How do you get them off your mind?

Question

ok i am married, have been for seven years. i love my husband. last year we were going through a rough time. i started talking to this one guy(only friends, nothing more...he was some one to talk to). i have known him almost my whole life. he is ten years older than me. last year was the first time i had seen or talked to him in a couple years. me and my husband are doing a little better but we still have our tough times. i can not get this guy out of my head. i did tell my husband that i had been talking to the guy. (we never met up or nothing we just talked on the phone) my husband was a little upset but he kinds understood. well my thing is i miss talking to the guy. i think about him all the time. and i cant get him out of my mind. i try to but i just cant. what should i do? should i call the guy to see if he will even talk to me? should i tell my husband whats going on? should i just let it go and try not to think about him(very hard to do though)? i don't know what to do. please be honest. and please don't answer with a smart remark.

Answer 1

Okay well I think you should tell your husband your problem, honesty is the best policy in a marriage, let him know what is going out, getting it out there is the best thing you can do that way your not "hiding" anything, plus your not doing anything wrong so it would just be best to get it out in the open.  Also I think maybe what you should do is see if, let's just call him "Guy", Guy have a female friend that you him and your husband and this other female can go to dinner, play mini golf, go bowling, or something, that way everything is out in the open and you can still feed your need to have "Guy" in your life...I hope it works and for you, good luck!