How do you get her to STOP thinking about her EX?

Question

They broke up about 4 years ago already and I'm doing my best for 2 years going with her and still ongoing but she still thinks about him and got sad when I got rid of the gifts he gave her couple weeks ago after finding them in the closet. She begins to bring him up more in the conversation too and talk about all the nice things about him etc. I told her to stop a couple times but she just doesn't. A very spoiled brat....No intention of leaving but I would like her to stop.

Answer 1

ha i have had the same problem with my boyfriend. i constantly talked about how my ex boyfriend hurt me and i would sometimes mention good things. he basically had enough and got mad if i mentioned anything. now i can make a joke here and there , but if it is a constant thing i think it is because she wants attention. i know that's what i wanted. she just wants you to say "well i would never do that" or "i am so sorry that happened to you"... women sometimes like people to seek pity on them. i know not honorable but sometimes we need that validation we are worth something... even though we think we are worth it anyways.. lol. women are confusing ill admit that.

if this keeps on going on.. id have a talk. but not attacking just sharing your feelings in a calm in collective way. if she knows it hurts you.. she may stop. that is a big part of why i cut down to a minimum of talking about my ex, it made my boyfriend so confused and helpless. and i realized if i loved him as much as i say i do.. id try my best not to let that topic dominate our conversations.

be nice to her though! :)

Answer 2

you should tell her directly that u dont want to listen about him anymore (in a polite manner) tell her that you have feelings for her these two years with her were great n u want 2 spend more good time with her not talking about her ex.

bro it is necessary that u should tell her. you cant live like that

Answer 3

get rid of her and youll b her ex

Answer 4

Unfortunately there is no miracle cure for a broken heart.  There isn't any way to expedite the process of getting over someone and I don't think it was right of you to throw away the things that you found.  Relationships, including past ones are sacred to women and even when we move on we will always remember things about our exes and also how much we learned from being with them which usually can serve to make us a better girlfriend.  I completely understand why this is upsetting you though, and I don't think that is unfair.  I think you just need to have a serious conversation with her about how her talking about her ex all the time makes you feel self-conscious and stuff and ask her to stop.  You can't make her get over him (if there was a way to get over him I'm sure she would've tried it by now) but it's not fair of her to always be comparing her past relationships to your current one.

I myself am currently in a really wonderful relationship right now but still haven't fully gotten over my ex of 2 years ago.  I want to bring him up all the time but know it would hurt my current boyfriend's feelings if I did so I refrain myself from doing it.  I'm totally all about him but I can't help but think about my ex, it still hurts too much.  So anyway, you can't make her get over him but it's totally fair for you to not have to hear about him all the time!

Answer 5

when shes sad, be the shoulder she cries on. and will slowly fall for you with time. but you cant show that you are interest. try and play it cool. and you will have her.

Answer 6

She won't stop talking about her ex because she's not over him. I hate to tell you but while she's that focused on how swell he was, she's not focused on how great you are. And if two years hasn't done it , neither will four, or fourteen. And she's so into him she's totally disrespecting you to your face . that's really uncool,dude. a mate who is focused on someone else does NOT love who she's with. I think if you tolerate this you're setting yourself up for misery.

Answer 7

you cant.

live with it...if u really love her.

Answer 8

The only way u could let her forget her EX is by trying to do much better than her EX did as in getting her more stuff and doing more stuff for her. Make sure the relationship last long also so she could really for get him.