How do you get a beautiful personality?

Question

and be nice? i mean if you get one of those you won't be ugly right? so then i could stop dieting and depression and all that c**p. so how to get happy too?

don't say 'just accept yourself' i try very hard, but when i get too low i get mean, grouchy and my weight goes up and down from underweight to podgy.

but i want to be deeper then all that shallow grossness, i saw a girl who would be considered ugly, but because she was so wonderful she glowed and had a beauty i couldn't put my finger on. i think that is a nice person.

anyway before i ramble on how can you be happy? beautiful personality, kind and unjealous?

:) thankyou and awnser nice :)

Answer 1

well all i can say is that it all begins by loving urself

Answer 2

honestly, read this book called "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff."  It teaches you a lot of things that you already know, but don't really put to use.  Like, one chapter is "Be Patient."  People don't really know how much that helps others see you.

Answer 3

I would say remove all people setting a negative tone, and replace them with nicer people, and hopefully they will rub off on you. Next time you do or say something mean think of how the other person feels and always apologize first, even if you think you've done nothing wrong. You should also find some things in your life that make you really happy, and if you're feeling sad, think about them.

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Answer 4

There isn't a quick fix. Be the kind of person you would want to know. It's that simple. But it's not going to happen overnight. It is a process.

Answer 5

Be nice to others even when u don't feel like it, doing nice things will make u feel better!

Smile even when theres nothing to smile about because you can trick ur mind and shortly u will feel happy

Give others complements and they will return the gesture

Take baby steps and soon u wilfeel the difference

Have a happy life cause ur glass is 1/2 full!!!!!

Answer 6

step *) smile - its beauty seeping out without judgement

step *) show kindness - like this saying i heard one, no act of kindness ever goes unnoticed

step *) confidence - nothing makes a girl more attractive than when she wears a sense of confidence, surpasses all the makeup in the world

step *) be yourself - being fake gets you no where exept a plastic personality

step *) love yourself - when you love yourself, others will too

well there it is. no particular order, but i believe these are the true steps to inner beauty

Answer 7

By being yourself.

Answer 8

You get the one youre born with

you can be summin youre not

Answer 9

It' s Just a part of who you are ...It starts with in.

Answer 10

I think education is key.  Being well read, up on current events and just knowledgeable so that you can carry on a meaningful conversation.  Education and experience give a person perspective.  

It really does come from inside and has to start with you not just liking yourself as-is, but loving yourself wobbly bits and all.  You cannot find your happiness in other people, when you find yourself alone and happy with yourself and life decisions, then that is the time to invite and test healthy relationships with others.

You also must have the people skills to deal with situations so that ugly green envy monster does not surface.  I myself am not a jealous person at all.  What for?  If someone has something I like or does something I'd like to do...I work so I can have or do the same thing.  If friend talks behind my back, I don't lash out.  I figure the friendship wasn't as strong as I thought and move on.  it will either work itself out or not.  Someone with a beautiful personality isn't the type to get into cat fights with other women.  Life is to short for that c**p.

Answer 11

think of everything positively.

Answer 12

I know you don't want to hear it, but.. just be yourself.

Be compassionate, do everything you do with passion. (Not romantically, just.. full of life, kind of.) Have fun. Don't let other people's opinions bother you. Think positively, and accept all the bad in life along with the good. (I go by "Everything happens for a reason.")

Can't really think of anything else.. there's no sure-fire way to 'be happy'. Just do what makes your happy. (:

Answer 13

1. The basic principle of etiquette is to make the other person comfortable. Sometimes this requires you to subordinate your own desires or tell a social lie.

2. Most people would rather talk about themselves than anything else. Learn to ask questions that will draw other people out. Ask open-ended questions, ones that cannot be answered "yes or no."

3. Strive to be genuinely interested in other people.Learn to listen. Learn to ask questions like "How does that make you feel? How did you get started doing that kind of work? I have observed that the reasons that people start something and the reasons that they continue it are often different. Has that been your experience? What has kept you coming back to your work?

4. Become an expert on something, anything. Learn about pigeons or nuclear physics or baseball strategy, the formation of American political parties, anything. Once you start to acquire that kind of knowledge, the world will beat a path  to your door.

5. Learn to cook. Start with simple things, such as cookies, or soup from scratch. Keep cooking, keep learning. Remember that there are millions of recipes on the Internet. You only need to Google any two ingredients and the word "recipe" and you will get 348,000 recipes.

6. The combination of being able to cook, listen to others and carry on a conversation will make you an outstanding hostess, and that is the basis of a lot of social skills.

Answer 14

I know what you mean and when you find it please let me know..  I think that people (including me) are just pissed at ourselves for god knows what, and it comes out by being ugly (personality wise)... or we were just born with it...after all, if we had a beautiful personality we would be just about perfect don't you think...We can't have everything!

Answer 15

Be moral, confident, kind, joyful and think of others higher than yourself.  People are attracted to these qualities.  To be joyful, accept Christ into your heart who gives joy that is beyond understanding, and be thankful for the small things that we take for granted.  The glow you speak of is the radiance of God's glory.

