How do you handle separation?

Question

I recently left my wife (over personal problems,etc). My question is : What would you think if she did not try to see what she could do to fix things? I love her, but she did not treat me right and she would not support me in decisions we had to make. She packed some of my clothes when I came back to get them...but wasn't alarmed or anything! If you loved someone wouldn't you be trying to see how you could get them back?

Answer 1

I'm sorry this is happening to you.  It sounds like you need to move on.

Answer 2

If my spouse made zero effort to try to fix the marriage after a separation, I would conclude that there was zero interest in fixing the marriage. Why would there be no interest in fixing the marriage? Two possibilities come to mind: 1) spouse was not in love with me, or 2) was in love, but decided that there were too many problems to make it worth saving.

Answer 3

Definitely!! I tried to hang on to every sshredf a marriage that I thought I had. But my husband and I agreed that it was time for both of us to move on. It has been years since we have been a "normal" couple. I'm sorry you were stuck in that situation. But if she was that evil to you it is best for you to move on. She sounds like to me she may have been out of love for a while. Try the best you can for you!! Keep your chin up!

Answer 4

looks like you answered your own question, the key word is love, and she just may not, I'm sorry, I don't want to hurt your feelings but trust me it seems to be lack of love, my husband treats me like a dog, and that is not love at all, why do I stay, no big secret, money and two kids to keep a roof over their heads, he loves to hang money over my head, some day the tables may turn and then it WILL be bye bye!

I wish you the best!

Answer 5

yes i believe that if u loved a person u would do all u could to keep them, but sometimes people get angry and ego's get in the way,but u also would not leave a person if u were trying to work toward resolving the problems.u would stay no matter what. walking out on someone due to anger only fuels the hurt, and makes it bigger then it is.maybe u need to be the bigger person and go back home and try to work it out,because no matter how serious u believe it is, theres nothing more painful then divorce,and when that happens u will not be able to see any of the things u fought over, all u will see is how your heart aches and how u wish u could have the chance to work it out,one last time.everyone believes they are right, and there is no room for compromise,but theres always room.its easier to work it out then to find yourself alone and heartbroken.