How do you get along with your siblings?

Question

(After reading Scoobies question) How many of you have had a bad fight with a sibling? How close are you to them? Do you still fight? Have you always gotten along? Is it true that you can choose your friends and not your family? With that would you choose a different sibling?

My sister and I never got along. Even as kids. Today we still don't speak to each other. She lives in the UK and luckily and never I have to see her or have any contact with her. I think we have said about 2 world to each other in 15 years. I don't miss her as a sister because she was never a "sister".

Answer 1

I've an older brother who lives in the UK, and although I love him as a brother, he's very distant and self-centred; always has been, and haven't seen him in more than 6 years, and like Cat, I do not miss my sibling in the slightest. He hardly ever even calls to find out how his only niece is and forgets her birthday.

Answer 2

........I have a younger brother and we used to fight often when we were kids......we fight for the attention of our parents and who is much better for the two us.....but when we mature we bond together and became good buddies aside from helping each other out in times of need.......

Answer 3

I feel sad for you.

My brother and I had some nice fights as kids.  We went our separate ways.

Now he is among my best friends would hang with him more if he did not live so far away.  Yes I have driven the 200 miles just to hang out with him these days.

You need to reconcile why there are differences.

Answer 4

That is so terribly heart breaking and sad the words fail me. My sister and I are like day and night. Our hair colour and everything else are absolute opposites. The only things we have in common are our dimples and the love we feel for one another. Nobody would say we are sisters if they meet us together. Yet I have an almost painful undying love for her. We fight and argue but it never lasts long. I could not imagine my life without her. We have had a nasty argument recently and I threw the phone down in her face. She called for two weeks and I ignored her calls. I finally got over my anger and called her. I told her why I was angry and she told me why she was angry. The end of the argument was …I love you with all my heart, and hers was, I love YOU with all my heart.

And I truly do!

(She is in SA, Cape Town, I am in Germany, Munich)

Answer 5

i am the one in the family that friends of my parents never now off, when they see my picture hanging in my parents house they would ask who is this. So yes i am the one who left the small town for the big city

I get along rather well with my younger brother and sister but my older sister and me do have our fight every now and again maybe it is because she married an *%##  so it is starting to rubb of on her

Answer 6

My sister and I have a 10 year gap and I think thats why we never quite got along. We drove my mother nuts with our constant bickering. We were always at different phases of our lives all the time. However since I have left  school, every year we have become closer, because now we can relate to each other. I do feel sorry for you. Theres nothing like a sister to call when you lonely and bored.

Answer 7

I lost my eldest brother in 2001

I only met my eldest sister in 2005, we're still bulding the bond.

I'm not too crazy about my 2nd sister, she's everything I hate in some women and I also met her later in my youth.

then my brother who I've had an on and off relationship with. We get along okay, but he tends to p**s me off because he's one of those siblings who seem to think they can run your life and do better where they failed. I'm technically an only child as I am the only one between my mom and dad. Both my sisters have their own moms and my brother had a dad and my deceaced brother was a step son to my dad... - its complicated. I lived a life as an only child and cant say I ever really miss having a sibling or such as I never really had. My siblings grew apart from me and my closest friends were like my sisters /brothers. I did however adore my step brother, and wish i'd spent more time with him before he died.

Answer 8

I was very lucky that we as a family care for each other.  Although, as a child, I was the target of much teasing and tricks because, as the youngest, I was an easy target.

By the time I reached high school, we were all friends and could communicate decently with each other.  We went on outings together, were all members of the yacht club which was our weekend hang-out.

If any one of us needed help, one or more of the 4 of us would pitch up to help out, even although we lived up to 120 km apart! Perhaps the fatal parachuting accident of my eldest sister really bonded us together, but we were all over 30 by then.

I dearly miss my brother and my sister and their families still living in SA.  And it is a great pity that they are such duds on the PC. Luckily my brother´s mother-in-law and my sister´s daughter keep me up to date with a lot of the news.

Answer 9

I have one older brother, we used to hate each other when we were small....my parents said things will get better as we get older, it didn't really, now we see each other once a year at Christmas and we get on for a week, then he irritates me tremendously, but I will say this, I will always take his side whenever a third party is involved, because although I really do not like him that much, he is still my brother and I will do anything for him and help him in anyway I can.

Answer 10

My sister and I used to fight like cat and dog!! We hated each other. The reason being was that there is a big age gap of 8 years between us and although when I was just a baby she loved me when I become a child she would hate to be around me especially if she had friends around. We shared a room and that made things worse, I was always in her things and she hates that! I only wanted to be around her all the time because I looked up to her and loved her. I had no one else really who had the time of day, with both parents working and having two younger brothers who were so small not even old enough to walk. Everyone would fuss over them.

So I guess it was "middle child" syndrome. I remember the one day she brought her friends around and I wanted to go out with them but she said no, and she locked me in our room until my mom got home. She was in big kak but she didn't seem to care. I think the reason why she was like this was because she was at the teenage stage where you get moody etc. As I have found I get a bit cross with my younger brothers very easily, they also annoy me to death! But I still love them!



However, we have both grown up so much. I talk to her often and go visit her every year for 2 weeks and she comes to visit me every 6 months as she has more money than I do. I wish we lived closer together. We now appreciate the small things in life and our family. I can honestly say with my hand on my heart, I'd never give my sister up for the world. She gives me great advise and I do the same for her, we support each other a lot and I love her dearly and miss her very much.

Answer 11

Try my way to get along with them..(not actually)..

Get to know one of their secrets and they will always serve you so that you don't tell your parents!!!!!

GOOD LUCK!