How do you go about dating a strict muslim guy?

Question

I'm catholic, and he believes that we all worship the same god. We're both from the same country, but different cultures. What are the differences (if any) between dating between anglo-saxon customs and strict muslim customs?

Answer 1

If the guy you are dating is as strict as you say and he says he believes in the same god, I have news for you. He is telling you what he wants you to know.

I can tell you that predjudice aside, Muslims believe that they are a superior race to the anglo-saxons and that their god, Allah, is the ONLY god. IN THEIR CULTURE< RELIGION RULES EVERYTHING !. Western women are seen as having loose morals and God forbid, should you go ahead and actually marry this guy, you are in a for a big shock, culturally !

Muslim males rule the family and their decision is final. They are legally allowed to have four wives and guess what, you have no rights whatsoever. You cannot object to anything that goes against your conscience because in their book of laws, Mohammed said that women are little better than domestic animals and should be beaten regularly. This may not go on so much now, but sweetie if this guy is a strict muslim, either he has already sized up the possibilities of you being wife No 1 or he's going to play around, western style., before he gets married to an undefiled female ( a virgin ).

And children, well they automatically belong to to the father. Any disputes whatsoever, and there is a very real possibility that you won't be around to see them grow up. His relatives will bring them up.

It is said that love conquers all but in this case the chasm might be too wide to get across

You say in your question that you're living in a country that doesn't allow these things.Seriously, who is going to stop them ?

Get real girl, do some very in-depth homework before you commit to anything in this relationship or you are headed for disaster. He might be a very nice guy but culturally  you are as far from each other as the east is from the west.

I suggest that you google these sites: Islam Watch  &  Dhimni Watch for some insights....

Answer 2

If you have to ask that question on here, then something is wrong.

Answer 3

bring along either ur brother or sister

Answer 4

You could elope as Atheists.

That's about it.

Answer 5

I'll leave this one alone and collect my two points instead.

Answer 6

well,they would like to kiss but they would not like to have s*x,and that guy is a muslim hater,muslims cant beat womens he is a liar he didnt read quran to post quran on source

Answer 7

muslims dont date or do stuff that westeners do.... its forbidden...

Quran Ch : 33 verse 35 ''Verily, the Muslims (those who submit to Allâh in Islâm) men and women, the believers men and women (who believe in Islâmic Monotheism), the men and the women who are obedient (to Allâh), the men and women who are truthful (in their speech and deeds), the men and the women who are patient (in performing all the duties which Allâh has ordered and in abstaining from all that Allâh has forbidden), the men and the women who are humble (before their Lord Allâh), the men and the women who give Sadaqât (i.e. Zakât, and alms), the men and the women who observe Saum (fast) (the obligatory fasting during the month of Ramadân, and the optional Nawâfil fasting), the men and the women who guard their chastity (from illegal sexual acts) and the men and the women who remember Allâh much with their hearts and tongues. Allâh has prepared for them forgiveness and a great reward (i.e. Paradise)''.

*Ibn `Abbas reported: Messenger of Allah (Mohammad) said to Ashaj Abdul-Qais , "You possess two qualities that Allah loves. These are CLEMENCY and TOLERANCE.''--[Muslim]

90.   Verily, Allâh enjoins Al-Adl (i.e. justice and worshipping none but Allâh Alone - Islâmic Monotheism) and Al-Ihsân [i.e. to be patient in performing your duties to Allâh, totally for Allâh's sake and in accordance with the Sunnah (legal ways) of the Prophet SAW in a perfect manner], and giving (help) to kith and kin (i.e. all that Allâh has ordered you to give them e.g., wealth, visiting, looking after them, or any other kind of help): and forbids Al-Fahshâ' (i.e all evil deeds, e.g. illegal sexual acts, disobedience of parents, polytheism, to tell lies, to give false witness, to kill a life without right), and Al-Munkar (i.e all that is prohibited by Islâmic law: polytheism of every kind, disbelief and every kind of evil deeds), and Al-Baghy (i.e. all kinds of oppression), He admonishes you, that you may take heed.

