How do you heal a broken heart?

Question

I have been dating a Muslim guy for 3.5 years who was divorced. Last night he dumped me by email saying that he has to “follow his religion and teachings etc etc”. So basically because I am Christian that makes me scum in his eyes and even apparently in going back to his ex-wife!! I am so hurt I can’t stop crying. I really hope he comes crawling back after the Ramadan guilt trip so I can slam the door in his face.

Answer 1

just go over and over in your mind he isnt worth it i can find someone better just keep saying that, thats how i got over my relationship when i was dumped.

Answer 2

feminist drinking night out with your girlfriends.... it works

not for a man hunt. but just to party

Answer 3

You have to give it some time and realize that its his loss and you did nothing wrong. He knew you were Christian when you got married. Get rid of all reminders and start spending more time with friends and try not to contact. I know at first you'll slip but try to wean yourself off little by little and in a few months you'll be fine.

Answer 4

sorry to hear that I'm muslim and we don't treat girls like that.  He's just a hippocrite and make us look at bad. He used his religion as excuse to end things with you.  Don't worry about him you can date me instead. :-)

Answer 5

only time can heal that, BUT you can also start by not thinking about him and date other people

it is hard at first i understand, but you will feel better later on

Answer 6

A woman in love is a mess, only because when we love we love with every ounce of our bodies. Men on the other hand seem to be able to move on with the wind. I dunno why it seems that way. Anyways I think that you need to get out! Do something that makes you feel good inside and out! You don't need a man to keep you happy (even though I love the h**l out of them too) but at the same time did you let him know how he made you feel? He should have been a man and told you to your face his true reason. Someone just don't up and through away love like that because of a religion! Even though I have seen that happen (my father caught his wife coming out of a christian church and she was suppose to be muslim like him) I think love stinks and is over rated (yes I have had my share of heart ache too) I think that relationships are over rated ( everyone cheats and lie) We are humans and when we love there comes a lot of responsibilities and he may just not feel up to that or he could have just fallin back in love with his wife for religious reasons (which is stupid) (but men are kinda stupid) Anyways I think he messed up he was never out of love with his wife and bought you into his world of confusion. Well you need to break free out of that world! Like I said do something to keep you mind off him, live life! I know, I know it will be hard, love comes and goes that is all part of life. You love some you lose some as the saying goes. What you have loved and lost will make you love with open eyes next time.

Answer 7

Time will help you deal with your pain better and if you are lucky you can forget the whole thing.Good Luck

Answer 8

Cody B sounds like a nice person NOT.

Seriously, you are well out of it - watch Not Without my Daughter and you will feel much better. Imagine if you had kids with him and you would have constant rows about the religion of the child. There are a lot of British women who have ended up in that situation and it is not good. I worked as a Legal Secretary and there was a Polish woman whose Pakistani ex-husband's family kept threatening to kidnap the little boy because he was not being brought up as a Muslim (despite the fact that he converted to being Roman Catholic).

Good luck - it will get better I promise!

Answer 9

time heals, good if it happens too soon or it may also take time...in my case it's been more than 2 years but i am really moving on thou slowly...just keep on praying and believe that everything has new beginning and that the aggrieved party will turn out to be the victor...

Answer 10

Keep busy, meet friends and have fun. try not to think about it, although its difficult

Answer 11

Dont waste your time over him move on im sure your a lovely girl.

He dosent care about you or your feelings

Answer 12

Since you are a Christian woman, you should probably stick to dating only Christian men. You ought to be kind and considerate to everyone, but a serious relationship like that is somthing that should only be shared with someone who believes as you do. When a Christian woman enters a serious dating relationship with a non-Christian, she opens herself up to getting hurt. If you never find the right Christian guy for you, well there are worse things than being alone. It is better to have peace by yourself than it is to suffer in a relationship. I understand that it will take some time for the negative feelings you have to fade, but they will. Just take good care of yourself and keep in touch with all of the people in your life who do value you! Ice cream and chocolate are good therepy in moderation. So is a little retail therepy. A trip to a day spa is nice too! Indulge a little and KIT with your loved ones and friends. Those things are all good for a broken heart.

