How do you heel a broken heart?

Question

5 days ago me and my girlfriend broke up mutually, and we both said we still loved each other and we would try again in a few months and she also said we would still talk. Well the next day she completely ignored me and to this day, I havent heard from her, but I talked to her friend and her sister. Her friend told me she never loved me and that killed me. Her sister told me she did care about me but it went away. I dont know what to do! I just want her to be honest with me, but apparently I dont deserve that. Well 3 days after we broke up, I found out she was at the movies making out with another guy and I just wanted to kill myself! It crushed my spirit. I want to die and its like she doesnt care at all. Id be okay if it bothered her even a little but nothing. I feel like I will never get over this. I cant even look at another girl. I dont want to date any other girls. I cant see myself dating any other girls. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do? Sorry this is so long, I just cant do this on my own. Please help me! Just some advice on how to fix a broken heart and move on. I know she isnt worth the pain, but that doesnt make me stop hurting. Please help!! BTW Im sorry if I posted this in the wrong section. Im really not sure where to post it.

Answer 1

You are worth having someone be honest with you. It is not you. It is her and her inability to be honest. She may simply not want to hurt your feelings.

The person who said she never loved you, might just be saying that so you will get over her quicker.

It is really really painful breaking up with someone you care about. It is healthy and normal and good not to be interested in any other girls at this stage. That is a sign of good character.  Take your time and when the time is right you will meet someone else when your ready.

How do you get over a broken heart?  Time.

But let yourself feel sad, and angry and whatever you feel and with time you'll feel better.

You can also keep busy with hobbies or sports or school or work and spend time with friends and your family.

You'll be fine.

Best of Luck.

Answer 2

Yeah, yeah, I love intensely too and just want to die when things go wrong.

She did really love you but as you know, in relationships, sometimes one grows out of love and when they find someone new, they aren't sad. You could very well be in that position someday. Nobody wants to hurt the other one so we don't always say with honesty. Plus she'd feel like a dirty dog.

You're not the first to have a heart broken and won't be the last. And in fact, you'll probably do your share of heartbreaking in your life...unless you find the "one" your twin soul/flame (but most of us don't, that's why we have such a high divorce/infidelity rate)

But you seem a lover, so maybe you will.

Sometimes you just got to mourn and feel like c**p for awhile, it's natural. If it gets bad, see a professional (you won't be the first or last here either). My bf left for two months to another state with just a note. He acted all sweet the two weeks before, don't think my heart didn't break. I wanted to die too! So I went to Santeria store and lit candles and took special baths and tried to live the best I could. Sure I had crying spells but I also kept my head up. I didn't ask for manipulative magic but he did come back. Oh, one thing, i didn't chase after him! They run if you do! But I did keep in contact time to time and told him kind things but let him know I was fine without him! So when his life wasn't panning out and the guilt...

He came back and its been a few years and now I'm the one who wishes to leave but I don't have the money. And to think i once thought of suicide over him HA!

You never know what the future holds and you could be on the other side the next time.

Best thing is to meditate and find the Self within, the joy that nothing can take away. Not easy to say or do with all the sense distractions.

The Santeria spell gave me a focus to do each day and helped me feel empowered.

Answer 3

take it to the cobbler.  But why would you want a heel on your broken heart?

Answer 4

You are a young man who is infatuated with a young girl.  If you are going to dwell on her in your thoughts, then nothing good will come to you.

Forgive her, which will help you fast to forget her.

I know it is very easy to write and how difficult it is to understand.

It took me nearly 7 years to forget my ex-wife.

You will find another girl friend soon.  It also helps quite a lot.

Just don't follow her or mingle with her friends.

Create a new friend group, which will help too.

forgive and forget her.

good luck and god bless

Answer 5

leave her alone and dont talk to no one that knows her dont call or answer her calls if she does call you do her the way sh  does you and if she cares she would apologies for ignoring you i would just have fun and enjoy myself you sitting wondering if she cared aint gone get you no where but more depressed if she wants you she'll be back till then theres so many females out there for you she's just a memory  

Answer 6

Pray about it. God will guide you if you are still. (patient)

God can heal your broken heart if you seek HIM first.

-Psalm 34:18

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

God Bless.  

Answer 7

You can't heal a broken heart actually, time will heal it in its time. You should be rejoicing for breaking up with such a nasty girl. You should be cheering that she was pissed enough to let you go than used you for whatever reasons humans used another human being.

Answer 8

Time is the answer - time heals all wounds !!

Your young and  apparently she didnt care if she was able to move right on to someone else - you will move forward and in time you will find someone that will feel as strongly about you as you do them

I would just let it slide - take one ay at a time and keep pushing forward.

time is the answer..you will heal and you will move forward and find someone else

dont beat yourself up - chalk it up as expierience

what are you to do ??

Occupy yourself with friends and extra activities

Answer 9

I'm sorry you are hurting. Nothing is worse than suffering from a broken heart. I believe that once you truly love someone you will continue to love them for a lifetime, so I am not going to tell you that the love that you feel for her is going to go away; however I am going to tell you that not all loves are meant to last a lifetime. You are going to handle this breakup just like everybody else does. You'll cry a little, mope a little, date someone else eventually and compare them to her and then break up again, and eventually time will go on and you will look back and realize that the two of you were not meant to be.  After all, you deserve to be with someone that will love you as much as you love them, and then it will last a lifetime. Be patient, I promise the pain will lessen, and then you will smile again.

Answer 10

1st day : A dozen vodka redbull + a stroll to the strip club downtown

2nd day:  make out with a really hot girl no.1 in front of you EX-GF

3rd day:  make out with a really hot girl no.2 in front of you EX-GF  

4th day:  make out with a really hot girl no.3 in front of you EX-GF  

5th day:  make out with a really hot girl no.4 in front of you EX-GF  

6th day:  make out with a really hot girl no.5 in front of you EX-GF  

7th day: You will regret going out with your EX-GF !!!! hahahahaha

STOP CRYING and START HUNTING for DIFFERENT girls!!!!

ENJOY LIFE. LIFE IS SHORT

Answer 11

why invest love where love is not returned to u?have some self respect for yourself, and everyone has to go through some kind of heartache in their life, it comes with dating and looking for ones eventual mate.its the pain that helps us grow up emotionally.

Answer 12

Oh dear. Well certainly a broken heart isn't easy to heal. And it's really hard to be optimistic when you feel like c**p. But you can try. Try something to take your mind off things. Find a great hobby that will clear your mind. And hang out with people who will try to help you. If your posting something like this on yahoo answers, then I think that you really need someone to talk to. But like everyone else says, only time will heal your heart. Even though thats sounds super cheesy (Like that Leona Lewis song "Better in Time" HAHA) Its only true. And stay optimistic !

BTW, Please be smart. If you end up going out with another girl like that, recognize the signs, and prepare yourself. Think of this as just another experience and it will help your future relationships, and your heart, grow stronger.

Hope I helped (:

Answer 13

Be glad she is being honest with you and did not lead you on to a loveless marriage.  Time will heal your wounds and you will meet someone else.

Answer 14

To heal a brokent heart is another womans heart.Forget him dude.Just say thanks God you know her before everything goes deeper.Enjoy your life.