How do you keep a marriage happy?

Question

I have been married for 11 years !! ( I am 33) and I feel like a lot of the "fun" and magic is totally lost. I love my husband, but I don't really feel Romantic type of love for him anymore... is that wrong? am I weird? what can I do ......??

Answer 1

I have been married for almost 9 years and I have learned that s*x is not the glue that holds a marriage together. In response to your question I recommend you first talk to your husband about how you feel, and work on this together as a couple. One of the things that my husband and I do is we try new things ( just Us) in bed and out of it, we try to not make it feel like such a routine. I also recommend some of the little things like a sweet text message just to show him you after all this time still care, going for a walk holding hands, etc. Depending on how busy you are career , family you really need to find what suits you both because the biggest thing a marriage is about is facing any issues or concerns that you each may have TOGETHER.

I hope this helps.

Answer 2

s*x it up more - or - making it more romatic takes dedication to build a nice habit; like touching him spontaneously,  kiss his neck randomly, ect.   I constantly work on that.  I'm afraid of us loosing "it"  that I make my effort even if I'm bored, not in the mood, ect.

Answer 3

I don't know sweetheart, I really don't know. It seems like when you've been married that long (I've been married for 9 years) you consider each other to be like a really comfortable pair of old boots. They're reliable, comfortable and a bit worn out. The boots will never have the same glamour or appeal as a new pair. I just think we have to keep the other partner guessing a bit. Change your hair, develop a new sexual perversion get a new wardrobe. But then again if I had the answer...............Good luck.

Answer 4

Honesty plays a big part be honest with him about your feeling and hear his side when you tell him you need to work together and trust plays an important part. tell each-other how you feel.(good luck)

Answer 5

I think a majority of marriages are the same way, and that's why over 50% of marriages end in divorce. I don't have any easy fix sorry. The one thing I will say is you have to do what makes you happy, life is too short not to be happy.

Answer 6

sounds to me like your just bored, i feel the same way sometimes, you and your husband need to find new things that make you happy, i bet everyday is the same at your house, you get up go to work come home go to bed and get up and do it all over again, maybe you should have a date night every week like my husband and i do, we alternate weeks on who decides what we are going to do and do things that you don't normally do, like i'm sure that yall go out to eat, but insted of the usuall place find somewhere new and pick a new place every week, go play putput golf or go cart racing (without kids) plan a weekend trip every 3 or 6 months just to have something to look forward to....i wish you all the best, you just need to freshen up your marriage not throw it away  

Answer 7

no its not wrong. and its not weird. maybe talk to him about how you feel.

Answer 8

Take my vacations its always fun  

Answer 9

remmeber when u fell in love wit him  

Answer 10

More s*x.

Answer 11

Get romantic again..  cuddle love each other.   YOU have to make it happen...

Answer 12

Compromise, do fun and interesting things. Don't let the fun and magic vanish!!! Next month, my wife and I are going sky diving. She said she was up for a challenge, so I am taking her sky diving! Good luck.

By the way, you're not weird. Lots of people feel that way, you just need to reconnect.

Oh and you look awesome at 33. I actually thought you were around 22.

Answer 13

The best thing you can do is not give up on your quest to rekindle things. Love and romance fades and flares for everyone. As long as there is effort from both parties it can be kept alive and well. The secret is to fall in love over and over through the years, always with the same person your spouse.