How do you get over someone you know you shouldn't be in love with?

Question

I've been in love with this guy for over a year. We are really good friends, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same way. I feel as if I am wasting my life pining for him when there are other guys out there that would love me back that I haven't met yet. The only thing is he is always on my mind and I am unable to get over my feelings for him. I spend too much time wishing he'd love me back. I really want a good relationship, but won't be able to have one till I'm over my friend.

Answer 1

I have always believed that you can't be "in" love with someone that doesn't love you back..Love is something that flows between two people.  You have an obsession with him and it's not going to be easy to give it up.  Perhaps you should seek counseling and a mild antidepressant would be of great benefit to you and your state of mind.

Don't feel alone by the way..many people have the same problem you have but with time it will subside..Good Luck..

Answer 2

i totally understand. there is not a man or woman alive who hasnt been thru this at some point in their life.

there is no simple answer except some practical suggestions.

1. begin occupying your mind and activities with other things. i dont know your age, but hang out with GF's more, read more books, start a book club, take up karate, babysit, learn to cook gourmet, write letters to people in Iraq, etc...staying busy is one way to put him on the mental back burner.

2. try to avoid going places where you know he will be. if you keep bumping into him, it will take longer for you to heal.

3. begin forming new friendships with other guys. there is someone out there who will think you are fabulous and smokin hot. and, try not to let your heart have feelings for the next guy until you are sure it is mutual.

in time, you will think "wow, he is not even a blip on the emotional  radar screen anymore!"

good luck!

Answer 3

well...thats a tough situation...i know exactly how u feel...there are oretty much two choices...either...

1.tell this guy how u feel about him! its a big risk but u never know unless u ask...plus u only live one life and this one little situation is just a tiny part of your life...u should make the best of this one life u have and just go for it!!!! i know that u might think, "easy for u 2 say" but really u dont have to just say i like u do u like me?? u can just tell him slowly like give him little hints every now and then

or

2.you could also just forget about him and know that life will go on without him and try to find a new guy...im sure this guy isnt the only guy out there for u!!! u mite find it hard to believe and hard to stop thinkingg about it rite now but, eventually u will find another guy..

hope everythingg turns out okay.!!!!!! and hope i helpedd...good luckk.!

Answer 4

You need to not see him for a while.

Answer 5

ask my ex-

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Answer 6

Well to begin with you should deal with the fact that, that love isn't meant to be and get over him. You have to understand that if he doesn't feel the same way you need to move on from life. You can't just cling to something forever. I'm not saying go out right away. Give it some time to get used to the fact that the guy isn't meant to be and then try meeting new guys and stuff.  

Answer 7

its never easy! try reading that book he's just not that into you.it worked for a lot of my friends who were in the same boat. Also listen to yourself and i quote"I feel as if I am wasting my life pining for him when there are other guys out there that would love me back that I haven't met yet." weigh out the pros and cons and be realistic and truthful to your self! I mean ask your self what makes THIS guy so special? Because believe ME we all have skeletons in our closet and no man is worth that much aggravation. Your too good for him go get a makeover and call it a day!:) I'm a hair dresser and trust me there is nothing better than a good looking you to forget some one that has obviously forgotten how wonderful you are.

Answer 8

just date other guys while you date him.

this way he has time to love you back while you are also busy and not thinking about him all the time.

Answer 9

Imagine him doing gross stuff, It will help him seems less appealing.

Answer 10

I would move. This is the best way to get over someone.

Answer 11

Hey how are you really going to know if you don't try.Take a risk it's either yes or no.I think you need some closure off this guy,I've been in that situation before,I got the girl to go out with me and I saw for myself that she didn't care for me at all,I did little things to test her to see where her interest was,because you can't force someone to like you either they like you or they don't.At the end of the day I saw she wasn't interested in me,I feel better now because I tried and I can live with that rather than wondering what could have been.Go on and try you never know,maybe you'll have better luck than me lol.You never know until you try you can't sit and say it won't work.If it don't work like you want don't worry God has someone better than that for you.Don't be carried away by looks and other superficial things.Get to know the person and see whats in their hearts.Remember what you want might make you cry,but what you need might pass you by if you don't catch it.It's not who you love,it's who loves you.