How do you initiate s*x after being a total ***** to bf? to people in long term relationshps?

Question

I was very eh challenging...shall we say the usual stuff-you dont listen to me, you are a c**p bf, you better get your act together....now im lonely and want to snuggle but he is treating me like a hand grenade. He has that, wheres the love of my life gone, and who is this *****???

Answer 1

You cant explode at him like that and then expect him to wanna snuggle with you. You just damaged his ego, hit him where it hurt, he probably is trying to comprehend what the h**l just happened! Sit down and have a proper talk, let him say how he feels, reach an agreement where your both happy and then think about snuggles.

Answer 2

Appologise to him for having been 'a total *****' and tell him that you would like to make it up to him!  Then snuggle !

I dont think you are being kind nor fair to this man, though.  Unless you really have learnt your lessons and will coomunicate in a considerate way in the future!

Answer 3

You say he is treating you like a hang grenade...... by your own words ... You ARE a hand grenade, you have gone off more that once and he does not want to get hurt anymore. You need to make the first move. Sit down him and tell him you are sorry.. ( remember they are only words). It is going to take sometime, but you need to SHOW you are sorry also. If he get ups set at you... do not go off again, tell him he is right and you want to just start over. Just to let you know, if you are being a "total *****" and you both are just boyfriend and girlfriend... Why would he ever want to take it to the next level? If you want this to work out.. you need to change now..

Good luck..

p.s. You are on the right path... just by saying "you" were wrong... most people will not say that even if it is true....

Answer 4

Initiate another conversation, tell him you're sorry for being so abrupt with him, but you were just feeling frustrated.  Tell him you feel like you hold in all the things that are bothering you because you don't want to be a nag, but eventually they all just come out in a tirade!

This is so common in relationships!  You need to have quiet, calm conversations when these problems crop up or you'll continue to explode in frustration.  You don't have to nag, and you should NEVER reduce yourself to name calling.

He's probably feeling insecure now coz of the things you said.  You need to have a calm discussion to get everything out in the open.  Ask him what problems he is having and discuss it like mature adults.  Once everything has been cleared up, and you feel like you've made some kind of step towards solving the issues he will actually feel closer to you!

Then you can pounce on him! LOL

Good luck, and remember - regular communication is a major factor in maintaining a healthy relationship :)

Answer 5

quit being a psycho and he'll want to be affectionate with you.

Answer 6

just talk sweet to him and get s**y for him and drag him in the bed room

Answer 7

Take you clothes off and walk around in front of him naked. No need for words....let your body do all the talking!

Answer 8

Don't worry about getting s*x right off the bat. Snuggling is fine, but he might not want to be intimate right now because of his feelings being hurt. Guys have them too, as I'm sure you've found out the hard way.

Just start off by saying, "Hey, sorry for being so crazy lately... I realize I've been wrong and I hope you can forgive me."

Then spend the next few days pointing out things that he's done right or exceptionally well. Even little things like taking out the trash, if he doesn't do that normally.

Meanwhile, there must be some reason for all this hostility towards him. Do you have a problem with the way he acts? The way he talks? Or are you just over reacting to minor things? Figuring this out is the next step for you. That way, the next time you get mad you can be more productive about it. Instead of saying he's a c**p boyfriend, you can point out the real problem. For example,

"I really hate it when you talk about my sister like that. Please stop."

That kind of thing.

After a few days of stroking his ego, start stroking something else. ^_^

Remember, the key to making up after a fight is making the other person feel good about themselves again.  

Answer 9

When in doubt, whoop 'em out!  

Answer 10

Unzip and pull it out. Pavlovian theory takes care of the rest on her part.

Answer 11

APOLOGIZE. I wouldn't have s*x with you either. Let him know that you are sorry and that you over reacted. that should at least get the ball rolling. Sometimes life isn't all about you...give him some time. No one is like" I hate you...let's have s*x." I would run for the hills if I were him.

Answer 12

Start taking his clothes off and don't talk while your doing it.