Ch : 29 v64.   And this life of the world is only an amusement and play! Verily, the home of the Hereafter, that is the life indeed (i.e. the eternal life that will never end), if they but knew.

Ch 67 v1.   Blessed is He in Whose Hand is the dominion, and He is Able to do all things.

      v2.   Who has created death and life, that He may test you which of you is best in deed. And He is the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving.

Ch 17 v 19 .  And whoever desires the Hereafter and strives for it, with the necessary effort due for it (i.e. do righteous deeds of Allâh's Obedience) while he is a believer (in the Oneness of Allâh— Islâmic Monotheism), then such are the ones whose striving shall be appreciated, (thanked and rewarded by Allâh)

Prophetic Commentary on the Quran (Tafseer of the Prophet (pbuh)) [60:303] Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet, said, "Allah said, 'I have prepared for My pious worshipers such things as no eye has ever seen, no ear has ever heard of, and nobody has ever thought of. All that is reserved, besides which, all that you have seen, is nothing." Then he recited:-- 'no soul knows what is kept hidden (in reserve) for them of joy as a reward for what they used to do.' (32.17)

Answer 8

Muslims are prohibited to pre marital r/ship.

But most Muslims (like me too) are ordinary human beings that sometimes unable to resist the evil, they become evil too, look for indulgence in sexual r/ships.

But these Muslim guys when they are evils, are looking for ladies to satisfy their sexual drive only. Be careful! You must be the next romeo's victims!

Answer 9

Simply be aware that marriage changes everything.  Sharia has a lot to say about your rights as a woman.  Understand these rights before you get deeply involved.  

Answer 10

Muslims men are allowed to date Catholic and Chrsitian women because our Old Testament is exactly the same as their 1st part of their Quran. But if you read the Bible, in the Old Testament, God clearly says not to marry or have relationships with people that are not under the same faith as us. Read the book of Solomon and you'll find out why.  

Answer 11

You may need to wear a veil and perhaps a burhka as well.  You of course cannot approach him but have your parents talk to his parents.

Once married you may not be able to leave your home, and if so you must be accompanied by him or some male relative.  He may take a 2nd wife or mistress as you get older; to him this may be perfectly normal.  The previous statements will apply or not apply depending on what nation you are in.

Muslims and Christians do not worship the same God.  Christians (in the traditional sense) believe that Jesus is God, that we have all broken God's commandments and are guilty before God; so Jesus paid the penalty for our wrongdoings by dying a painful death on the cross.  And then 3 days later he rose again, appeared to over 500 people, and later ascended to heaven.  And through him we can find eternal life and forgiveness.  

Muslims do not believe this at all; they think Jesus was only a prophet.  Some of them say that Jesus never died on the cross and never rose again.  Somehow it was Judas who died on the cross - figure that one out.   They worship Allah who (though they usually deny this) can be traced back to the "moon god."  Going to paradise is purely obtained through good works, though you never know if Allah is pleased with you or not.  Also while Christianity has elevated women, Islam treats them more as property.  Look at the Christian and Islamic nations and how women are treated in each.  

Answer 12

Muslim customs state that a woman is property and must obey everything the husbands says and if she refuses anything or talks back he is allowed to beat her.

I do not know him so I do not know if he actually follows that part of the quran but a lot of radicals do just talk to him about those parts of the quran and see if he believes in following that part but remember strict Muslims are only suppose to marry other muslims so I most likely does not follow it.

Answer 13

as Muslims we are not allowed to date.

Dating leads to kissing and touching which isnt allowed in Islam unless it is within marriage.

It may also lead to pre marital s*x which is a big no in Islam for obvious reasons.

People also get to heated up in dating and it makes you forget about more important things like your job, your health, your religion, your God etc.

Then in the unfortunate situation of a break up both partners are usually depressed and feel very low. you can't concentrate which ultimately causes you to fail in completing your religious responsibilities.

