

It takes time.

Answer 4

Just by forgetting, you are already forgiving