How do you get along with your baby father's mother?

Question

I can't stand mines, and have decided to cut contact with her completely. She has hurt me in so many ways, and I've finally decided to stop communicating with her. How do you get along with your baby father's mother?

Answer 1

I love her: ) We may not always agree and may argue sometimes but that's what moms and daughters do.  

Answer 2

Fine something in common with her, then build from there. You have to remember she is going to be around, because she is your child's grandmother. So if you do not want the drama between the two of you, find some common ground.

*Sometimes I wish adults act like children, they fight with their friend and 10 minutes later they forget that they fought and play like nothing happened...lol

Just be the bigger person, it shows a lot a maturity and this may force or encourage her to act the same.

Answer 3

With my oldest I have no contact with her. With my other kids grandma we get along fine. Last year there was an argument about "I don't think that's my sons child" but we took care of that real fast. I love paternity tests. All is great now.

Answer 4

I stopped talking to mine as well. She stresses me out so bad that I had to be prescribed Ativan (a benzodiazapine) for the anxiety.  I told my boyfriend to keep her away from me.  She came to my house yesterday to pick up something, and I did not let her in the door.  I handed her the stuff and promptly closed the door.  It felt SO GOOD!    Life's too short...ignore her and life a happy life!  Remember, your daughter may be related to the shrew-beotch, but YOU ARE NOT!!!!!   :-)

Answer 5

i have taken so much c**p from my mother in law!! ive let her live with us twice and she treated me S****y in my own house.  my husband finally seen it and i had had enuf and c**p flew and i told her she was not welcome in my house anymore and to leave.  i have her cell phone on my account and she hasnt paid it in over a year. i told her if she didnt pay her bill i was shutting it off, i cant wait for the day the bill is due!!! dont let her treat you bad its not worth it!!

Answer 6

You don't!  You'll never see 'eye to eye'...she's always taking her son's side during disagreements..........So.....try tolerating her as much as possible, and stay out of conversations with her as much as possible, as well  then she'll have no reason to accuse you of anything!!  TOLERATION......is the solution,  keep to yourself as much as possible but be nice to her whenever you can....after all she is grandma to your baby, forever and for always!!!

Answer 7

There is no rule that says that you have to talk to her at all.  She's not your mother, she's his.  If she wants any info about the baby she can ask him.  Screen the calls when she calls - don't answer the phone.  Don't answer the door. Keep the doors locked when you're home alone so she can't just walk in. If she's got a key-  have the locks changed.  You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of c**p.

Answer 8

My baby father's mother is my mother-in-law, and we cut all contact with her earlier this year.  She was basically ignoring our children, wouldn't even call or send a card for birthdays or Christmas.  She never called to see how they were doing, asked about them when my husband called, or asked for pictures of them.  If she has no interest in them, then she doesn't need to be a part of their lives and hurt them.  We have the power to prevent that pain, as parents why wouldn't we?

Answer 9

I, surprisingly get along with her quie well, although i disagree with some of the things she does and her visits always make me feel a lil apprehensive. As a mum to a 2 week old newborn, it's only natural i would want the best for my daughter, and my mother-in-law smokes, and reeks of it 24/7. I don't like when she wants to nurse my daughter after a smoke, or when she touches her face with smelly fingers. /she also tries telling me how to do things rather than offering advice which really gets on my nerves. and she also caused a bit of a stir when i had to formula feed my daughter (i know breast is best) due to medical problems.

I know she adores my daughter and would never intentionally hurt her, but i still would rather her mind her own business sometimes.

Answer 10

my own mother has hurt me, so i have stopped all communication with her... but my hubby's mother made me mad when she was judging my unborn child! i kept it cool in front of her because it was my hubby's birthday dinner but as soon as we left, my hubby heard an ear full!

Answer 11

OH Honey let me tell you this is a battle I have fought for 10+years now and I cant stand mine either, theirs ways to solve your problems, one don't go around her and when she comes to your house smile agree and go on, they yell at your man to blow off steam after she leaves, lol joking..thats what i do and it sucks but it keeps the peace and I don't have to be in her house.

**you cant just blow her off, I tried that so for your child smile agree and go on, its not worth it trust me I hate mine she has done some REALLY bad stuff but shes my kids grandma and for the I deal with her c**p, but your man should back you up and make her get off your a**

Answer 12

Mine is alright. We like each other, but she can get so annoying. I told her I do not like Winnie the Pooh, or Elmo stuff.............. what stuff does she get?! She says, "But they are so cute!" She is not doing it to be mean. She just likes that stuff, and says she feels we need it. She made me so  mad one day when she came to visit us. (she is from another state) I spent forever cleaning, cause one I want her to know that we have a nice clean house. Two I did not want her to do any cleaning. I cannot stand other people cleaning MY house. She said she was going to take a shower, and I saw her walking from the laundry room to the bathroom with a towel, and some Tilex cleaning foam. I was like what the h**l. She said she needed to clean the tub before taking the shower. I was like, "I clean it every week! I did it extra this week since you were coming!" It made me so mad!

Answer 13

Mine is awesome.  She's a totally sweet woman.  I love her.  However, I'm glad that she's in Colorado and I'm in Oklahoma.