If he is a strict Muslim as you say he is he shouldnt be dating and its not that he shouldnt be dating you because of your religion he shouldnt be dating any girl period. and for the record can marry christian, jewish etc women

Answer 14

Peace...

He isnt a strict muslim, muslims do not date as it could lead to s*x etc... This so called muslim should realise that he is sunning and going against God as god said getting close to the opposite s*x can lead to many sins, such as kissing, masturbation, and s*x..

For example, a man is in a room with a girl, and there just friends, but if 1 moment, sumtin connects (so they believe) then they may kiss which could lead to s*x..

Anyway to ur question..

In Christianity Jesus has Never said he was God, There is not a single verse in the Bible where he does. Also when people say he is the "Son of God" he isnt as all people as said in the Bible are the Sons of God. Also ADAM pbuh didnt have a father or mother, so wasnt he another son of God. Jesus Said aswell in the last supper also, in the book of John Chapter 16 verse 12 it says "I have many more things to say to you, but YOU CANNOT bear them NOW.(13)But when HE, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth; for He will not speak on His own initiative, but whatever He HEARS, He will speak; and He will disclose to you what is to come.(14)He will glorify Me, for He will take of Mine and will disclose it to you""

This is pointing towards the prophet Muhammad pbuh, because Muhammad guided people from paganism to one-ness of God and also guided the jews and christians to the truth.

Also  whatever the prophet HEARD and disclosed to the world was from Gabriel telling him what to memorise & write in the Quran. and that is what muhammad said from gabriel.

Muhammad also praised Jesus and his name is more in the bible then any other prophet, including Muhammads. The Quran is Gods word, the truth, as was Jesus the truth, the light at his time and no1 could get to god through his teachings, as was moses the truth the light and no1 could get to god through him but through his teachings, when muhammad came he is the truth, the light and no1 can get to god but through his teachings. There is a chain all leading the prophet..

Peace

Answer 15

<<I'm catholic, and he believes that we all worship the same god.>>

This is not true. He worships one God referred to as Allah. We worship the Triune God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Muslims do not believe Jesus is God. This is a huge difference you need to understand.

There are also many different cultural customs. I saw an American Muslim woman interviewed on TV by Oprah. She was a happy wife and mother and a personal trainer. She has to keep her head and body covered at all times (which posed some issues with her job), they pray 5 times a day (I think) and there is no excuse for not doing it. Wherever they are they need to stop and pray. According to her there is no "dating," couple see each other with the intention of marriage. There is no s*x before marriage and no birth control allowed in marriage.

This is just what this woman said. It sounded about right from what I've heard. You need to consider your faith, the upbringing of your children, and your families. Depending on his belief in Islam, it could be a very rocky road.

Answer 16

women are possessions

they have no rights

they cannot travel without their husbands permission

The children belong to the father

the children must be Muslim

read the koran

its a real eye opener

Answer 17

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Answer 18

In my experience I really don't like how Muslim guys can date whoever they want but a Muslim women is renforced to only date Muslim guys.  This is by experience that I have had

Answer 19

a strict Muslim would not have s*x before marriage.  

Answer 20

If he's a strict Muslim he shouldn't even be dating.

Harriet

Answer 21

he will make you a muslim and your children also

if they had the smae god, and don't believe jessu is god, then they would be jewish

they are not, islam is the religon of the pagan arabs who worship the moon, it is little wonder why it is seen today on their flags and on top of the mosques

and every time someone gently remidns them of this they go on a rampage and destroy things,

i wonder why christians do not need to advertise christiantiy as a religion of peace?

Answer 22

Very carefully... I heard about dungeons being used until the wife know how to cover up from head to toes.. for a reason....

Answer 23

I've heard many Muslims say that dating is against Islam.

Answer 24

As a Muslim myself, I'd say you're taking a big risk dating someone that is very different from you and that is very strict with his religion.  It's not going to be very easy to do.  Eventually, something will come up between ur religions and you will have a hard time compromising if he's that strict.  Be careful hun.  

Answer 25

This is one of the few examples of when a long distance relationship would work out better...