How do you get your husband to understand?

Question

Today my husband and I were trying to get the kids (5 of them) out the door by 11:00. We both get up and ready.

I get everything we need (strollers, diaper bags, lunches) and put them by the front door WHILE my husband is getting up the kids and either changing their diaper or putting them on the potty.

I get the kids dressed, hair done, and teeth brushed WHILE he makes breakfast.

Then we all sit together and eat breakfast.

Then I clean up breakfast WHILE he puts the kids in the bags in the car.

Then we're off. It's been like that pretty much since the first was born. My husband still to this day needs to be reminded what to do. Why is this? How can I help him out a little to understand?

Answer 1

Write little reminders and post them in there rooms and such

Get up (Hubby's name)

Dressed (Your name)

Make breakfast (Hubby)

Eat (family)

Clean dishes (You)

Load kids in the car(Hubby)

Post these in the kids room

Bath room

Kitchen

and anywhere else that is convent for him.

Answer 2

He's a guy--they are like that. It sounds like he is definitely being a parent and pulling his weight, so just be grateful for that.

If it really bugs you that you have to tell him everything, then sit down and write a list of things that get done in the morning and write "mom" or "dad" next to who does each thing, and put what the kids need to do, too, with their names next to it.

Answer 3

Men like and need to be told what to do.They are always unsure of what they are suppose to do and what you want them to do. He doesnt want you to get upset with him so he just waits for instructions from you on what he is suppose to do.If you dislike always having to tell him what to do create a list that he can use as a guide every time he is suppose to be getting the kids ready. He really does do alot though. My husband is the man on the couch so just be glad he will do what you ask him to do!

Answer 4

My husband is the same way. You would think they would learn since, it is the same thing every single day. I think it is laziness and they think that by playing dumb they can get away with "forgetting" to do stuff. LOL.....

Answer 5

It just doesn't come naturally to most men.  Heck, I'm pretty impressed he did all he did - can he come train my husband, lol!!

Seriously, if it bothers you though, the best thing to do is leave him alone with the kids, even if its just for a day - he'll learn real fast, and gain some appreciation for you as well.

But honestly, while in theory parenting should be 50/50 - from the sounds of what you wrote, I guarantee your husband is helping more with the kids than the majority of husbands out there.

Good luck!!