How do you handle feeling guilty?

Question

Normally, I don't lie to my parents, but last night I did. I told them I was going over to my friend Dailey's house. She, my boyfriend, and I were invited to this big party, which had drinking and all that. I asked my parents and they clearly told me 'No' that I couldn't go. So I went over to Dailey's house, and we all went over to that party, and we stayed there for a while. So everyone was drinking, and then someone offered us and we took it, and I got totally drunk, and so did my boyfriend and Dailey. I feel so bad! This is my first time getting drunk.

Dailey's dad picked us up, and we spent the night there, and I told my parents that I was spending another night (which is tonight, or last) and they said I have to come home tomorrow, which is technecally today. So should I tell them, because I'm pretty sure Dailey's parents will if I don't.

I feel so bad, but I don't want to get in trouble!

Answer 1

Tell your parents tonight. Get it off your mind or it may eat away at you. What you have done is completely normal, other people do it to! Don't feel guilty, just fix it now. The guilt will go & you'll feel much better.

Be prepared for a not so happy reaction, but you never know, they may really appreciate your honesty. This could well set up the relationship you have with you parents in the future.

BTW, parents are very forgiving and know much more than you think they know.

Best of luck!

Sending you love and blessings

Answer 2

When I was 15, I did the same thing. First time getting drunk.

Only you had her dad pick you guys up. I on the other hand, was drunk and stupid to allow another drunk person to drive us to my best friend's house.  Thankfully, no wreck or pulled over.  Yet, I always think back "What might of been?" if we have.....

My best friend's mom was abit disappointed, yet she didn't say anything to my mom. (Best friend's mom was abit more of a party/allowed some stuff type of mom).

I know my mom would of been mad, so I didn't say anything. I didn't want to loose my best friend or be thought "bad of" (at the time, I was the only "well behaved" sibling/teen).

I am now 22 and my mom still doesn't know much about it. I let little info now and then because of the guilt of lying (I was known as the goody two shoes who didn't lie, drink, drugs, s*x etc). So rarely did I drink afterwards anyways.  I got drunk only a few times through out the years afterwards. Only because I liked the taste and the alcohol caught up to me (I don't like being drunk. Being buzzed is okay, but I hate being drunk!)

It was fun to do, but you have to remember the consequences if things go bad.

Oh, and the trust you can break with parents.

So, it is up to you to talk to your parents about it. They will be mad, I bet. Might ground you, might not allow you to be over at Dailey's house anymore or anything for a long while. However, if that is what you will take as the consequence so you can get that guilt off your shoulders, then that is all your choice.

If Dailey's dad knows about it, talk to him. Ask him if he has plans to discuss it with your parents so you can emotionally prepare yourself for the consequences.

But if you plan to tell your mom, let her know you know you violated that trust and you know you did wrong by doing so and wanted to come clean/honest with it.

You did what most teens have done. Even your parents.  Yet, they can't hate or not love you.  So, punishment will dwindle eventually as you gain their trust back etc.

Answer 3

i dont deal with it because i dont feel guilt but i would tell them because since her parents are its better if you do first so they think your at least a little responsible...

Answer 4

If I were you, I'd just come out and tell them. This wouldn't be the worst thing I've done, but in your situation. When you tell them, it shows you're more responsible because you're confessing. At least you didn't stay the night at that party house, or get a ride from someone who's drunk.

I know you don't want to get in trouble, but I think you're going to have to if you don't want to feel so guilty.

Remind them that you made a big mistake, and that hopefully it won't be made again!

Answer 5

yes, if you tell them they will trust you, u may get punnished but the trust wont be lost between u & them, and in the long run it will pay of as u will get more freedom to go out and do more. wheras if u dont and they find out they will be suspicious wenever u go out and keep u in more. but dont tell them u got drunk, say look i just want to tell u i didnt plan on going originally (so u technically didnt lie wen u left them) but everyone was calling u to go and u had a really good time, nothin bad happened just innocent tennage party u had a dance and didnt get drunk .

Answer 6

Dad's rule number 1: never tell a lie when the truth will do.  What you have done is wrong, and you know this.  That's the first step.  Next, you re undure what is going to happen at home when you get there.  You should NOT tell your parents out of fear that someone else will.  You should want t otellthem wht you did, admit your guilt, and let hem know that you have violated their rules, adn their tust in you.  This is going to be very hard for you, but think of it this way:  when you admit to them what you have done, adn that means all of it, and also tell them  you understandthat you have betrayed their turst, the guilt feelings will start to go away.  You made a mistake, and you have admitted that here.  Tellthem the same way you have here, and hten tellthem you will accept whatever punishment hey choose, because you know you did wrong.  That step will start he healing process for all of you, and also start rebuilding their turst in you.  It's going to hurt, but it's better than  feeling  guilt all your life.  If you still get compute privileges, and itis ok with your parents, drop me a note and let me know how you are all doing.

Answer 7

Tell them.

You'll get in more trouble if Dailey's dad tells them.

I know. (:

Answer 8

Whenever i feel that i should admit somthing or feel guilty i tell that person as i believe that if you dont, some way or another they will find out! And the last thing you want to do is lie to your parents when they do find out! So i suggest you tell them very soon and you may get in trouble but i geuss thats your puishment for disobeying your parents! LOL

I would of probably done the same as you did but i definately would of admitted what i did if i had felt guilty or was in a postion where i could be caught out!

Just dont worry tell them exactly what happened and you dont have to tell them everyrthing remember lol :)

Good luck x

Answer 9

Tellur parents every thing cause if u dont ur friend's parents will and if they do u will be in big trouble so if u dont tell them ur self them problem will be up..Itz upto u gal..