Answer 16

Jof a mile or two every morning ( i just did)....also watch what you put in your mouth. Eat banans, apples, carrots, rasins, beans, wheat bread, south beach diet mixed fruit bars, drink nothing but water. Never drink calories like sodas, coffe, and juices.

Also read your Bible, go to a great church, & talk to GOD, He's the only thing that can truly help you.

Answer 17

Well I am pretty not gorgeous but i'm not ugly and not ok I am good looking haha but I have a "fan site" beceause I am told I light up the room but I just get people and give advice I am nice to even the worst people not fake at all uuum I hang with all clicks at schools and stuff defend the nerds and kick it with the thugs and play with the jocks I guess just be a very chill person and be cool with everyone. Being funny helped me a lot I got myself known around campus in the second day with the nickname "Funny girl" after that I was known. Ha.  

Answer 18

I had the same problem as you have .. I use to see people and wished I could be like them, so natural and confident.. people that shine and have a lot charm.

In the end I realised I was trying to hard.. So I relaxed and stoppped thinking to much on how people percieved me. It was hard.. but it worked, and now I'm happier and more charming than ever.

Something that helped too was finding a hobby, something that I was good at. Sport helps too ;)

Answer 19

There are a lot of factors which can change our personality for the best or for the worst.The most important are:

1.family:it's how you grow up into your house.What you take from your family as a lesson or just like an influence.

2.school:it's almost crazy but what you teached can change you.

3.society:where you live can affects you.

4.you:finaly yourshelf.Even if you have bad relation with your family, your school or ''your'' society you can think as you want.(as difficult it is)



I think its also important to know  that even the best personalities can be bad sometimes and the worst can be good.

Remember:Your personality is the "face" of you life.

Answer 20

1.you have to learn how to be your own best friend

2. dont take life seriously learn to laugh more

3. try to see the beauty in everything

4. this is true that no one out there is happy with there self

they could look perfect but they will never be happy with what they look like

5. if u can learn to accept your self u can learn to accept others

and you will be much happier

Answer 21

buy getting interests and living an interesting life not by being a stick in the mud

buy having interests you will not worry about pulling other people down. too many shallow a holes in the world already

Answer 22

You develop it slowly over time. It's not a one-day transformation.

Jealousy is part of human nature. You can't be unjealous of anyone because that's just unnatural. You'll be mean sometimes, but no one is expected to be nice 100%. Happiness is what you make of it.

Answer 23

Get hobbies and passions. Passionate people are beautiful people.

Some of the best advice I ever heard was, "Nothing that happens is good or bad, it simply is. What is good or bad is how you react to different situations."

Answer 24

I think its about being peaceful. When you have a peaceful spirit it just shows from the outside. Your soul is full of love, honesty, appreciation. That doesnt mean being nice all the time. We're only human and we get mad, we make mistakes. I also think its something you realize with time. It comes with life, with age, and experience. I think you need to realize the value of all life, and see the beauty in it. Its hard to begin to see things that way, because you cant always trust your perspective. You need to see things from the bigger picture in order to stop yourself from being judemental or other negative ifluences.

Answer 25

you need to pray to God and ask Him to help you have a nice and beautiful personality. but God wont give it to you, He will give you the OPPORTUNITY to be kind and nice. only God can help you. spend time praying to Him and He will make your path straight.

Answer 26

a beautiful personality is cultivated by:

1.  Being honest with yourself and everyone else

2.  Time

3.  Believing the best of yourself and everyone elese

4.  Time

5.  Being willing to trust yourself and others who you are close to.

6.  Time

7.  And finally, not taking yourself to seriously, and learning how to make yourself laugh at yourself.

It is an interal thing, before it becomes external.

I too and working on this journey (and there really is no destination, that's what makes it an adventure!)

:-)

Answer 27

you cant really be nice over night

it take time and you have to change completely

Answer 28

spend time with me for personaility ;)

Answer 29

Beutiful girl, the only thing that keeps me going is my church, will you please look into it? You can email me cause i'll get bashed online, any religion talk does   [e-mail].

         I am a jelous person, i used to have a horrible habit of hitting my siblings that went on so long it was breaking my heart. He helped me learn to get pretty much over that after trying so long without His help.  

         I know what you mean girls of my religion sparkle. I used to look up to this girl who shone so bright it was unbelivable.  

         Ya you can be like that but give me a chance to show you what i believe you can learn to love yourself.

         Oh and listen to my favorite song, it's by Jewl. That song is how i target who i want to be and who i am.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6EPyWfrqw...

Answer 30

You have to want to do better.  If you don't sincerely want to get there, it'll never happen.  I hope you do.  good luck.

Answer 31

I absoloutely agree, some people's personality's shine so bright regardless of what they look like!

For me the key to happiness lies in what I NEED. I know I probably sound selfish, but to give out good vibes you need to do what's best for you! I'm jealous of complete strangers all the time. The problem is that I immediately picture them to be successful in every aspect of their lives, which 9 times out of ten will be totally wrong! So there's no need to be jealous because we all have problems (sometimes hidden). And being kind is tricky as you can make yourself vulnerable if your too nice! You are a beautiful personality, stop worrying about what other people think of you and just be yourself. You are just as good as anyone. Don't forget it!