Answer 13

I am also still healing my broken heart. But the best cure would be time. You can have all the friends to console you and listen. Wipe your tears for you. However, ultimately is you to determine when the wound will heal. I am also done with the wound. Keep yourself occupied. Though at certain points you will recall all the happy things you two once shared. Let your tears flow if you need to. visit the places that you two had been to and left fond memories there. Do it over and over again, till the day when you visit , you no longer able to recall what had happen there. Is all abt time. Make yourself happy like staying out with friends at your favourite hand out, dolling yourself. Build up the confidence again and have the glow in you. Ppl will look at you differently.You say you will slam the door on him but all out of an anger isn't it? You still love him that why you cry. Love knows no boundaries. Tell yourself my dear, you simply lost a man who does not love you. You have nothing to lose. However, he lost someone who loved him dearly. Take it easy, keep your life fulfilling, gradually you will find new aspect in life. Expect least of what you expect. Things will come in your way. slowly, you will find your way out. divert your attentions to do other things such as advancing your career, studies any thing so long you make yourself happy  

Answer 14

sod him hun you can do better - I broke up with my boyfriend last night too - because he kept comparing me to his ex whom he broke up with a few years ago - they're not worth us and we can and will do far better babes!!! Theres two decent guys out there just waiting for us!!

x*x

Answer 15

Hm, since you said that its been over 3 years, its really kinda weird when he doesn't try to dump you at all. And that he has to follow his religious beliefs, which he could have done at anytime, then I don't think he loves you that much during the 3 years because he still had much feelings for his wife and suddenly 'decided' to call it quits with you, and thru email which is not a professional way of breaking up. Maybe you should just give up on him but before that, wait if he does come crawling back so that you can hear what he has to say, then you know if you should or should not throw in the towel with him

Answer 16

i would say move on and try and get him outta of your head it will def be hard for you but do u realy think that he would sacrafice his religion for you? it will take time but you will get over him  

Answer 17

Just some time and a whole lot of tears.

Learn the lesson and move on.

Happiness could be just around the corner but you got to love who you are before it finds you!

Answer 18

Are you sure it was only you he was seeing in these three Years?

For a man or woman to be with a Partner for this length of time then dump then by Email, would start alarm bells ringing if it were me.

Of course you are Hurting, Poppet, This *****e has added insult to injury by doing this to you in such a cold and callous way.

Now you have to show him you are not affected by him whatsoever. Even though we know you are.

Basically he has used and abused you. It will not be easy to Forget him. Though if you keep yourself busy and socialise with you're friends, you Will in time realise how very much better you can do!

Good Luck Poppet.  

Answer 19

He never loved you honey,he only used you to feel the vacum his wife created in life when she left him. He's a fool! A real man should be able to deal with his problems without crawling into a woman's bosom for comfort.He doesn't deserve you,muslim or not.I know it's hard for you to forget him but try and forget him.He's bad news and be happy you're free of him.Think of what would have happened if you had gotten married to him.Change your environment,take a vacation,go for shopping,get a makeover, do something that will make you happy.You ned to be in the company of your friends and loved ones,so make sure you're never alone.You can fight this feelings and heal your broken heart.Don't expect this feelings to go away suddenly,it's going to take some time.Don't forget God loves you,no matter whatever you've done wrong.Talk to him,tell him exactly how you feel.He alone can heal your heart in away no human can.I know because I'm a christain too and I've been a similar condition.

Answer 20

Ah babe bless! i recently sufferd a broken heart! and i no its not what you prob want to hear but it really is true....

only time will heal! take care xxxx

Answer 21

time really does heal all wounds spend lots of time with girl friends ,they are invaluable ,especially now, meditate, pray,plant things ,even just in a pot,  you'll know ur over it when u forgive him .maybe it is a conscience thing and he might have been at odds with himself ,what ever his reasons ,let go .u deserve to be treated with respect ,good luck.

Answer 22

balls to his religion and teachings the dam GIT if i was him id burn my religion and teaching and be with you and make you happy