How do you get a long with a rude, disrespectful, selfish, negative sibling?

Question

This may sound weird to some of you! There are four girls in my family, my older sister who is 28, me and my twin are 27 and my younger sister is 25. My older sister is the meanest person you could possibly ever meet, honestly. She makes fun of everyone, including her family members and most times she is very hurtful (she thinks she is funny). My younger sister and her don't even talk anymore. My question, how do you deal with a sibling like that? I am 20 weeks pregnant and she keeps telling me not to be excited because something bad can happen! OMG! I know something bad could happen but let me worry about that thank you! Me, my twin and her all work together - family business - I can't even stand the sight of her. She makes me feel bad about myself all the time. How would you handle her? Remember, she is my sister!

Answer 1

You oughta beat her. If she's your sibling you should straighten her out before you hurt yourself.

Answer 2

My Oldest sister is mean, but I ignore her ever since she moved OUT of the house.

Answer 3

I have one too.  I ignore mine.   Good luck with yours

Answer 4

how do i get along with a rude ,disrespectful,selfish,negative sibling?

       answer= she is a spoil brat and a trouble maker,if you want peace,ignore her ,and stay far away from her,just because she is a sister,does not give her the right to bully others,life is precious and very short ,try to find peace,do not answer her ,and she will stop.

               take care, all the best and god bless.

                   source= when i was growing up ,we were 10 kids,and a strict father ,i am thankful to my father for being so strict,we had no time to bully our brothers or sisters.

          

Answer 5

I would follow your younger sister's lead. Just because she is a sister doesnt give her the right to make everyone else miserable. One person can destroy an entire family. You can either confront her, in which case she will shift all blame on you and not take responsibility for her own attitude, or you can find a new job and cut her off so you can have some peace in your life, or you can continue to let her stress you out for the remainder of your life. Imagine the affect she will have on your child as it grows up. That is not an influence I would allow in my childs life.

Answer 6

Wow. I know how you feel because me and my sister used to have a relationship like this. Be sure to bear in mind that you shouldn't burn your bridges because believe it or not, you and your sister WILL be very different people in just a few years....hopefully, you will both come to a good place in your lives where you can get along much better than now. (Like me and my sister, even though she is still melodramatic and condescending at times). I find that the way you deal with a difficult person will define you not only to yourself, but others observing. In other words, if you argue with an idiot, people watching will not be able to tell the difference! Do the unthinkable - be rational, and apply logic! You ask here why your sister would say such things to you at 20 weeks of pregnancy? That is the perfect thing to ask her yourself. Look her straight in the eye and say something like: "I'm sure you are not saying this to upset me, so can I ask you why, exactly, you are saying this to me? What purpose does this type of statement serve?" If she is going overboard making fun of people, DON'T JOIN IN. If you join in even occasionally, how can you justify that it is behaviour beneath you? YOU CAN'T. Don't be rude. Just don't add any fuel to the fire - or change the subject - or - say something nice about the person to turn the tone of the conversation. People that have the issues your sister has are usually suffering a lot themselves. She is your family, and no one can ever replace her, but familiarity inevitably breeds contempt! Perhaps the fact that she is NOT a twin and NOT the baby leaves her feeling left out - or maybe she simply thinks that she must somehow "control" her younger sisters because she's the oldest. Your goal should be in healing, and by that you must set an example, be bigger than the negativity, and NOT engage in gossiping about your older sister to your other siblings. I'm sure underneath all the drama, you all love each other - just like me & my sister. :) Good Luck!

Answer 7

tell her that nobody cares for her opinions anymore and that she is being rude selfish and negative and you will not put up with it. tell her that she is not funny and tell her to shut her mouth if she cant be nicer and that you dont want to hear another d**n word about YOUR pregnancy from her and she needs to keep her opinions to herself. you need to be firm when you say this so she gets the point and then ignore her and show that whatever she says has no affect on you. hope this helps

Answer 8

It's time for the old pepper in the panties treatment.

Answer 9

as she has no problem telling her thoughts you should tell her how you feel about her and let the chips fall where they may

Answer 10

as she is your sister.........confront her one on one and find out why she is so negative...maybe she has a problem she cannot confide to anyone about.............as you r pregnant this stress is not good for you now,,,,you both need to talk seriously and now....you r grown up....act that way...one of you has to take charge of the situation to resolve this...let it be you.

Answer 11

Have you talked to your parent(s) about her behavior. Does she carry herself professionally in the family business? You might want to let her know that she is the olders and the oldest should show respect to every one coming in the business door and you love her , but, her decission behavior are just childish and that she need to grow up. As a family decission for her to continue working Work is work and outside all fun but not around you and siblings if she continue to act in that sort of behavior. When smart remarks come out of her mouth, all you can do is to correct her in positive feedback and dont responed to her crazy mean remarks. For Ex: Did you you see that guys face its full of acne!  Your responded: You shouldnt make fun of him that not nice.(in a soft voice) he's one of our best account that puts food on the table. Remenber: always positive wisdom coming out of you. She will get the point.

Answer 12

Try to move on and forget what she says.  Any time you allow another person to make you unhappy, you are giving them control of your emotions.  Take back the power.  She is trying to get a rise out of you.

If you just have to say something, try saying something like....

1.  Sis, I'm really hoping that your negativity doesn't cause you to end up alone and unhappy, cause you know I love you.

2.  Sis, I'm sure you don't realize how mean that sounded, so, for now let's just pretend you said nothing.  Then hug her.

3.  Well thanks a lot sis, for your usual words of cheer and encouragement!!

Answer 13

i think u should worry more abt ur baby first ...u should learn to ignore such things ...all u can try is a gentel smile to ur sisters when they tease u ..otherwise u make ur own small world means u dont  talk much with them and also remain bussy in ur baby care and urself..............the last thing u can try is to talk with them in the presence of elders and take a strict desion wether u want them to talk to u or not ..that sit    

i hope u will be happy and ur problem will get solved

i will pray for u dear

Answer 14

i hope you take answers from a lil 14 year old girl~:]

[theres 2 possible answers]

1.) hmm lets seee...you say that she has been acting like this her WHOLE life huh...?? for once...have you tried giving her a taste of her own medicine??:] if she acts like that why wont both you and your twin sister do the same thing??? or you could always give her the silent treatment(since your pregnant its bad for the baby to be super mad all the time) give her the cold shoulder and don't look at her in the eye imagine she WASNT even around...i know my answer is suupper childish but why not give it a chance?:] it doesnt hurt to try~~ i did the same thing to my lil brother who almost got himself in juvi...and it worked~XD

P.S.

talk about random things with your twin while your big sis is around and if she makes a comment about it IGNORE IT just continue talking to your lil sis~xD let your twin sis read this too

2.) [heres the nice side of me]...........ask your older sister whats wrong...?its not normal for a person to be mean like this for NO apparent reason....maybe she's lonely...you have a twin right? maybe she wanted one? maybe she's jealous of you...since she is the older usually parents focus more on the lil ones maybe thats what she felt when you guys were still  kids...has she ever said anything like "MOM AND DAD LOVE YOU MORE THAN ME WHY???" or has she given you a CLUE about why she has been like this??? hope i helped you and your big sister....:] *i feel sad about this...TT.TT*

Answer 15

I would suggest that you just ignore her. I know it hard at a family business but try. She may just be jealous of you or other members of the family. Focus on be happy & healthy for your baby. CONGRATS!!

Answer 16

Do what your younger sister does and stop talking to her and stay away from her as much as you can.  Why do you let her make you feel bad about yourself when you KNOW it's just her being mean?  Sounds like she may be jealous of you being pregnant, so flaunt it in her face!