How do you get over the death of a grandermother?

Question

My grandmother Lillian Fontenot died on June 17, 2008 and every day I miss her more and more. You see my real mother and I never really got close to each other and my grand mother was more of a mother than any one in my Life. Some time I wish I could bring her back.

I have no one i can really talk too. fell as though I am alone. can anyone help me?

Answer 1

tbh u rele gotta go through it on ur own, everyone does when a relative dies.. everyone deals with it in their own way and no one can tell u how to feel, what to think or how to deal with it.

But if u feel that u cnt deal with it on ur own, this is a gd site

http://www.grief.net/

Answer 2

God, it is so very hard to over come the lost of family members. Wow it's has too be very difficult,  for u with no othere family member to shair ur pain with. What about group therapist or counseling..... .even for grown-ups, to understand why death must happen. It may be the hardest thing of all to understand. try this web site below Grief Support I hope it help's. may god bless u and good luck

Answer 3

she is with you every day. the best way i can say to deal with this is talk to her. she hears you you have to understand time will heal a broken heart and you will always have her on your mind and in your heart go vist her and just tell her how you feel in time you will be answered thru your heart and you will see that she loves you and that she will always be with you

Answer 4

You need to know that she is still part of you, even though you can't see her. She is still watching you and she doesn't want you feeling depressed/sad/angry about her death.

In my psych class we learned that it takes on average 2 years to come to terms with a persons death. Its hard.. It really is. But you can do it.. your grandmother believes you can do it.. You're very strong and you can get through anything.. You just have to get up everyday and tell yourself that you CAN get through this...

Best of luck!

Erin

Answer 5

my grandma died on the 25th of june 08. i know what your going through, its really hard. i know whta its like being closer to her than your mother. and it will with time get easier to cope with the loss of your grandma, you might want to talk to someone about your feelings, maybe a grief councelor. it has been perticularly hard for me because i was there when she died. i was there the last time she was well, right before she started getting ill. i wathced them turn the life support machince off and i stayed with her. i i just hope that you can find soemone to talk to, a friend, family member councilor or messega someone on here, if you need to you can mesage me.

good luck, i hope you find someone to talk to.  

Answer 6

I was also very close to my grandmother. Me and my mom are really close but my grandma was definitley my second mom. I stayed at her house all the time growing up. Even in high school. She was so strong and passionate about everything I knew I wanted to be just like her. She passed away October 17, 2005 and I still miss her to this day. I really struggled with her death and talk to her all the time. I learned to deal with it by talking to others about her. It made me smile and made me happy. She had cancer so it helped knowing she was in a better place with no pain but I still struggled. Its never easy losing a loved one and most all of us have dealt with it. Just remember that she is with you in every decision you make, every thing you accomplish, etc. Know that she loved you very very much and that you meant the world to her as she did to you. Always remember her and smile and you have nothing to feel bad about. Good luck with your grief. And its okay to cry. Many nights after her death (I was only 17) I would be driving home nad just start thinking about her and I would sit in the garage in my car and just cry my eyes out.. Sometimes I still do. I wish she had been there for my granduation, my wedding, the announcement that I was pregnant, to see my first house... But she is here and she knows and shes smiling right now just as your grandma is smiling knowing that you love her so much that you would grieve her for so long.. except she wishes you wouldnt because she's always there..