How do you get over an embarassing moment?

Question

The last day of my junior year of High School, I made a complete *** out of myself...

(not going to say what i did... it just left a whole bunch of people laughing at me and talking c**p about me...)

and now, to this day, I still can't get over it...

any tips on how i can let this go?

Answer 1

Okay, if you had that day over again, would you have done it differently?

If so, then I am sure you have learnt a lesson from that day...you are now no longer the same person, and allowing others to define you by what you did is actually allowing yourself to be their victim.

Is that what you want?

Their opinion of you is now outdated, and they need to reassess you, they can  only do that by the actions you show from now on. Prove that you are now a different person, and let their opinion of you be their business. You know who you are now, and that is all you can do. Grow day by day.

Embarrassment will not kill  you, and as far as I know, although people wanted to die, they haven't died from it yet! I suggest you get used to the feeling, because as long as you are alive, there will be opportunities to be embarrassed! Not what a teenager wants to hear, your ego is a large part of you at your age, but you'll be fine! And a better person for it!

All the best

Mel

Answer 2

LAUGHT AT YOURSELF.....LOOK THE ONLY WAY PEOPLE WILL MAKE MORE FUN OF U IS IF U FEEL FOR IT MORE...SHOW YOUR FUNNY SIDE & PEOPLE WILL FORGET ABOUT IT.......

Answer 3

Think if you were them, how much would they actually care about it?  Laugh about the situation with them, instead of hiding and letting them talk more.  If you confront the issue, and talk about it as the most embarrassing moment, people will laugh and share similar experiences.  We've all done something embarrassing!  

Also, just have some perspective.  You KNOW you will be laughing about this years later, and it will seem so insignificant.  There are much bigger things, much more important things that will happen to you when you grow older.  Junior high is a period everyone wants to forget .... ;D

But most importantly, when you find yourself thinking about it, tell yourself to stop.  Take a breath.  And move on.  

Answer 4

Well I hate to tell you this, but kids can be mean a lot of times. Especially when it comes to someone who is a black sheep. I'm not going to lie to you and say that it will all completely blow over. They will probably try to continue to harangue you about it. What I would recommend is just not to do it again.

Now you know you made a mistake, the best you can do is move on. You're going to make mistakes. You're only human. Everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone goes back and makes the same mistakes. And you're probably going to make even more.

The best thing you can do is try to avoid the subject as much as possible. Just ignore what people have to say. The next time someone brings it up, just pretend as if you don't remember. Either that or tell them you don't want to talk about it.

They're saying all this because they feel weak and inadequate inside, therefore they have to project all their flaws on other people to feel better about themselves. That's the only way they can get any kind of self-gratification. If you really want to feel good you can even tell the people that.

Answer 5

laugh about, the embrassing stress wears off. avoid thinking about even though it re-plays in your head every few seconds.

Answer 6

Believe it or not, I went through the same thing too. And I bet my situation was worse than yours because I went through therapy because of that and suffered from a mental disorder for more than four years.

But I definitely learned a lot from my experience and it really helped me grow and become a better person. So here are some of the lessons I learned from my experience that you might benefit from:

1.) No one can hurt you without your consent.

2.) The past is never really past, but that doesn't mean that it should get in the way of your future.

3.) You probably think that people still think about what happened to you after a long time now, but believe me, you're wrong. 'Cause people have a life of their own that they have to think about.

4.) The only way to get over an embarrassing and unpleasant experience is to laugh at it. Learn to embrace and accept mistakes and simply learn from it so that it may never happen again. Maybe it's hard at first to try to laugh and joke about what happened, but as you do it more often, you'll definitely get the hang of it.

That's what I do and it works for me!

Answer 7

That is a very good question,I am old and I still think about my kindergarten experience (brutal)okay shake it off) back to you.You just have to learn to laugh at it I tell this story when someone gives me an embarrassing moment.It makes us both laugh and feel better about it and then I move on.Truth is you never forget you just get over it.So do it girly. lol

Answer 8

Things only bother you , If you let them . If you go through life worrying about what other think all the time , then you give other people the power over your happiness .

If those people laugh at you , they were never your friends in the first place , and you have lost nothing anyway .