How do you get out of callin your baby after dad?!?

Question

I'm not long pregnant but me n my partner have discussed names for a boy, if its a boy he obviously wants to call him after him, David. I don't mind the name but I like other ones, he seemed quite hurt when I said I didn't really want to use the name David but could be a middle name. He is totally set on this though. How do I get out of it without hurting his feelings?!

Answer 1

Say David sucks, it not cool and its not trendy, now get your stuff and get out of my house!

Answer 2

why is it 'obvious' that he wants to call it his own name?

I know people do this but not EVERY man wants to name his son after him...

Answer 3

Tell him it will be too confusing when a letter is sent to your house addressed to Mr David _____ (insert surname here).

And therefore, David should be used as the middle name.

It will also be confusing for you saying "David could you please take the bins out for me" and no one will know who you're talking too!!

Answer 4

He should be happy he is actually having a baby, sit down and explain that you prefer it to be a middle name.

Answer 5

You both have to decide and make a choice. you could say as you're both not settled on David then choose another. David as a middle name is a good compromise. You're bound to have other children and they can't all be called david so why this one. Argue that he will feel left out as not being individual and having his own label/identity, just sounds like an easy way out to name after dad. Plus, you'll have 2 in the house, how will they know who you're calling?? david is unique to you as your husband and it may be weird calling your son the same and it has different meanings to you. You'd have spoken about david in many different ways and made many memories( the kind of stuff you only share with your girl friends) so it would be strange to now have the name& those memories associated with your first son!

Answer 6

How about.... DAVIDE pronounced Dav- id- day

Or explain that you really prefer something else!

Answer 7

You just tell him your not calling the baby David but it can be his 2nd name.  Tell him to wise up and that you want something different, your willing to compromise but it wont be the 1st name.  I love my hubby to bits but there is no way I would be calling my son Philip and he knows that and doesn't care!!

Answer 8

"LOOK IM GIVING BIRTH TO THIS CHILD, IM GOING THROUGH ALL THE PAIN!! I THINK I SHOULD HAVE A CHOICE ON WHAT ITS CALLED!!!"

no, im joking...well just say if we name the child david then it'll be "david junior" do you really think it wants to be called "DJ" for the rest of its life??? what if it has a hate for music overall :P

lol

Answer 9

lol snap,. my partners name is also david and he wants out first born son to be called david, i dont mind the name eaither, i it wold be a nice jesture as my father who was also called david passed away not so long ago but there was allready another baby in the family named after him

i like other names to, but my partner really wants our first born son to be named after him and i really dont know how to feel about this, so i shall check up on your ansers :)

Answer 10

There used to be a tradition of naming a child after the fathers father

Answer 11

talk it over you guys will work things out tell him what names you

prefer and talk about it.Sit him down and ask why he likes that name?

and tell him why you don't.

Together you will work something out

Answer 12

my friend called her son after her hubby.  richard anthony. while they call the dad rich, they call the son tony. it seemed to please everyone.

Answer 13

My husband is a "III."  We've already discussed whether or not we want a little baby "IV."  While he wasn't insistive, he was surprised I wasn't thrilled about the idea.  I told him that our baby will have his last name, which is the most important part of course, as it is his family's legacy.  Thus, it was really important that I honor my family members also in his name (e.g., grandparents names as middle names).  I also told him that little girls dream of baby names their whole lives and that I wanted the opportunity to search for the "perfect" baby name for our little boy or girl... and not just have one as default.  He seemed to understand this, and hasn't really brought up the issue since.  If he can tell your words come from a loving place then he'll appreciate your thoughts on the matter.  

Good luck!

Answer 14

hey babe ive got 3 boys im greek and none of them have my fathers name they all get over it whats the big deal anyway , nothing worse than going to a party and finding out there are 14 cons from the one family be original the kids not a clone afterall is he ?

Answer 15

you could call him Davis but i would say to your partner that you are happy to have David as a middle name but you feel the baby should have it's own first name.

another compromise would be to put for example, David Charles on the birth certificate then call him Charlie everyday.

your partner needs to let go of his ego a bit.

Answer 16

Hun i said the same the samething when my twins were born if i had a boy i wanted to call him Thomas after my dad, My hubby was fine with it ..Its lovely to name a child after someone BUT you both after agree too it, talk about it and mybe add it as a second name  

Answer 17

Hi,

Just say to him that you DO want to have David as a middle name but you want to chose another first name as you were looking forward to picking baby names with him.

Tell him that most children have middle names after dad's and not first names as much now.

Lx  

Answer 18

Just tell him you would really love to give the baby an original first name of his own. David would be great as a middle name, but he probably wouldn't want to go through life being referred to as 'Junior' or 'Little David' - especially when they get older. Your husband needs to quit being so sensitive, the baby will still have his name as a middle name, and his surname too (I'm guessing). So he should be willing to compromise a little bit - for your sake. This isn't just HIS baby, it's yours too. :-)

Answer 19

Tell him that for someone of his generation it's a cool name but for a baby, well, he'll probably end up getting picked on at school, you know what kids are like nowadays, horrible little blighters, etc, etc...

Answer 20

Just explain to him that you would rather David was a middle name rather not the first name

Answer 21

Haha my boyfriends name is David, and his fathers name is DAavid and I really want to name our first son David. Think about this, my boyfriend told me that growing up with his fathers name made him feel specialo and close to his dad even after his parents seperated and he was always proud to have his fathers name. Plus naming your child after the father reminds you that he is a little peice of him, I just think it's really sweet but he should be happy with second billing if you really want to give your son an original name :)

Answer 22

Thank goodness i'm a sikh. Dont have trouble picking or deciding on middle name or such. I feel that david is too common. Y dont u decide on what u wanna name him on his birth cert and call him DAVID as a home name??  

Answer 23

Just explain that David is a classical name, but that that you'd prefe something a bit more modern and that it might get confusing having 2 David's in the family.  Opt for David as the middle name.

Answer 24

using it as a middle name is far more common and still traditional. It gives your son his own name/identity, but at the same time honors his father.

Answer 25

Tell him your baby's name should be agreed by both of you, and both should be confortable with it. There must be a consensus...

David as a middle name, as you say, is a good solution. He should agree with that.

There are plenty of names in babies names books. He can't just be as stubborn with your own baby as he is, considering you also have the right to choose the name of the kid.

If he doesn't like David as a middle name, he'll have to choose another name, so as to both of you agree on the name... else, he will be childishly stubborn with all this.

Answer 26

I think it's nice to name them after someone.  Apart from suggesting that you use it as a middle name as you have already done I'm not really sure.  

Maybe you should compromise and look at finding a name that starts with a D or ask his Dad to come up with a name for the baby.

Answer 27

have his middle name David

i was nearly called Maragret. After my mums mum.

but my mum thought it was mean, so it's my middle name instead ha

x

Answer 28

Call him David, give him a middle name too, and let him choose when he's old enough.

Answer 29

I think naming a baby is a creative thing and something that takes alot of consideration. I dont personally like using the same name as the father, and its up to both of u to decide. tell your man you want a different name, a new name for your new baby. use david as the middle name, and dont call your son that if youre not happy. you will be unhappy saying David 1000 times a day. and theres also the confusion part of it!

Answer 30

look, just point out the practical problems that will arise . I was called after my father and it caused real problems in later life with identity for bank accounts and driving licence etc, and i never knew if the mail was mine or his ,what names do you like

Answer 31

David is a very strong biblical name. If you just dont like the name, (I didn't either) you can tell him that you want a different name and will use david as a middle name