How do you get your childern to listen??

Question

I have 6 year old daughter and a 3 year old son, They will not listen to us when we tell them something. Our daughter is by far the worse. She think she can tell us how its going to be. She has one bad attitude. I want our children to grow up with respect and do as we say. I just don't know how to get them to listen and do as we say. It is so embarrassing when we go into the public and they don't listen. I feel like I have failed in discipline with them. Please give us some ideas. We need them! Thank you!

Answer 1

Tell them once, the second time you spank their butts good until they KNOW who is boss.You stay consistent with this method and they WILL learn to behave and respect you.

Answer 2

  The best way to get them to listen is to never give in to them until they have done what they were  suppose to do (for example if they want juice make sure whatever choir you wanted  them to do is done and then they get juice) also time outs and taking toys away and letting them earn them back by listening..

Answer 3

get down on your knee to their level.  look into their eyes with a calm serious voice and demand they look at mommy's mouth.  then speak clearly with an ultimatum if they don't follow directions.  get a little chart started for good listening 'stars'.  smile a lot and let them know you love them.  don't expect too much too soon from the 3 year old.  also, super nanny is excellent in showing this.

Answer 4

NO means NO EVERY time.

Treat them with respect.

Do not yell at them for every little thing.........or they will eventually yell back. Save the yelling for really, really, really serious behavior.

If you say no TV for one day........that does not mean 12 hours. That means 24 hours.

All anyone really has to do to make a child listen and behave is to treat them as you would want to be treated and be consistent with discipline. Insist on manners by always using manners. Insist on respect by respecting. I do not yell and scream at you and you will not yell and scream at me.

Basically, it is pretty hard to teach a child how and why not to do something if you are not doing it yourself. Good luck.

Children learn what they live.

Answer 5

They are 6 and 3! They are NOT adults, cut them some slack. If you want to teach them respect you have to do it by example. You have to listen to and respect them.

Answer 6

Call SUPER NANNY--she's your only hope!

the fact is, it sounds like your children don't respect you.  Probably because anytime you try to reprimand them, you don't make good on your threats of punishment.  I personally don't even know where to start in trying to advise you because i'm not familiar with your particular situation, but nonetheless, address this now, before it gets even further out of hand.  A 3 year old is still pretty maleable.  The longer you wait, the tougher its going to be to change those bad habits of theirs though.  Good luck.  

and maybe really watch a few episodes of super nanny--she comes up with some pretty creative ways to help families.  

Answer 7

If you want them to listen and obey, do what a 6 and 3 year old do.  For example, buy crayons and books, start using them, that will get their attention.  Turn it into a contest, but not one where you promise them material things.  A good example for a contest is, tell them you can color better than they can and the contest is on. Another example of interest is baking.  Ask them if they want to help you make cupcakes, pie, or whatever for a friend or whomever.  Tell them if they help you and they behave, the next time you bake something, you will let them help. You have to become very creative when dealing with a 6 and 3 year old.  If everything you try fails, do what they do, start talking to your imaginary friend and see how they react......They already know you will punish them if they misbehave, so flip the script and punish them in a rewarding way, like help you cook, clean, do laundry, they will never know what happened.  Yes, this will work for the 3 year old as well.  You haven't failed, you have to put your mindset at the age of 6 and 3.....LET ME KNOW WHAT HAPPENS....

Answer 8

I take my 6 year old daughters hands in my hands and I kneel to her level and speak calmly, firmly and even toned. I tell her what she did wrong, why it was wrong and why she needs to stop/apologize/fix it/listen up/clean up etc, then I tell her what will happen if she doesn't.

Example: Girly, you need to listen to me. Look at my face. I want you to help clear the table now. It isn't fair if everyone pitches in and you don't. If you refuse to clean the table I'm unplugging the TV for the evening. Do you understand that?

That's not my only threat- but you get the idea. It works with mine because they know I'll follow through.