How do you get over your ex?

Question

i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2.5 years and this month he has chosen to take a break from me...he said and promised we would get back together but now he says we should just stay friends...i love him more then ANYTHING in the world....how would you deal with it knowing you would see him everyday of the school year and at some point you will have a class with him every morning...i want to get over him because even though he said again that we would get back together i know we wont because he doesn'tt seem to want to make it work...so please anything helpful?

Also, he says hedoesn'tt love me like he used to but can you really stop loving someone that you have been with for 2.5 years in just 2 weeks? And he says he cant stand the thought of me being with someone else so shouldn't he just stay with me cause doesn't that mean he still loves me? =/

Answer 1

He doesn't want you, but he doesn't want you to be with anyone else. You need to move on because it's never going to work.  

Answer 2

I am sorry for your loss.  Truth is that LOVE is born, it grows, it matures, and sometimes it dies.  It can die slowly or quickly.  Sometimes there are clear reasons why it dies, and sometimes there aren't.  It is very difficult to bring back something that has died; OK to hope and try, but it will keep you living in uncertainty and on a constant emotionaly roller coaster.

As corny as it may sound, you should get a copy of the book HOW TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A LOVE.  Go on Amazon and read the reviews on this book . . the people like me whose hurt was helped to heal by the words of this simple book.  I have given away copies to people who thanked me later.  Please take this advice seriously.

BTW, the fact that he can't stand the thought of you with someone else only proves that he is selfish (we men are!).  "Love" does not do what he has done . . . selfishness does.

Answer 3

I know how you feel, only my bf wants a break from me after a month, =( Even though they're different questions, they have the answers you're lookin' for. Here. Good luck. <3

1)  http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=2...

2) http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...

Answer 4

guys are idiots i m in the same situation just get over him dont die for a guy duh u can find better

Answer 5

you can want to be with someone more than anything else in the world, and still know that it will never last. Thats the hardest part of a relationship is knowing that no matter how much you want that person, and dont want someone else to have them, you still know you dont really want to stay in the relationship. The best way to get over him would be not to have any contact with him unless absolutely necessary. Time heals all wounds. I know its hard, i have been there. But eventually you will be ok, and you will find someone way more awesome. You might not believe that right now. but you will. Good luck and i hope your heart heals soon.

Answer 6

im sorry but from personal experience i have to tell you the bare truth.  in actuality it might not have been love to begin with im tellin you now your going to be depressed if you continue to hang on to this person. you wont be able to eat and you will wake up in the night thinking why, but you will get over it. its not love if he wants to just be friends you have to acknowledge where your at and accept it im in highshcool i know how ya feel but believe me its not the end of the world your going to find someone else but dont look for someone else they will come to you and you will see also dont 2nd guess yourself pick up and move on ok.  

Answer 7

Feelings are not cast in stone and my guess is that he didn't fall out of love with you or stop loving you in 2 weeks, but rather has been having doubts for awhile now and didn't know how to bring it up.  The break might have showed him that he's no longer under any pressure and that he can be  himself without a relationship.

Most teens don't understand the art of dating. It's not about finding 'the one' as most of us do not stay with our first love.  It's more about learning, growing, maturing.  Learning about what we like and don't like, how to relate to others, finding out if there is enough compatibility to continue a relationship.  For some reason teens think they have to get with a person as fast as possible and stay with that person.

Reading material to consider:

Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis

How to Get Over Your Breakup - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/m...

Relationship Grieving Process - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/m...

Answer 8

Go to www.wikihow.com

Type in "Get Over Your Ex"

Trust me, they have everything (:

Answer 9

he doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but he's probably been losing the love he has for you over the past few months. you may not have noticed it, because guys keep their emotions in their head usually, and then they start to avoid you more and more. but the way to get over him (because you definitely should) is to remember the good times and take time off from ALL guys. time heals all, i know it doesn't seem like it will ever get better, but one morning you'll wake up and you'll realize, "hey, i'm free, i can do whatever i want, i'm free from him" and then you'll know that's when you're over him. good luck.