How do you have a relationship with a parent when you have nothing in common?

Question

I'm an adult (in my late 30's). How do I get/start a relationship with my father which has been strained since my parents divorced when I was in my early 20's?

He and I have really nothing in common.

He's also "found Jesus" (I didn't realize that He was lost), and feels the need to "save" me. He also has a difficult time with me being g*y. The only reason that he's coming to our reception party, is b/c my brother basically told him that he has to. My dad wasn't real excited when I told him that I was getting married (to another woman).

I want to try and have a relationship with him before it's too late. When I was a child, I was daddy's little girl, but all that changed after my parents divorced.

Please help with ideas or suggestions.

Also, I don't need anyone else preaching to me about how being g*y is "bad" and the whole "being saved" non-sense. Your answers will be reported if they do not answer the question.

Answer 1

You have blood in common. You are a part of him. So you see there is a common factor. You are his little girl and always will be. You see for all christians we are to be witnesses for the Lord . So don't be so closed minded to what he has to say. I know how non beleivers can be. Just give him a chance and maybe that will start something between you two. It is something to talk about and you can learn alot from him. You can listen and then tell him what you think. It is something to work with. So think about it. His generation is so different from yours and with his belief ,he is concerned about your soul. We all have one. He most likely doesn't like what you are doing , but he is your dad and always will be. Just think about all of this.

Answer 2

give him time

spend loads of time with him

hopefully that'll work u need to show him that being g*y does not change u in anyway apart from who u sleep with and that has nothing to do with him

th only thing i would be worried about is the god thing

coz in most christian religions being g*y is a sin so therefore u would be frowned upon

i dont believe in all that sh*t personally but ur dad obviously does