How do you get back your bully status in primary school?

Question

My son was a certfied bully in preschool. He was the biggest in class then. But now that he's in a primary school in a multi-level class, he's mixed with bigger boys. And while he likes hanging out with the bigger boys than kids his age, i think he's getting bullied. I desperately want him to be a bully again!!!

Answer 1

Get both yourself and your son psychiatric help immediately.

Answer 2

OK... i dont mean so sound rude, but what the "beep" is wrong with you? You actually want you son to be a bully again?

What kind of a mother are you if you want your own son to pick on other kids for the pleasure?

Your son gets what he deserves since he was a bully. Im sure all those kids he used to pick on are laughing at your son.

Hurting others will come to bite you back.

Answer 3

That is a very selfish thinking.  Instead of discouraging, you are encouraging bullying?  

Everyone should live harmoniously, instead of splitting into bullies, the ones being bullied, and bystanders who condone the behavior.

Answer 4

Why exactly do you want your son to hurt others? Why do you want him to make others feel awful for his own self-security? Bullying is a sign of weakness. Do you want your son to be weak?

I'm just saying, consider these questions before anything else.

Just because he's getting bullied is no reason to make him bully someone else.

Try the school guidance counselor?

Answer 5

Oh look, a troll.

Answer 6

Let me get this straight, YOU want your son to be a bully?

YOU, your a terrible mother!!!

Your just teaching your son to be insecure. He won't have a good job and won't work well with others. Employers like team players and Universities like good records and letters of recommendation from the teachers.

Answer 7

glad youre not my parent

Answer 8

What about teaching him to love/respect himself as well as others. Things just work out better that way. Both him being the bully and the kid being bullied are signs that he is unhappy with himself. You need to help him work out the problems he has with himself 1st and the other stuff will just fall into place.

Answer 9

Why on earth do you want your child to be a bully?

Bullies ruin children's' lives, and can lead to depression, and in some serious cases, suicide. Bullies are ignorant to other children's suffering, and just want to exert their authority because of insecurity.

I myself was bullied when I was in the lower primary school years, and they were the worst years of my life. I absolutely hated my life, all because one person was making it a misery. Do you really want your child to take part in causing pain to another child or threatening them mentally?

That is horrible.

Answer 10

ok, even though i disagree with your view, I understand where you're coming from. He's your son. It's better to be the one doing the hurting rather than to be the one who hurts right?

But what about all the victims' mothers? How do you think THEY feel about THEIR sons being bullied? Not a heck of a lot better than you're feeling right now.

Have you thought of counselling for your son? People don't just start inflicting pain on others for the h**l of it...it might seem that way but it usually goes a lot deeper than that. Maybe he has some insecurity problems, is feeling neglected or something like that.

Try spending more time with him if you can and maybe he'll open up to you. And i know you don't want to hear this but this experience might be good for him to be the victim for once instead of the bully, just to see what it feels like. Maybe having experienced it, he might not be so eager to do it again. On the other hand, having been the victim, it would just encourage him that being 'on top' (as a bully) is the way to go so really, the best thing to do is stop this is whole cycle and find out why he was bullying kids in the first place.  

Answer 11

What goes around comes around. You have the wrong approach.

Answer 12

A lot of bullies do what they do because they are insecure and upset with their life at home.

So think to yourself.. what caused your sons previous "status"?

What kind of mother have you been and are you being?

Answer 13

Help him to start a gang, but them some tough-looking clothes, and show him how to intimidate the weaker kids. He'll soon regain the respect of his classmates.