How do you help kids who are having temper tantrums?

Question

I'm just curious because I use to throw a lot when I was younger. I'm 17 and I still do actually. I do it because my mom refuses to listen to me and I just can't talk to her so obviously I'm going to get angry and frustrated. When I was younger and I went through this she would always get pissed and I just cried and told her I couldn't help it. All she said to me was well you better start helping it. Even then I knew that it wasn't entirely my fault. Sure I was the one doing it, byt I was doing it because I couldn't do anything else. So anyways, how would you help kids who are having temper tantrums?

Answer 1

maybe by being more understanding of the child. some adults see kids as just being there and that they dont have rational oppinions and wants. i to would through temper tantrums. sumtimes i still do. if i dont get what i want i march upstairs screaming and blasting my music till my dad comes up to be reasoning and understanding of the situation. kids just see that as getting the point accross because we cant "punish our parents". the only way to help our tantrums is for the person in charge to reason and tlk to u as a normal adults.

-lexa

Answer 2

I  have  an  adult  autistic  son  who  still  throws  tantrums  occasionally  During  the  tantrum  you  can't  do  anything.  I  let  him  think  I  can't  hear  him  and  totally  ignore  him  until  it's over.    When  he  calms  down  I   try  to  figure  out  what   he  wants  or  wanted.   He  finally  realizes  that  tantrums  don't  get  Mom's  attention  at  all.

Answer 3

Temper tantrums are kids not getting what they want or there way.  Ignore them or put them in time out. Don't acknowledge there temper tantrums

Answer 4

instead of being sympathitic when they do something wrong tell them exactly what they did wrong and don't let them push you around be assertive in judgement and punishment but don't give in

Answer 5

I used to have horrible temper tantrums too for the same reason-because I wanted to be heard.

If I were in my parents' shoes I would try to keep my cool and listen to what my child had to say. I would try and maintain a good relationship with lots of communication and respect.  However, I'm sure tantrums would still happen, and when they do I'd show my child I really cared about her/him.  Sometimes, I think it's best to ignore them too (in severe cases)

Answer 6

You are correct - tantrums are a result of not being heard so what else can you do but turn it up a few notches to get some attention!  Communication is the answer.  From when kids are little and cannot even talk they need to know you value what they think and say.  If outbursts happen kids need to know it is not acceptable and there are consequences.  This is not easy parenting but wise.  Communication helps to build better adults.

Answer 7

count backwards from ten, or like have a relaxing mantra, and repeat it, when you are angry. also, put your energy into contact spots, like football, and of course, talking really helps

Answer 8

the best thing to do is to like just give him or her a little pop on the hand or put them in time out.

Answer 9

My mom always jus put me in my room and then told me I could come out after I calm down and then she'll talk to me about what jus happened.

Answer 10

I would send them to a life skills class or treat them wit a counciler but if you want to take it to derastic measures then send them to nany 911! lol jk just talk to them and be their friend they will thank you later!

Answer 11

When you say kids, are you talking about older children your age or younger children? As a mother of a two year old, there is nothing that I can do while my daughter throws a tantrum. You have to let them get it out of their system, and make sure they are in a safe place where they can not hurt themselves or anyone else. After the tantrum is over, you try and talk to them about their feelings. Why do they feel the way that they do? Yelling at them or punishing them or even trying to reason with them isn't going to work and will do nothing but frustrate yourself in the end. If your mother isn't listening to you and that is why you are getting so upset, than maybe you should ask your mother if she would be okay with you going and talking to someone about what has been bothering you. But if you are the one throwing the tantrums, than you need to take a step back, and put yourself in time out. Sort out your feelings in your head and don't make any decisions until you have calmed down. Tantrums are a difficult for everyone involved in the situation to handle. But its a learning process, and not everyone is the same.

Answer 12

ur just have to calm down and think about what ur doing

it happens a lot to me, and the best thing if to just calm down and it also hepls to scream in ur pillow or hit things(not ppl though, just like a pillow, or something soft)

hope it helped

Answer 13

You said, "I was the one doing it", so you are the one that can stop it. You have to choose not to do it. There is no magical cure or fix other than learning self control. Instead of blowing up or throwing a tantrum. Try walking away, calming down, and getting your thoughts organized so you can make the point that the tantrum obviously isn't getting across.

Answer 14

You are 17 and *you* are the one throwing tantrums?  I'm sorry but grow up.  You are old enough to communicate using words.  You know how to, you choose not to.  Getting angry and frustrated are normal reactions but you are NOT a two year old.  You are one year shy of being an adult!  Act like one and maybe you parents will hear you out.  

Your mom failed to prepare you for life and failed to discipline you properly.  You are old enough to know how to handle it.  Use respect, act like an adult and use words.

"Having temper tantrums is the way to live"?  Look at that statement right there and tell me that is not made by an immature person.  I'm sorry if I come across judgmental, but you need to grow up.  End of story.  You are almost an adult.  Act like one.  As for handling my toddler during a temper tantrum, he receives a time out and reprimand.  I tell him to use his big boy words to tell me the problem.  That works well.  I think you could have benefited from that had your mother done the same with you, but it's plain to see that didn't happen by the statement you made.

Answer 15

If you still throw tantrums then they're meeting your needs at some level.  It may be less getting what you want, and more just letting the anger and frustration out.  Unfortunately, tantrums are not socially acceptable, and over time you'll stop throwing them as their true cost in friends, opportunities, and happiness become clear to you.

My suggestion would be that you go to a counselor and discuss the tantrums and what you see as their cause.  With some help, you should be able to learn new, socially acceptable ways to deal with life's many frustrations.

Good luck.

Answer 16

Well I dont know if this is what you want to hear but there are several different methods to solving temper tantrum problems.

1. Spanking and time out (dont overdo spanking, of course)

2. Calmly explain to the child that he/she isnt getting what she wants and then simply ignore the tantrum until it stops.

3. Put the child in bed for a nap and dont let them out until they take one.

*NEVER punish a child if you are upset/angry w/e. It will backfire on you.

Answer 17

Temper tantrums are a natural part of the maturing process.  As you stated one of the main reasons you get angry enough to throw a tantrum is because you are unable to get your point across in a normal fashion.  One way I combat temper tantrums with my children (ages 15 and 7) is to watch my own temper when talking to them.   I also know their warning signs and at that point I will sit them down and just talk out the issue slowly and calmly.  I do let them know that in order to avoid unnecessary anger we have to work together. : ) Hope that helps.

Answer 18

you dont really.. theres nothing to do.. just let them do it.. i let my two year old cause theres nothing i can really do about it makes everything worse..

Answer 19

Bust their ***!