ive suffered a very tough life, always suffered low self esteem , never formed any relationships, never been employed etc.
missed out on everything.
i have borderline personality disorder and ptsd and live in a one bedroom flat on disability.
i was bullied alot and very badly throughout my life.
my goals are of a good paying computer job and to emigrate from the uk, near a coastline are the only things in life that are important to me that drive me forward.
theres times when my confidence is extremely low though, and i struggle to assert myself - put myself accross to people the way id like - express myself etc.
on those days ; i cant be confident , cant assert myself properley , feel easily undermined - cant win arguments - cant cuss properley or end up saying things that make me sound emotional or defensive - like its clear the person has got to me ,
cant think of good retorts.
end up sounding stupid and ineffective, not commanding of authority and confidence like i wanted.
on those days where i cant put what im about accross, cant assert properley , let people undermine me - when people cause me to doubt myself etc. - when i let mind games affect me.
on those days i become enraged and aggressive, like i cant handle people - and i feel the urge to do them some severe damage..
but obviously i dont do that, but its just the way i feel because i know of no ways to psychologically combat these idiots.
i feel they play psychological warfare with me - and im not paranoid this , i know they do it ok ?
how do i deal with this without cracking, getting emotional , withdrawing or feel like i want to do damage to the person or with becoming or feeling extremely aggressive to the point where i wanna take them down ?
id appreciate strategies and help with this
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